chill chic Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 For people with myspace, as you know you can set your profile to private, so the public doesn't view it. Well mine has been set to private ever since I got myspace and for a few days it's been set to public without me knowing it!!! How is that possible?!! I KNOW I shouldn't have gotten myspace in the first place, but this is what's making me scared & worried. I just got a request from my ex bf from 2 years ago, that was psycho and jealous. Now I'm fearing because he saw ALL of my stuff, ALL of my friends, AND isn't there a way you can message people without being their friends? Because I'm scared that he may have messaged people on my myspace page, especially guys. Uh this makes me sick I'm starting to think that he did message guys on my page, and who knows what he would've said
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Chill out. You broke up 2 years ago. I doubt he cares enough to send random people he doesn't know messages to talk sh*t about you.
Tony T Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I wouldn't give it another thought. So if your ex writes or texts all your friends, it just makes him look like a nerd. It says nothing about you. If your information has actually been compromised, which you aren't sure of since you don't know if anybody accessed it or not, there's no real point in worrying yourself. If it did happen, no need to worry either because it's done. So relax. What's the worst that could happen? Many people got blown to bits in Iraq today and you're still alive and in one piece. Just think about that the next time you worry about a few people seeing your stuff on myspace. If the worst thing that happened to you today is a few people seeing your personal stuff on myspace, I think you're in pretty good shape. Be careful next time...and change your password immediately.
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I tried to edit my post to include this, but Tony's post beat me to it: I mean this with as much big-sisterly love as possible: Your MySpace doesn't have any information on it that your ex wouldn't already know about. He surely knows who your friends are to begin with. Even assuming he does send some random message to someone, how would that make YOU look bad? It wouldn't. It would make HIM look loco in la cabeza. Aside from this minor MySpace issue, you're being a little bit of a drama queen, CC, in how you handle relationships. I hate to use this phrase, but you really outta try going with the flow. Stop worrying, overanalyzing, and stressing over tiny details. You'll drive yourself, and every guy you meet, nutty.
Author chill chic Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 Chill out. You broke up 2 years ago. I doubt he cares enough to send random people he doesn't know messages to talk sh*t about you. I would hope to think so, he was really psycho and jealous, so I wouldn't want him to scare off my friends in any way if they know I used to have to deal with a psycho. Sorry he just gets me really worked up.
Author chill chic Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 I wouldn't give it another thought. So if your ex writes or texts all your friends, it just makes him look like a nerd. It says nothing about you. If your information has actually been compromised, which you aren't sure of since you don't know if anybody accessed it or not, there's no real point in worrying yourself. If it did happen, no need to worry either because it's done. So relax. What's the worst that could happen? Many people got blown to bits in Iraq today and you're still alive and in one piece. Just think about that the next time you worry about a few people seeing your stuff on myspace. If the worst thing that happened to you today is a few people seeing your personal stuff on myspace, I think you're in pretty good shape. Be careful next time...and change your password immediately. password changed you're right, I need to worry about more important things in life and keep in mind that people are being killed in Iraq and all over the world everyday, so the petty things shouldn't bother me. I just had a little freak out because it was weird that no one was messaging me for a few days, so I just jumped to conclusions that he might have did something that's all.
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I would hope to think so, he was really psycho and jealous, so I wouldn't want him to scare off my friends in any way if they know I used to have to deal with a psycho. Sorry he just gets me really worked up. What makes you think you'd lose your friends if they knew you had a psycho ex??
Author chill chic Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 I tried to edit my post to include this, but Tony's post beat me to it: I mean this with as much big-sisterly love as possible: Your MySpace doesn't have any information on it that your ex wouldn't already know about. He surely knows who your friends are to begin with. Even assuming he does send some random message to someone, how would that make YOU look bad? It wouldn't. It would make HIM look loco in la cabeza. Aside from this minor MySpace issue, you're being a little bit of a drama queen, CC, in how you handle relationships. I hate to use this phrase, but you really outta try going with the flow. Stop worrying, overanalyzing, and stressing over tiny details. You'll drive yourself, and every guy you meet, nutty. Well actually I haven't talked or seen my psycho ex for 2 years when I left him. He was abusive, controlling and jealous. He didn't know the friends that I've made since I left him, only a select few that he knew that I'm still friends with. And that's true about if he did message them, it wouldn't make ME look bad but HIM. and yes he'd look very crazy if he did. I just don't want that to scare anyone to not hang out with me or something, like my guy friends if they knew if they hung out with me, they have to deal with a pyscho ex or something. I dunno, just thinking all different thoughts right now well I do believe I need to take some chill pills, because I am very analytical and overly worrysome, I've always been like that, but when it comes to a psycho ex, it really gets me freaked out.
Author chill chic Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 What makes you think you'd lose your friends if they knew you had a psycho ex?? I don't know I guess certain people wouldn't want to be around someone that had an ex bf like they fear from themselves, regarding my guy friends anyway. I don't know that's just my thought though. I guess alot of people have psycho ex's so I shouldn't take this out of context but he was abusive and I had blocked him out of my mind awhile back, now that he's back in my mind, it's making me act like this
Star Gazer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 CC, you are very, very, very insecure in general if you're so worked up that you honestly think some crazy a-hole can message your friends and make them not want to be friends with you anymore. If they are real friends, nothing this jerk could ever say to them would change that. An abusive relationship can destroy your self-esteem. Have you sought out someone to talk to about this - as in a paid professional? I'm a huge fan of therapy.
Trialbyfire Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I'm in ur myspace, messaging all ur frenz.. Stop it CC. Stop getting yourself into these frenzies over things that don't matter. If your friends judge you by an old b/f from two years ago, you need new friends. Think about when you get messages from complete strangers. Do you take them seriously too?
che_jesse Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Seems like theres something in your life that needs changeing if everything about you and all your friends can be tracked down through myspace. But two things: * If your friends leave you because of an ex they suck as friends. * You have not talked to this guy in two years, how do you know he cares enough to bother online stalking you?
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