confuseddd Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 How do you know it's over? Read my post earlier from this link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1361056#post1361056 I finally did tell him how he was making me feel, now he tries to be "nice" and it still doesn't do anything for me, in fact, it FREAKING annoys me! Here's the thing that sticks out to me. I never thought I wanted children, evan after a miscarriage. But I'm beginning to feel it is just that I don't want to have children with HIM! Why would I want a child to be treated like I am. In fact, I REALLY DO want to have a baby...but I just CANNOT do it with him, no matter how much that hurts him. God, please someone help me
whichwayisup Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Honestly, if you can't stand your husband, and that's what it sounds like, then get divorced. You want to have children, but not with him. That says alot. I have to ask though, did you and your H go to marriage counselling? Did you confess about the OM? I guess I need to ask if the OM is still in your life.
Author confuseddd Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 I know, the kid thing has been a real revealation (sp?). I do realize that I do want kids, just not with him. It's his personality that drives me up the wall...so overbearing. I am going for counseling Tuesday for my first appointment. I don't want to do anything rash until I get more unbiased info. This is just so hard! We have been together for 15 years, married for 11. The other guy is in the picture a little. He won't have much to do with me because I'm married. I respect that SO much. However, I do know that he is not really the "answer". I am not going to want to jump back into some relationship if our marriage does head south. I think I am going to need some time alone. Still, though, honestly, he is a bright spot in my mixed up life. He is just so opposite of my hubby. Thankfully, I am heading out on a road trip for a week to visit my brother, Wed, the day after I go for counseling. It should do me good to be away from hubby. I guess maybe I want to see if I miss him. Thank you so much for your reply. I have read a lot of your posts and you seem to have a lot of wisdom! Thanks again for your patience.
Curmudgeon Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 How do you know it's over? Read my post earlier from this link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1361056#post1361056 I finally did tell him how he was making me feel, now he tries to be "nice" and it still doesn't do anything for me, in fact, it FREAKING annoys me! Here's the thing that sticks out to me. I never thought I wanted children, evan after a miscarriage. But I'm beginning to feel it is just that I don't want to have children with HIM! Why would I want a child to be treated like I am. In fact, I REALLY DO want to have a baby...but I just CANNOT do it with him, no matter how much that hurts him. God, please someone help me It's been eight months since you first posted about all this, to include your "friend." If nothing's changed it has to be because you haven't forced it to. You've simply let the status quo prevail. Past time you did somehting affrirmative either to save the marriage and make it better or to admit that neither your husband nor your marriage meet your needs and leave as gracefully as you can. He appears to be trying. You don't even like that. It says a lot!
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