Ckart18 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 This is the letter I plan on sending with flowers; I know it's probably stupid; just could use the support and hear it from you guys: Kim, Hope you like the Flying Unicorn; it occurred to me that it was the only thing you ever actually asked me for. It’s the real deal from Universal Studios, not the easiest thing to go about obtaining when your not there. The thing about traveling is that there is too much time to think while you wait for a plane, drive, or sit in line; therefore this letter. You were right about us moving way to fast. It’s fine if both people are on the same mental wave-length, but once shifted it is disastrous, with no real foundation to work off of. You are also right about us being different people. I personally thought we were very compatible and our differences complimented each other. I apologize for dragging this out; and won’t be bothering you anymore. Hope you don’t blame me for feeling like this and you take it as a compliment, I realize we’ve been together for such a short time; but we had some of the best times I can remember in years and I just miss all the times you would tell me how happy I made you. I just thought we could have talked things out, and I was very surprised about the suddenness of it all. I didn’t see it coming; just figured we were both tired and aggravated last week. I was in denial at first; probably still shocked as I have yet to cancel the Disney trip. To be honest I’m afraid of the choices I have to make soon in my life; and certainly did not want any negative feelings leaning me one way or the other. I need to find a location to live, decide a course of action with my business, and work a lot on myself. I’m afraid of the fact that it’s taken me close to ten years to meet someone who has impacted my life as much as you have. As horrible as it sounds the only happiness outside my family and friends before I met you were my finances and free-spirited way of life. After meeting you; I wouldn’t take all the money in the world not to reverse your feelings; and would be perfectly happy being poor the rest of my life with a smiling Kim by my side. It was very empowering to have someone as smart, funny, and attractive as you care about me; I took it for granted. It’s ironic how people don’t appreciate what they have until it’s gone. Again; I understand about what you said about there being no good way to break up with someone; I just had no idea that’s where you were. Nobody can help their feelings, and I respect yours; this is just the least abrasive way I can think of to let you know how I feel, say goodbye and come back at the same time. The fact of the matter is that since Florida; I can’t remember making you smile or happy; and for that I am sorry; and hope you don’t remember the ******* Charlie, rather the Charlie who respected and cherished you deeply. I wish the absolute best for you and your family; it was flattering and a great experience to get to meet everybody. Warmest Regards,
climbergirl Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Very nicely written letter, but nix the flowers. It seems kind of superfluous. So, what is the purpose of the letter and what was the reason for the break up? Sometimes it's better to write the letter, and puke all your feelings out w/o the intention of giving it to them.
Author Ckart18 Posted June 24, 2007 Author Posted June 24, 2007 It is all on my other post, pretty long though. Thanks again. CK
Tony T Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Print this out and tear it up. Don't ever, ever send it. This lady needs no explanation of anything. She could care less how you feel. All this should have been said at your very last meeting if there was one, or on the phone if you had a final conversation. If there is a mild chance of you getting back together with her, you will blow it with this. It indicates that you are still of the mentality of moving quickly in a direction that she doesn't want to go right now. I suggest you use this as a learning experience. Here are a few threads you might learn from. Some or all of them may be helpful to you...just DON'T SEND THAT LETTER!!!: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t100584/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t64038/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t105786/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t90737/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t61606/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t91750/ Good luck and get over it fast. There are just way too many ladies out there.
Walk Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 That has got to be the best "wish we hadn't broken up" letter I've ever read. If you sent that to me I'd be at your house in a heart beat.... However, if she broke up with you, then she did it for a reason. And maybe it's best to let things lie? I honestly think the gift is too much. Sounds like you went out of your way to get it, and it took a lot of effort and time on your part, but she's not going to see it as a "gift". She'll see it as a bribe to get her to come back. She won't be able to accept it as something simple, or innocent, or happy.
Author Ckart18 Posted June 25, 2007 Author Posted June 25, 2007 Printing it up tonight, probably send it this weekend; I have a three day boat trip planned with friends, so hopefully the thoughts will not consume my weekend. Thanks for the advice. Ck
Enema Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 Not one person here has said that you should send it. Keep that in mind when you get hurt more. Also, spelling/grammar check... it's pretty horrible.
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