Johnny Rockets Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 On NYE my girlfriend and I had plans w/ another couple to go out to dinner and have some drinks, and then meet up w/ some other friends after we have a relaxing time together... Well my girlfriend decides to invite her sister and her sisters 5 friends along, and her sister and I do not get along, which my girl knows... So once I find out that the sister and her friends are invited to our dinner, which was planned for the 4 of us, I decide that now that the plans are changed, I don't wanna go b/c I feel uncomfortable and wanted just to have a nice realxing night, as did the other couple who also decided not to go.. Her sister is just really rude and outta control when she drinks, so our nice "double date" for the evening was ruined.. The other couple was pretty upset b/c they too know how the sister can be, and that our plans were changed. So I explain to my girl in a clam manner that since the plans are changed, and that the sister and I don't get along, that I no longer wanna be apart of the nights festivties.. And the other couple informs her that they too do not wanna go b/c the plans are changed. So I stay in and she decied to go w/ her sister and her sisters friends She gets mad at me, as I expected, but I think I have some validity to my reasoning. So we talked yesterday, and she has told me that she thinks that it's better off if we stop talking for now. Is this fair that she resorts to a breakup over this issue? I don't know what to do, she has made me feel horrible over this, and then she leaves me, is this fair.. Any input would help.. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Rockets Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 And for the record, i feel horrible b/c I wanted to be w/ her on NYE and I wasnt.. I totally feel for her, i really do, but everytime her sister and I hang out, its a disaster, and has been for over a year now. Link to post Share on other sites
Bizzit Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 Hello Sweets, I dont have a degree so it probley wouldnt be fair for me to really give you the advice your looking for but i can give you my OP. I think that mabey she might of been trying to look for away to do what she wanted to do and that was get you in a corner and then let the slack out a little bit with this. I agree that you and her should of been together on new years after all it is suppost to be spent with the one you love or most of us see it that way. I wander if she just wanted to party and have a good time. You sound like your a laid back type of man that dont like to have a hugh party and be noticed by others. Not meaning that in a bad way at all... I just think that mabey she was looking for excitement for the night in a way of hanging out with friends or others. If you dont mind me asking how old is she? Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 You and the other couple had plans. I can see inviting someone else along if they didn't have anything else to do and were alone. However, her sister had five friends she could have done something with. I think she just wanted to spend NYE with her sister - not you - and that it says something about how she feels about the relationship. Sorry you had to find out this way. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 There are no 'fairness guarantees' in life so that is a moot question. With only the info in your post to go on, I would hazard a guess that there was a lot more than this one issue behind the breakup. Love hurts, but you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, so you might as well start this year off fresh and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted January 3, 2003 Share Posted January 3, 2003 She was rude to invite other people along. However, I'm wondering how your other friends know about how bad her sister is...is it bc you confide in them? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Rockets Posted January 7, 2003 Share Posted January 7, 2003 Originally posted by Ally Boo She was rude to invite other people along. However, I'm wondering how your other friends know about how bad her sister is...is it bc you confide in them? The other couple has been friends w/ my girl longer than I have, so they have known about her sister's ways for a long time... Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Rockets Posted January 7, 2003 Share Posted January 7, 2003 Originally posted by pit Hello Sweets, I dont have a degree so it probley wouldnt be fair for me to really give you the advice your looking for but i can give you my OP. I think that mabey she might of been trying to look for away to do what she wanted to do and that was get you in a corner and then let the slack out a little bit with this. I agree that you and her should of been together on new years after all it is suppost to be spent with the one you love or most of us see it that way. I wander if she just wanted to party and have a good time. You sound like your a laid back type of man that dont like to have a hugh party and be noticed by others. Not meaning that in a bad way at all... I just think that mabey she was looking for excitement for the night in a way of hanging out with friends or others. If you dont mind me asking how old is she? My now X-girl is 26.. Where not that young where partying on Nye is something new... We had a long talk on Sunday and we are all through, we came to a mutual decision, and we have gone our seperate ways NOT on bad terms, which makes me happy, b./c I do care for her, but we feel as tho we just can't get it right...I wished her luck in whatever it is she decides in life, and that told her that I loved her, Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted January 20, 2003 Share Posted January 20, 2003 hey there johnny... i was in the same situation as you except the sis supposedly didn't have anything or anyone to go with. We don't get along that well and the point of this is that she has broken up with me regardless whether or not that is the reason. Now...where i am now is she told me she needs time and i don't know what to do. I love her so much and want her back but don't want to be a pain in the a@@. Anyways.... Wondering if you or anyone had any insights on whether or not i should call or stop by. She told me she loves me very much but needs time alone. How long do i wait? Do i wait at all??? I don't really deserve to be like this... so anyone have any ideas ...johnny....anyone.............. help!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Rockets Posted January 22, 2003 Share Posted January 22, 2003 Originally posted by mewbomb hey there johnny... i was in the same situation as you except the sis supposedly didn't have anything or anyone to go with. We don't get along that well and the point of this is that she has broken up with me regardless whether or not that is the reason. Now...where i am now is she told me she needs time and i don't know what to do. I love her so much and want her back but don't want to be a pain in the a@@. Anyways.... Wondering if you or anyone had any insights on whether or not i should call or stop by. She told me she loves me very much but needs time alone. How long do i wait? Do i wait at all??? I don't really deserve to be like this... so anyone have any ideas ...johnny....anyone.............. help!!!!!!! Hey there, I would give her a call, explain your situtaion.. My girl actually called me a few days later, and asked me to try and work things out,.. You only live once, and you know in your heart that this girl makes you happy, then go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted January 22, 2003 Share Posted January 22, 2003 i gave her a call the other day... explained my situation and it's obvious that either.. a:it hasn't been enough time for her to miss me or think about whatever it is thats bothering her. or b:she really doesn't want to be with me. Now...if she says she loves me and finds it so hard to even talk to me... well....that tells me something... Also, instead of not answering my calls anymore she wants to keep the "lines" open... but hey.. im not gonna call..i have told her what i needed to, NOW ITS HER TURN...and if she doesn't i know the answer and have to deal with it!!! WE WILL SEE WHAT HAPPENS!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted January 22, 2003 Share Posted January 22, 2003 I noticed you said she called. HMM...well.. hopefully you will work it out and Hopefully i will do the same...i really care about and love her. She will miss that... rub some of yer luck on me!!! Link to post Share on other sites
johnny rockets Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Thanks Mewbomb, I hope the same for you, just keep your guard up, and sometimes make a sacrifice even if it's not the most comfortable situation, it shows you care for your woman, thats what I am going to have to start doing. Being mature when needed is my plan, to make my woman happy, but don't sacrifice your happiness at any cost. Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 and thats why im not going to sit here and wait for her. I don't know how or for how long i will do this. But i will wait for a while. Call, and see what happens. I do love her lots...so... i don't want to just give up. Thats why i called. I must say i did feel better after i called, although, nothing came of it. Just my conscious felt a little better. To be honest, will i take her back??? I don't know... but i sure do miss her!@ Link to post Share on other sites
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