werty Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 this is just a continuation of what i have posted before... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t108405/ ok things betweek us have been goin on straight up until June. but this was just like more of an office relationship because we are still hiding the relationship.but even so, we have done many things already like lovers would have done. had great romance/sex starting late May when we go close the office. everything has been ok, except for the usual fights we have, mainly because i was always asking her where do i stand, what is her take on me, a bf or really just the other man... etc etc June 17 came, she BROKE up with the guy. i was a bit happy, but somehow scared, because i know that the guys family will not stop just there. they will look for a fight. and i know, she cant stand on her own. so i told her how happy i was about her breaking up with him, and said that she should be prepared for the comeback, and stand firm on her decision. the day has come, just 2 days after. the guy's family/specifically his older sister is now making trouble, with her and her mother. someone has spread rumors about us, that there was a third party, thats why the breakup and it was me, and they are making this whole mess even bigger. we both denied it of course. and i fought back to that sister if him telling her why are you getting involved when suppose to be only her and your brother(the father's baby).they cant answer back, because they are the kind of people that talks and talks and never listens even if they really dont know what is happening.the day has past, and everything was silent, again... after that day, me and my girl are still doin things we usually do after work. hugs, kiss, show love to each other. etc etc etc. but she told me one terrible thing. she told me that even after the breakup, she cant do anything with the baby's father because he was persistent and dont wana breakup. so what happend, my girl and her mother agreed that they will let him do what he wants, even still sleep in their house because of the baby.things will be over, if its the guys who is really gona give up on this relationship.of course i was furious on this but she told me she cant stand on the breakup coz if she insist and puts up a wall between her and the baby's father, there will be toruble again. so they are hoping, if they dont give too much attention to the guy like before, he will just give up on the relationship and he will personally tell his family that he is tired and wants to give up now. of course, this said coming from my girl, would be just an excuse so i wont get mad or something... geezzzzzzzzz im giving her toooooooooo much break and im just acting blind even if i know she is stepping over me now.... now our last day of work would be June 30, for we will be transferring location. so we will probably have about 1 month of no work and we might not see each other. but she promised me that it will be no problem. that she will contact me and we will still see each other,no problem(mind u guys, she has not been fulfilling promises with me for a long time now). June 30 came, the last day of work. when work ended, as usual the goodbyes, hugs kisses. she said we will meet monday,promise and go to the mountains.i said ok. Monday came, no call or txt,no show(she doesnt have her own cell,its his brothers,but i can call and hopefully he will give it to her), just as i expected. the next day we saw each other. i asked what happend?she said sorry. she ddnt come blah blah blah (excuses).i got mad, but i ddnt show.i asked so when can we meet? she said she will just text. days past and no text, no call, no communication. then saturday came, she txt me getting something from me. i then called her.i was mad for not communicating with me for the past days like i was nobody. as usual, with her usual excuses again.i demanded her we nid to talk, really nid to talk.she promised, again, on tuesday, that would be July10. the day came, and again no SHOW.on the wednesday i called her again angrily, demanded we talk NOW or ill make trouble outside(me,her and the fathers baby are neighbors btw).she said ok ok, ill talk and met you today. later that day we met and talk. she said that she is sorry for everything she has done.she said she has been guarded after the breakup coz the people making trouble still up until now is looking proof that we both really had a relationship.she said that she knew she loves me,but she cant do anything. she cant stand on her own.that she has no power to go against them(the guys family,meaning its like she is letting them dictate what she would do). long story short because of her not showing any value to me, no matter what her excuses were, i ddnt accept them. for my reason is if you really love somebody,want and need him, you would be able to do anything to be with that person,no matter what obstacle that may block your way. after showing her how mad i am at her, for not giving me worth, for not being firm on her decision of breakup etcetc etc. i also asked her decision if she is gona stay with him, or leave him and be with me. she answered no to both.she said i dont know etc etc. showing signs of confusion because she cant really tell what she wants. and i hated it, when she is trying to say that she or they are doin this for the baby thing.... so after both of us talked, she said that i will never understand her situation, and its better if we just stop this. i said ok its your choice.she then said im goin home now. as she went for the door, i came down chasing after her, pulled her into my arms, hugged her tight and said, why are you doin this to me? were all you said about us, about how u love me, all lies? she then cried, tears fall as she said i have many sins against you.i dont want you to get involved of my trouble again.after a few minutes,after the tears fall, me made love.darn me. before goin home, i told her that whatever you do, do this not for me but for yourself and your own happiness.that it was you who told me you dont feel loved anymore there,why still stay there? and dont make the baby an excuse. i said its only you who can decide if you really wana keep me, or let me just go away.all i ever wanted from you is to know that your truely happy, even if its not me your with. ok since that day, i am YET to recieve a call or even txt from her. i can sometimes see her outside,but thats all i can do for now. each day that passes im starting to realise that i am really just nobody, until they both are still together. each day that passes, the pain of being ignored, and treated just like nobody after all the things i have done for her,is starting to diminish. each day that passes, it just makes me realise that i have done my best, and if she really wants me, needs me, she knows what to do,but im not gona be waiting or expect from it.even if we were not expecting it, this wil be a good space between us. now all am asking here now, is to help me deal with the situation. we will be starting working again about 2 weeks from now, and her being my sobordinate,it cant be helped that we will see each other,thats if she will still work there.lets just say she will, i was thinking of totally ignoring her,let her realise that i wasnt happy the way things that have been happening. if she tries to talk, ill way away. if she insists(like she used to) i will tell her that we got nothing to talk about,until you are still together. this will be my way of breaking up. i think you guys can imagine the situation already. i just want to hear from you guys what your take on this.or how will you handle the situation if it was you in my shoe. thanks... when you type in your replies, just dont hate me.. because i was just a man who feel inlove at the wrong person,at a wrong time....
Author werty Posted July 26, 2007 Author Posted July 26, 2007 MODS please delete this thread. i made another under THE OTHER MAN/WOMAN topic and i think it fits better there..
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