Author pensfan Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 What I see is that you have grown apart. I also think that she may have wanted you back only for the financial security. Have you sat down and discussed how you both feel? We try to, but I think that we both have a mental block, I see MC as our only hope. During arguments, she cannot stay on topic and she is like a bull dog. As soon as you feel you get your point across, she brings up something that made her mad 2 months ago. My problem is that I tend to get less articulate, and say something that isn't well thought out. And when you have to defend yourself on more than one topic, I start to get pissed and then say something that gets me in trouble again. The way I am is that I blow up on something, I vent and then it is over. I can be forgiving. With her, she does not let you know something bothers her until she can unleash everything all at once, but it is never over. She remembers something I said 5 years ago. Very frustrating. Link to post Share on other sites
twice_shy Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Why do the men always believe they will lose their kids? You're not the one at fault here. It doesn't matter. My attorney said I could have fought for custody, but unless she is clearly an unfit mother, not matter if I thought so or not because of her infidelity, that the chances of me getting the kids were slim to none. So I decided, what good would it do both of my kids to drag it through a huge custody battle, run both of us into debt, and I'd still probably lose custody? A wife could be the worst adulterer in the world. If she wants custody, she will get it unless she is s drug abuser, abuses the kids, etc. No matter how much I feel infidelity should cause the perpetrator to lose some rights in that regard, the courts don't see it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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