Darth Vader Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 The parents lawyers get to squabble over assets and financial settlements, but not over custody). Actually that's not entirely true! You hear of parents going for joint and sole custody all the time! Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Actually that's not entirely true! You hear of parents going for joint and sole custody all the time! Lots of people go for sole custody, usually to spite the other parent, but even the law sees that that is not usually in the best interest of the children... And joint custody is usually what you get, unless you have a grossly negligent parent... Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Lots of people go for sole custody, usually to spite the other parent, but even the law sees that that is not usually in the best interest of the children... And joint custody is usually what you get, unless you have a grossly negligent parent... That is also true! It just depends on the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Lots of people go for sole custody, usually to spite the other parent, but even the law sees that that is not usually in the best interest of the children... And joint custody is usually what you get, unless you have a grossly negligent parent... Well, had I chosen to take the course of D, instead of trying to work out my M, I would have went for sole custody of our kids. Not because of spite but due to the fact that the OW was unstable, very spiteful herself and did a piss poor job of raising her own kids, and she certainly wouldn't have been around mine to shove her venom down their throats. Besides that, her own xH was a drug addict and knowing this she still let them go to stay with him. That shows a deep disregard for her kids' welfare. She dumped them off at inlaws, friends, etc to accomodate her MMs' visits. My H wasn't the only one. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Huh? I really don't follow this logic at all! Why would a children's advocate recommend custody to a parent who was "living with drug dealers/users, alcoholics, molestors, porn addicts and so on", or who didn't "give a crap about the children"? I've never heard of any cases like that - and certainly not here! Thats because the WS hides the fact that their new lover does drugs. Case in point...my stbXW was granted custody and afterwards, moved her new lover in the apartment. I know this, but have no proof. Unless he or she gets busted, there is nothing I can do. I even went to my attorney and told him that I have without a doubt this guy is living with my kids...he said there is nothing I can do unless he gets busted. And all she would have to do is move him out if found out and say, "he is no longer living here". So my sitch is a prime example. Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 I'm really sorry about that, about your situation. That's sucks bigtime! It's wrong, wrong, wrong! That's what my point was about if I'd decided to get a D. I would have fought tooth and nail to get my kids fulltime. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Well, had I chosen to take the course of D, instead of trying to work out my M, I would have went for sole custody of our kids. Not because of spite but due to the fact that the OW was unstable, very spiteful herself and did a piss poor job of raising her own kids, and she certainly wouldn't have been around mine to shove her venom down their throats. Besides that, her own xH was a drug addict and knowing this she still let them go to stay with him. That shows a deep disregard for her kids' welfare. The OW is not your H and he has rights in visiting his children...You can go for sole custody, but the odds of getting it is very rare...Children need both their parents...In cases where someone is unstable it has to proved to the mediator and judge with evidence not heresay...her not violating a child support order actually shows she has regard for her children's right in seeing their father and her regard for the legal system...and Ex-addict? That means in the past...So I don't see how that has disregard for her children's welfare... Besides it sounds like you were following her around? Sounds a little stalkerish to me... And why should it matter if she allows her children to go to their relatives? If you have children, you have to stay home? Hello, that's why there's babysitters! But it's good that OW is not with your H still, because you are obviously unreasonable...and she'll have a much easier life... Most mothers get primary physical custody...The courts try to keep the environment most like what the children are used to...and usually, not always, that's with the mother... Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted October 27, 2007 Share Posted October 27, 2007 Unfortunately that's exactly what the mothers, who are WS's, play and prey upon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 The OW is not your H and he has rights in visiting his children...You can go for sole custody, but the odds of getting it is very rare...Children need both their parents...In cases where someone is unstable it has to proved to the mediator and judge with evidence not heresay...her not violating a child support order actually shows she has regard for her children's right in seeing their father and her regard for the legal system...and Ex-addict? That means in the past...So I don't see how that has disregard for her children's welfare... Besides it sounds like you were following her around? Sounds a little stalkerish to me... And why should it matter if she allows her children to go to their relatives? If you have children, you have to stay home? Hello, that's why there's babysitters! But it's good that OW is not with your H still, because you are obviously unreasonable...and she'll have a much easier life... Most mothers get primary physical custody...The courts try to keep the environment most like what the children are used to...and usually, not always, that's with the mother... No, not stalkerish, sorry, dear. OW's brother worked with H and he would come to work and complain about how crappy his sister was. He's the one who said she was living with her drug addict xH. He was then when she couldn't get any man to support her, financially, and she went back to that kind of life. One she dragged her kids back into. Not very good motherly instincts. She was as much an unfit parent as her xH. They neither deserved their kids. Yeah, it's good she's not with my H. He'd have done just like any other man (besides her addict xH)has done her. Dumped her sleazy butt after finding out what a sneaky POS she is. And I'm sure she's having a much easier life with all those black eyes and brawls she was getting into, last her brother told us. lol That's sure an easy life! But, then, she chooses to live it and put her kids through it, as well. Great mom material! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost4ever Posted October 30, 2007 Author Share Posted October 30, 2007 No, not stalkerish, sorry, dear. OW's brother worked with H and he would come to work and complain about how crappy his sister was. He's the one who said she was living with her drug addict xH. He was then when she couldn't get any man to support her, financially, and she went back to that kind of life. One she dragged her kids back into. Not very good motherly instincts. She was as much an unfit parent as her xH. They neither deserved their kids. Yeah, it's good she's not with my H. He'd have done just like any other man (besides her addict xH)has done her. Dumped her sleazy butt after finding out what a sneaky POS she is. And I'm sure she's having a much easier life with all those black eyes and brawls she was getting into, last her brother told us. lol That's sure an easy life! But, then, she chooses to live it and put her kids through it, as well. Great mom material! ok, Wow....and you were getting on me for being cold hearted???? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 Lots of people go for sole custody, usually to spite the other parent, but even the law sees that that is not usually in the best interest of the children... And joint custody is usually what you get, unless you have a grossly negligent parent... No, the courts do a poor job of regulating this. Trust me I lived it. You have zero control who your Ex puts your kids in contact with. If your not 1000% certain who is going to have access to the kids YOU GO FOR SOLE CUSTODY! Especially if your a guy! You want your stupid ex and her new 3 time molester BF watching your kids??? Nope! Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 ok, Wow....and you were getting on me for being cold hearted???? What? I should not have felt justified upon finding out about her (xOW's) misfortunes? I didn't cause her misfortunes to herself and her kids. You know, kinda like what the OW says about the BW of the MM she's screwin'? "I didn't M the W". Please. Cold hearted? Me? I call it justified. You know, what comes around goes around. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 No, the courts do a poor job of regulating this. Trust me I lived it. You have zero control who your Ex puts your kids in contact with. If your not 1000% certain who is going to have access to the kids YOU GO FOR SOLE CUSTODY! Especially if your a guy! You want your stupid ex and her new 3 time molester BF watching your kids??? Nope! Same here. That's why if I'd have D my H I would've went for sole custody. I would have done everything in my power to not allow him to have my kids around some sneaky whore who's druggy xH who was capable of violence (and we're talking guns), to put my kids in jeopardy. Link to post Share on other sites
Havn_a_life Posted October 30, 2007 Share Posted October 30, 2007 What? I should not have felt justified upon finding out about her (xOW's) misfortunes? I didn't cause her misfortunes to herself and her kids. You know, kinda like what the OW says about the BW of the MM she's screwin'? "I didn't M the W". Please. Cold hearted? Me? I call it justified. You know, what comes around goes around. lol Had to add that I feel really bad for her kids. they deserve so much better than what they're getting from their parents. I've alwaus thought this. Always. Link to post Share on other sites
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