What do you men think about women who earn 6 figures a year?

[McFadden]

What would it be that makes the LS crowd different regarding views about money than the rest of the world? I'm not really sure what the rest of the world's views on money are but I would assume LS is diverse and would be a good representation. Even most people is Southern California are normal people, not just a bunch of money grubbers (not that I'm saying anyone is, just making a point.)

[sb129]

They do not consider the option that perhaps she makes even more than he does and wouldn't be impressed... They do not even consider that as a possibility. Therefor I think that it doesn't cross most men's minds that there IS a possibility that a woman, could possibly earn more than they do. I feel like the man usually ASSUMES he makes more than the woman does.

 

I really don't think people assume this nearly as much as you think they do CG

 

Flaunting makes you feel good.

 

Then you must feel great, cos you flaunt it 24-7 on here.

Quite frankly, its getting boring.

 

Do you have any interesting opinions on anything else? Or are you really that uni-dimensional?

 

 

I think that you are fascinated about what you make for all of us.

You seem really intent on letting everyone know how much you make.

 

Good for you. I'm sure we are all happy for you and its great to see someone who is very successful, as are most of us.

 

But is there really some reason you feel the need to bring this up all the time? Its starting to look somewhat arrogant and narcissistic.

 

True, true.

 

It seems like people have very low expectations and standards for women.

 

Who are these people? Most people on here are just as successful and driven with high standards just like you CG.

You keep saying this, and there is no evidence of it at all on LS here.

 

Most of the people you accuse of assuming stuff about you probably don't even give you the second thought you think they do.

 

I bought myself my first diamonds the other day because I did very well out of a particular business transaction. I love the way they sparkle and I admit, I have had some moments of unashamed materialism when admiring them.

 

But I don't find it necessary to get validation from everyone else on here ALL THE TIME about stuff like that.

 

In fact, I think its rather vulgar to show off about wealth.

 

I was embarrassed to even write about my new ring- but I just wanted to illustrate that yes, you can enjoy your material possessions, but is it necessary to go on about it so much?

 

I really don't get you CG, you crave respect and recognition, but all you get on here is a people going oh not this again, we get it you make alot of money, move on...:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: and ALOT of these icons........and people actually pity you... I would be embarrassed by that..

 

You strike me as really unhappy.

 

It would be nice if you could prove me wrong by talking about something that makes you happy that ISN'T money or possession based.

[cutegirl]

Who are these people?

 

Alphamale for one to start with. He seems to have low expectations and standards for women, although that shouldn't be surprising considering his nickname. There are others too but I can't recall them right now.

[Teacher's Pet]

Remember one thing.. all it takes is a down turn of things in your life and 6 months and you loss every thing you have..

 

Cherish what you have.. don't brag about it

 

I agree 100%.

 

Cutegirl, assuming money is the only thing of any importance to you, and it seems to be the only thing that makes you happy and gives you self-worth..

 

What if some freak occurance caused you to be completely broke? Would you suddenly be less of a person? In your own eyes, I'd say so.

 

Me? If I took everything I had and threw it on a craps table and lost, I'd still be the same guy.

 

Just an idiot for blowing all that money, but I'd still be the same, hard-working, decent member of society.

 

I am worth more than my possessions. Can you say the same about yourself?

 

-tp

rich beyond his wildest dreams, at least in his wildest dreams

[a4a]

I respect people with money as I am aware of the work it takes to earn it.

If they earned it in a respectable way.

 

My own family came from a mix of upper middle class and middle class.... now in the 7 figures. I actually helped to bring them to that level as a teen and young child working at the business.

 

I was taught you earn your own. I grew up buying things for myself.. I had to earn a car on my own, my own clothing, my own food..... yep my own food in our family home. If I wanted something I worked for it.

 

So yes I can respect a man or woman that has earned their money in a respectable way......

 

I do not respect shoddy overpaid actors, or infamous people, religious zealots stealing from the people, stupid rock stars, piss head politicians, or those that just are sucking off the family account. (hilton for example) Drug dealers do not have my respect. Slum lords..... dirtbags...rip off BSer's

 

I also have respect for people that spend their money in a way that is respectable. Material goods are fine... but if you are a 6 figure coke head.... no respect for you.

 

 

CG sounds like you are compensating for something that you might feel you come up short on? (not an attack but a chance for you to think about it)

 

Nothing wrong with being wealthy....... nothing. But being a wealthy jerk is not admirable. (not saying you are one)

[bish]

I think most men want to date women who make less than they do because they like to feel in power, feel like "the man", the breadwinner etc

 

As for me, I prefer men with less money because I feel like they are less likely to cheat due to the fact that they have less opportunity and options to cheat..

 

Then by your logic, you are a prime candidate to be a cheater. Since you make more, you have the options to cheat.

 

So money equals cheating? Now I've heard it all.

[bish]

It's already hard enough to find a man who doesn't cheat since the majority of men DO cheat.

 

Maybe the problem is you. I don't condone cheating and never have cheated in my life.

 

But maybe your attitude pushes them away....hmmmm?

[Steveto]

I don't know any person that at one point in their life did not worry what other people thought of them and wanted money, fame, power...I was in the exact same position as cutegirl. I really wanted people to notice that ya, I am making money, buying expensive things and travelling.

 

cutegirl..how often do you notice men that actually do think that you don't earn 6 figures and that you couldn't possibly earn that much or more? If I meet a woman that, doesn't come from old money and she makes 6 figures, I would have as much respect for them as a man because I know how hard it is to earn money. Maybe moreso because it is statistically true that men do earn more than women on average.

 

Five years down the road, you might have an entirely different opinion/outlook on life. I was exactly like you about 5 years ago...but I got there after hitting rock bottom..Then my life did a complete 180.

 

Anyway, you seem to be intelligent enough to invest your money, unlike myself..I always have to learn the hard way. I don't make as much as I used to, but more than average person and I have learned to respect people that know the "value of a dollar".

 

Now, I am much different than I was. I never flaunt what I have, not because I don't make as much, but because that's not the way I want to earn someone's respect/admiration. If someone looks down on me and thinks that I am not worthy because they believe I don't make as much as them (usually I do), they aren't worth knowing as far as I'm concerned. Snobby people annoy me, but if they want to go toe to toe..I say "bring it".

 

Oh...and just because I have money..I will NEVER cheat..if I do, I will end the relationship beforehand. I know what it's like to be cheated on and I'll never put anyone through that.

[riobikini]

re:

 

CG: " What do you men think about women who earn 6 figures a year? "

 

From a female point of view, I think adverstising it (if it's in the higher #'s) is pretty stupid.

 

CG, don't mean to be nasty -just to-the-point.

 

I think it's foolish for anyone to talk about their income (large or small), give specific info, and then expect to be treated exactly the same as before, especially, if you're meeting someone for the first time (remember you're making impressions/giving impressions and some things can weigh pretty heavy, if they're introduced right then).

 

It's just general human nature, I think -kind of like elementary school playground politics- that cause folks to be impressed by, or drawn to the person who seems only extraordinary because of their wealth, or material flash.

 

Surely, there's more there than money to love -but people are so easily led by wealth -even moderate wealth, if it provides enough comfort in lifestyle, perks, and you never have to worry about where the dough is coming from.

 

Sad though, that some can be so blind to the other types of wealth (the possibility of *real* love, for instance) offered by a decent person.

 

And certainly, there are more women with deeper pockets these days, higher paying jobs, and who hold their own very well financially-speaking.

 

But I think job-smart and money-smart should be supported with a little something extra: a big dose of social savvy when it comes to how to handle their wealth in dating and long-term relationships, and an emphasis on protecting it and keeping the numbers private, as needed.

 

Why am I kind of spotlighting the privacy and protection issue?

 

Because I've had quite enough experience with those who are only capable of loving you deeply -but only as deep as your pockets go (Smile).

 

-Rio

[mental_traveller]

I agree completely...people dont get rich from grinding it out in hard work, they get rich because they make an intelligent system that works on its own. Like a website business or something where you build a site and sit back and collect money once it's made.

 

Well, firstly it usually takes hard work to make a self-sustaining system. There are exceptions but normally it's not that easy to do, and takes commitment. Secondly, it's very rare to have a business that keeps chugging year after year without having to look after it. There is this thing called competition and the law of supply and demand - if something makes good money without much work required, then other people are not going to sit back and let you take all the dough; instead more and more people each year will come in and chase the same thing. That'll erode the profit margins, and cut into your income. If you just sit back twiddling your thumbs, you will most likely wake up in 5 years time to see your business under relentless assault from competitors, and it'll be almost too late to do anything about it. Far better to keep working hard and look for new avenues for growth & revenue, plough your profits into expansion or diversify into other investments like stocks, real estate etc. I've been self-employed since my early 20s and if there's one thing I've seen time and time again, it's that good times are not permanent, rather they come in cycles. When the going is good, you have to work your nuts off and really maximise your earnings during that period - because when the boom dies down, you have to work twice as hard to even make a fraction of the cash. The most common mistake first-time entrepreneurs make is to relax and put their feet up once they get initial success.

[Trialbyfire]

I'm of the belief that you shouldn't expand beyond your means to handle it effectively. Take your principal investment amount from the business and start building a separate portfolio of investments. Wash, rinse and repeat at personal preference intervals. Any further profit/income/revenues beyond this, you feed back into your business.

 

Diversification is a way to ensure for the bad times. None of this "all eggs in one basket" drama.

[cutegirl]

Maybe the problem is you. I don't condone cheating and never have cheated in my life.

 

But maybe your attitude pushes them away....hmmmm?

 

For people telling me it's my attitude that causes men to cheat, let me say : I HAVE NEVER BEEN CHEATED ON! (at least not YET, so far.)

 

I am merely taking the precautions in order to insure that it doesn't happen in the future. It hasn't happened yet!

 

When I say that "most men cheat", it's merely from what I have observed from my acquaintances and from I see happening to other people. Just about EVERY girl I know has been cheated on at some point, and most have gotten played A LOT.

[cutegirl]

I'm of the belief that you shouldn't expand beyond your means to handle it effectively. Take your principal investment amount from the business and start building a separate portfolio of investments. Wash, rinse and repeat at personal preference intervals. Any further profit/income/revenues beyond this, you feed back into your business.

 

Diversification is a way to ensure for the bad times. None of this "all eggs in one basket" drama.

 

Hello, this is what I just stated in some earlier posts in this thread. All I do is invest. My goal in life is to become wealthy and I already mentioned earlier that rich people don't work harder for their money, they work smarter and make their money work for them!

 

Average people : paycheck income

Wealthy people : portfolio income, real estate income, various self-sustaining businesses

 

Since my goal is to become rich I extensively read up and study about investing and invest of course!!

 

What makes you think I put all my eggs in one basket? I already KNOW that the key to building wealth is to invest...

[melodymatters]

Well thats great sweetie, keep reading keep investing. But remember : never explain, never complain.

 

The coolest people speak little, listen a lot, and don't get defensive.

[cutegirl]

Well thats great sweetie.

 

Thanks, "sweetie".

[Curmudgeon]

My only problem is that I don't have enough money yet, I'm still poor compared to all these bigwigs. Therefore I still have a long way to go.

 

And when you do have it, what then? Do you think it's going to make you happy? I don't. I think it's just going to permit you to be miserable and lonely more comfortably. Those are the common conditions of the shallow and materialistic.

 

By the way, I was raised in Newport Beach in the big OC during the 50s and 60s, on one of the islands. I was surrounded by and personally knew foremost actors and actresses, and other Hollywood luminaries as well as successful business people. Wealth was never flaunted or discussed. To have done so would have been extremely gauche.

 

For all their wealth, they had their problems too.

[Poboy]

Hello, this is what I just stated in some earlier posts in this thread. All I do is invest. My goal in life is to become wealthy and I already mentioned earlier that rich people don't work harder for their money, they work smarter and make their money work for them!

 

Average people : paycheck income

Wealthy people : portfolio income, real estate income, various self-sustaining businesses

 

Since my goal is to become rich I extensively read up and study about investing and invest of course!!

 

What makes you think I put all my eggs in one basket? I already KNOW that the key to building wealth is to invest...

 

rich people dont work harder ? they do initially. most succesful business people have put in insane number of hours initially at the begining of a setup.

 

while you have a nice plan and its great to have the financial security with all the investments , i say its trying to earn easy money . there is nothing bad about that , most of the people who want to be rich do that. but what makes these rich people different from the super rich and elite is that the richest of em all earn it straight out of business rather than investments... think about it.

 

there is a difference between being rich & succesful. if you read up a bit on the richest people ... they didnt set out with the aim of being rich , it was to be succesful for they know if they are successful , they will be rich. it should be success first , rich later rather than the other way around. to achieve sucess on that level , you have to think on that level. you can earn an x amount of money working at home alone or with a partner but if you want real deal success & richness , it has to be on the level of an organization with employees and a full fledged business departments.

 

if you are rich and think it will influence in finding the right kind of guy for you , you are wrong . for most of us , it doesnt matter who much the woman earns. all that matters is love and how much she cares for me , thats it. once you are rich, you are more in a vulnerable position to attract gold diggers and wrong kind of guys.

 

its great to be rich and in a powerful postion in life but it is also important to be humble and keep it seperate from the love & relationship aspect of life. when you start thinking that money and love life are dependent , you are going the wrong route.

[Green]

Well Im rich and I dont work hard for it, just comes easy

[Trialbyfire]

Hello, this is what I just stated in some earlier posts in this thread. All I do is invest. My goal in life is to become wealthy and I already mentioned earlier that rich people don't work harder for their money, they work smarter and make their money work for them!

 

Average people : paycheck income

Wealthy people : portfolio income, real estate income, various self-sustaining businesses

 

Since my goal is to become rich I extensively read up and study about investing and invest of course!!

 

What makes you think I put all my eggs in one basket? I already KNOW that the key to building wealth is to invest...

Read the post above mine...

 

Btw, the key is not to invest, it's to diversify investments...

[cutegirl]

Read the post above mine...

 

Btw, the key is not to invest, it's to diversify investments...

 

I am aware of that. Also, I did not solicit for investment advice. But thanks anyway.

[cutegirl]

rich people dont work harder ? they do initially. most succesful business people have put in insane number of hours initially at the begining of a setup.

 

while you have a nice plan and its great to have the financial security with all the investments , i say its trying to earn easy money . there is nothing bad about that , most of the people who want to be rich do that. but what makes these rich people different from the super rich and elite is that the richest of em all earn it straight out of business rather than investments... think about it.

 

there is a difference between being rich & succesful. if you read up a bit on the richest people ... they didnt set out with the aim of being rich , it was to be succesful for they know if they are successful , they will be rich. it should be success first , rich later rather than the other way around. to achieve sucess on that level , you have to think on that level. you can earn an x amount of money working at home alone or with a partner but if you want real deal success & richness , it has to be on the level of an organization with employees and a full fledged business departments.

 

if you are rich and think it will influence in finding the right kind of guy for you , you are wrong . for most of us , it doesnt matter who much the woman earns. all that matters is love and how much she cares for me , thats it. once you are rich, you are more in a vulnerable position to attract gold diggers and wrong kind of guys.

 

its great to be rich and in a powerful postion in life but it is also important to be humble and keep it seperate from the love & relationship aspect of life. when you start thinking that money and love life are dependent , you are going the wrong route.

 

You don't know my full plans. How do you know I don't plan on having a full fledged organization? As I stated before, I am not asking anyone for business advice, that's not what the original topic of this thread is about.

 

And what makes you think I started this thread because I am looking for the right guy? How do you know that I'm not already with someone. I was looking for a general consensus about what most men think about women who earn six figures, that doesn't necessarily mean that I would even WANT to date any of those men or any men at all, period. I only wanted to know what they THOUGHT, that does not mean I want to date them.

[cutegirl]

Read the post above mine...

 

Btw, the key is not to invest, it's to diversify investments...

 

This is basic information I already was aware of. Did you think this was something I wasn't aware of? I did not start this thread for business/advice.

[Trialbyfire]

I am aware of that. Also, I did not solicit for investment advice. But thanks anyway.

 

This is basic information I already was aware of. Did you think this was something I wasn't aware of? I did not start this thread for business/advice.

So what are you trying to tell me?

[Touche]

So what are you trying to tell me?

 

I think she's trying to say that she's not looking for investment advice!

 

And back on topic, CG. Here's the bottom line to your question..plain and simple.

 

You'll either find a man who doesn't give a rap about your income but only about your character and general attractiveness (is that a word?) or you'll find one is is VERY interested in your income.

 

So which one do you think is the more desirable and better man?

[Trialbyfire]

I think she's trying to say that she's not looking for investment advice!

 

And back on topic, CG. Here's the bottom line to your question..plain and simple.

 

You'll either find a man who doesn't give a rap about your income but only about your character and general attractiveness (is that a word?) or you'll find one is is VERY interested in your income.

 

So which one do you think is the more desirable and better man?

Thanks Touche. Text can be so difficult to interpret sometimes. I guess I needed all the body language, facial expressions and vocalizations associated, to truly get the gist of what she was communicating to me...

 

Now..back on topic, I find it hard to believe that any man would want anyone who demands respect through touting her salary. In reality, it's not respect she really wants. What she wants is control over her man. People who need to control are usually very insecure.

 

If you only have money to offer to the relationship table, that's a sad state of affairs.