zoe1983 Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 so my boyfriend and i technically live seperately. He is 22 and I am 23. We have been together for almost three years and we have had fights and stuff but never anything too major. Anyways since about january he has been living on his own and I have been basically staying with him everynight. Some of my stuff is at his place but not all of it. I just finished school so now my parents are making me pay rent on the condo i live in since they own it. My boyfriend and I can't move in together officallly until he finishes school next spring because his parents pay for his place while he is in school. Once he gets out we plan on getting our own place and getting married. He even says he wishes we could do it sooner but we both know we need to get our education and be able to support ourselves first. So anyways here is the question....my mom suggested that since im over at my bf's place all the time anyways I should just get a storage unit for all my stuff still at my place and bascially live with my boyfriend. It would be much cheaper than paying my parents rent and i already told my mom that I would have to stay at the condo when my bf's family comes because they are really religious and she was cool with that. (Also, my mom usually hates my bfs and has very high expectations of me and stuff so her suggesting this is a big deal.) Anyways his parents basically already know i live with my bf though and just pretend they don't. They really really like me and I don't think they really mind although I still feel a bit guilty. Anyways....is this a good idea? We have bascially been living together since january anyways and we fight less when we live together actually. I guess since most of our fights before were about not spending enough time together and were he was. So far living together is great...we rarely fight and actually still act like we just met all mushy and stuff. so bascially is it a good idea for me to make the big move and put my stuff in storage and totally commit to living at his place? Also we do plan on marrying once he finishes school and gets a job but there wont bet be any ring untill he graduates and gets a job.
Apple Blossom Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I think that for your mum to suggest something like this, especially if she normaly isn't keen on your boyfriends, says a lot about the relationship between you and your boyfriend. Obviously she feels that you two are in t for the long run. Movng in with someone is a pretty big commitment (obviously! lol!). I think what your mum is suggesting sounds like a good idea. You could almost use it as a trial period, for living together. If it doesn't work out quite as well as you'd hoped, then at least you haven't commited to a joint rent/mortgage and so on. I would say however, that you should make sure your boyfriends' parents are ok with this. If you are forced to lie about living together, even if only for a while, it would put unecissary strain on the relationship. But so long as everyone is fine about it, I would say go for it, use it as a test run before you get your own place together, and enjoy it!
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