shadowplay Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 The irony is I started the last thread because I was worried the guy I was seeing had lost interest and now I'm worried that he's TOO interested. Here's the old thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=126361 So in the last two times I've seen him since he came back, he's come on really strong, almost too strong. Suddenly he seems totally infatuated with me, almost giddy. He sent me two emails today in which he said he's scared because he's falling for me and he wants to keep that emotion in check so it doesn't get totally out of hand. He said he has a tendency to put girls on pedestals and make them inaccessible. His mother is bipolar and he seems to have inherited a touch of her mania. While I appreciate his honesty, I was disturbed by the content of his confession. I don't really want to be put on a pedestal. Guys always seem to put me on pedestals and it makes me feel like its not really about me, but some false image I inadvertently project (I guess I come off as a bit aloof and chilly) or they project onto me. So is this a major red flag? I really, really like him but I'm worried about this whole pedestal business and how it will interfere with our relationship. I don't know what to do.
VIP Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 This is just another way of saying that he is in love with you. I think it's a good sign, not a red flag (that's if you want to be loved of course).
KingCrimson Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I dont know the whole story, but I just skimmed some threads you made, so I'm assuming it's the same guy who you said you met in class, had some initial flakiness (on both sides), and he was nervous too? Well... from a guy's perspective he was probably just thinking YOU weren't interested, especially from that thread you just linked above. So he did what seems logical to most guys. He told you how he felt, thinking it wouldn't scare you off. Here's probably what raced through his mind: "Hey, I'm starting to like this girl. I hope she doesn't think I'm not interested, or goes for this other guy. Let me tell her how I feel. In fact, if I appear sensitive and TOO honest, she might actually fall for me too!"
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