Grim Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 ok is it wrong when a 40 yearold does an 18 yearold woman 40 boy 18 he made the first move
dbtmarley Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 Congrats for changing that boy into a man... someone had to do it!
Author Grim Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 Congrats for changing that boy into a man... someone had to do it! so far he is making all the moves. im letting him lead for now
Krytellan Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 What do you mean wrong??? Are you asking if you should punish him and call him a bad boy?
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 18 is almost prepubescent compared to a 40 year old. I don't get the attraction and I don't understand how an 18 year-old boy could possible lead, except ineptly.
Author Grim Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 What do you mean wrong??? Are you asking if you should punish him and call him a bad boy? well if thats what he wants he will have to ask 4 it 18 is almost prepubescent compared to a 40 year old. I don't get the attraction and I don't understand how an 18 year-old boy could possible lead, except ineptly. he is gorgeous and unblemished not tainted by life but well aware of what a woman wants
nittygritty Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 A 40 year old having sex with a teenager is wrong.
tinktronik Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 It sounds gross to me . An 18 year old boy is barely barely an adult .I think its gross and Im in a R with an older man.
Author Grim Posted August 10, 2007 Author Posted August 10, 2007 It sounds gross to me . An 18 year old boy is barely barely an adult .I think its gross and Im in a R with an older man. A 40 year old having sex with a teenager is wrong ok no sex that hasnt happened dont even think it will. i have my lines too. but loads off comeons and back chat like foreplay fully clothed
Tsuki no Michi Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 People have been having relationships with younger/older people for millenia and I doubt it will change anytime soon. While I personally don't see the attraction since they realistically have nothing in common other than perhaps basic interests, I am not going to condemn people for doing it. The obvious stereotypes being the dirty old man looking for a younger woman and the bored older housewife looking at the virile young man. To each their own I suppose, but the chances that it will ever be anything other than a physical attraction thing are slim at best. Still not sure I understand the Katherine Zeta Jones / Michael Douglas thing as he'll probably be dead by the time she's 45, but anyway. I guess being rich and famous has its own attraction, though from someone who has met them, they apparently actually work pretty well as a couple. Personally I would have written them off years ago, but that's me. TNM
dbtmarley Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I don't know why people are busting your chops. The only person who liable to have an issue with it is his mother who most likely think there is not a woman good enough for her boy. Both of you are in your sexual prime.... so whats to lose?
bish Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I think you are waaaaay to focused on having everyone in this forum pat you on the back for your supposed ability to attract young guys. I think you are in a midlife crisis and looking for validation, acceptance and reassurance from other people.
dbtmarley Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I think you are waaaaay to focused on having everyone in this forum pat you on the back for your supposed ability to attract young guys. I think you are in a midlife crisis and looking for validation, acceptance and reassurance from other people. Ahhh man, you mean there's a Lizzie#2?
nittygritty Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I think you are waaaaay to focused on having everyone in this forum pat you on the back for your supposed ability to attract young guys. I think you are in a midlife crisis and looking for validation, acceptance and reassurance from other people. I totally agree bish.
browneyedgirl66 Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 I am 40 and I have a 20 year old son, to me, it is disgusting.I am sorry to say it like that,but it is just wrong. I don't care if you are just cybering or little dirty talk in E mails, it is just wrong. And the comment you made about him making the first move, you are the adult ,him being 18 is still a child to me.
Trialbyfire Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 "Age in life" versus "Stage in life". If you're both of equal maturity and goals towards each other, I guess this would be okay. I don't know what the legal age is in the UK but I hope, for your sake, this is legal. I don't know. I still don't see the attraction of someone who's still wet behind the ears. I guess I like my men grown up, ept and a lot more smooth.
Yamaha Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 You must be very immature to even contemplate being with an 18 y old. Does it make you feel powerful to tempt this young man? You must have lived a very sheltered/dull life when you were a teenager and now you want to re-live that time frame. Are you proud of the fact that he is 18 and wants you? Any young guy wants sex, even with a 40 y old.
amerikajin Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 ok is it wrong when a 40 yearold does an 18 yearold woman 40 boy 18 he made the first move I would have given my right arm to have sex with a 40-year-old woman when I was 18. Assuming he's of majority in the jurisdiction he's/you're in, I say go for it, my lass.
amerikajin Posted August 10, 2007 Posted August 10, 2007 You must be very immature to even contemplate being with an 18 y old. Does it make you feel powerful to tempt this young man? You must have lived a very sheltered/dull life when you were a teenager and now you want to re-live that time frame. Are you proud of the fact that he is 18 and wants you? Any young guy wants sex, even with a 40 y old. Understand, Yammy, that I generally find you to be one of the more well-reasoned posters on this board, and you're not the only one who's voiced this opinion, so I'm not pickin' on you, mate, but I'll go ahead and choose this response to say "Come on, people! WTF?!" Look, if he's 18, he's 18. He may be a young adult, but he's an adult nevertheless. And I'm sorry, I don't understand what is so creepy about having sex with a consenting adult, however young or old they might be, whom you find sexually attractive; I just don't see the problem. My one caveat in this case is, if he's still in school, still living under mom's roof, then I would, out of respect for the parents, make sure that they're aware of what's going on here and that they're cool with it. Otherwise, go right ahead, Grim! Now, is this strapping young buck relationship material, and she for him? No, I seriously doubt it. But I would put this in the category of just fooling around and having some fun, and a lot of people do that once in a while. I would actually be a little more concerned if SHE were the 18 year old and he the 40-something because of concerns about an unplanned pregnancy, but I'm guessing that she can handle herself at 40, whatever she may decide. I just find it weird how people get all bent out of shape over all kinds of things that really don't matter all that much to the general population when it comes to sexual relations.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I agree with everything that Amerikajin said above. He said exactly what I was thinking. Both partners are legal (I assume 18 is legal in the UK, as in the US). We see sexual behavior that's far more deviant from the norm - and accept it, too. So I don't see a reason to collectively boo and jeer and be outraged by this one. If the OP was talking about a 14 year old, that would've definitely been something to be genuinely concerned about. Every individual has a different boundary of morality, and sometimes there's no right or wrong - just a difference in personal discretion.
Krytellan Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 Holy "Bash-a-girl-for-living-outside-your-ideals" Batman. When did everyone become the moral compass for all to follow? He's 18 Grim. If he didn't want to have sex with you, he would say so. He wants sex with you... every boy wants sex with an older woman. Enjoy yourself... I know he is
nittygritty Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 ok is it wrong when a 40 yearold does an 18 yearold woman 40 boy 18 ok no sex that hasnt happened dont even think it will. i have my lines too. I agree with Grim's description in her original post. woman 40 boy 18 Grim said "sex that hasn't happened" and that she has her lines too. Even she knows and agrees that its wrong, so there
Author Grim Posted August 11, 2007 Author Posted August 11, 2007 ok i knocked this on the head. turned out no amount of advice made it feel good. i ran like the wind. he now thinks im chicken. but i think i can deal with that better than any other decision it was a nice idea but best kept for fantasy dreams if ur that way inclined and seems im not
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 I'm glad to see you make this decision. 18 just seems so immature. I would say the same thing to a 40 year-old man and an 18 year-old girl. Now as for the 21 year-olds, they're still not for me but if you do like them young, at least this age is legal to go clubbing or drinking with and have had a little experience under...umm...their belt, yes, belt.
bish Posted August 11, 2007 Posted August 11, 2007 You must be very immature to even contemplate being with an 18 y old. I agree. I am 38 and I wouldn't be caught dead with an 18yo girl. And I agree that it has to do with her maturity level. The older I get the more I want someone my own age, someone I can grow old with. But even if I was only wanting a sexual fling, it wouldn't be with an 18 yo. I wouldn't even want to be with someone in their late 20's. Just like the Ratt song..."I want a woman, not some little girl"
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