Looks vs. Confidence

[jcster]

Anyone who is happy with who they are, is the most attractive person in the world.

 

Bingo! What else is confidence other than self knowledge coupled with self esteem and a dash of optimism? There's nothing more attractive than someone who knows and respects themself and doesn't feel the need to employ the myriad of self-protecting, manipulative strategies that the less secure cling to. I've known very good looking men that had very low self esteem - they (perhaps rightfully) mistrusted most people's reaction to them as shallow and insincere.

 

It all depends upon what one values. People who place a high value on money need money to feel confident. People who place a high value on looks need to be attractive to feel confident...and so on. I personally place a high value on integrity and self knowledge - and am attracted to those who get their confidence from those traits.

[StayClose]

Anyone who is happy with who they are, is the most attractive person in the world.

 

That's a nice quote to put on a poster of, say, a cute toddler playing at the beach, but that's not how the dynamics of adult male/female relationships work.

[jcster]

That's a nice quote to put on a poster of, say, a cute toddler playing at the beach, but that's not how the dynamics of adult male/female relationships work.

 

I don't think anyone here has written the book on the dynamics of relationships - but being happy with oneself is a pre-requisite for any fulfilling relationship. Every day we see (or experience) relationships built upon mutual need, and sad to say it's often a common motivator for hooking up with someone. That being said, neediness isn't attractive - even if it is effective.

[soulseeker]

That's a nice quote to put on a poster of, say, a cute toddler playing at the beach, but that's not how the dynamics of adult male/female relationships work.

 

In my world, that is exactly how it works. FYI I'm a 29 year old adult.

[halfarock]

I’m a good looking guy, athletic, beautiful hair, snappy dresser and all my life I’ve always had women, and girls, attracted to me, some greatly so, even when I was younger and a lot less confident then I am now. Now days, after successes in athletic, intellectual, professional, and social pursuits I am very confident in whom I am and the things I do – to the point of being vain, I suppose. It’s only been more recent that I’ve realized and have become very confident in my ability to interact with women in a way that gets inside of their head and emotions.

 

Whatever one can say about whatever it is that I do that makes many women like me, none of it works unless the woman is looking at me. And, they are only looking at me because they like what they see.