Asking office girls out

Hi, I've started a new office job recently at my city's CBD and I've been noticing all the girls in business wear and whatnot! I've been use to approaching girls on my uni campus but I'm a little intimidated by these girls. Everything is just so fast paced... And for some reason, I think they'll be more aggressive, and really shoot me down.

For those girls who work in offices and are in this sort of lifestyle, how do you feel about guys approaching you, say, while you're on lunch break or working to/from work? Any advice on how to approach these girls?

I refuse to date men I work with.

The job market is tight these days. I won't crap where I eat.

I'd suggest you stay away from it. It could be as simple as a 'no' followed by some uncomfortableness to something as complex as a sexual harassment claim.

The women in this thread aren't giving the entire truth. What they mean to say they won't have sex with a coworker who makes equal to or less than what they make. However, I'm sure most women would be willing to have sex with an executive who makes significantly more than they do.

The other type of women who will do office sex are older women, preferrably with younger men. They seem to get off on having sex with men at their job who they outrank.

I don't agree. I think work is a great place o meet someone and know of many couples who have met that way. It could be a cultural thing with my company but I would guess at least 15 percent of my coworkers met their spouse here - and many have been working together for many years since.

I have dated several coworkers and the only time it became any kind of issue was when I picked one whose psycho ex worked withbus too. And even then the issue was with her, not him and I after we broke up.

Just stick to non crazy people and be mature about it.

Im sorry I didn't make it clear I meant asking out girls from other companies that I see around, not girls within my own firm. So the girls I see walking around during lunch, or walking to work. With uni, it's more casual, but with this... I haven't asked a girl out who was in businesswear before:p and was wondering whether any girls have been randomly approached by guys and how best for a guy to go about it?

There are girls I find attractive in my office but I don't anything to jeopardize my job, so I wouldn't ask any girls out from my office, unless I was about to leave the firm.

Today after work I headed to a bar where my colleagues went and there were heaps of gorgeous girls. Thing is I don't usually approach girls at bars but I'm very tempted to. I'm not sure how to go about it... or maybe I should just stick to approaching girls on my uni campus?

Lately I've just been feeling very sexually frustrated and feel the urge to do something about it. Any advice? By the way, I've never had sex before.

So you're like a kid in his first candy store? Everywhere you look is the forbidden fruit you're so desperate to get a taste of...

First off, calm the hell down. It may be called the human race, but no one's really running for the finish line. I would hazard a guess that most of these ladies have been hit on before from all kinds, so any attempt from someone who's unsure will just be totally destroyed instantly and your ego will take a battering. You may never speak to one again!

Plus, you have to remember that mixing business with pleasure can often go so wrong, especially when emotions are involved. Just look around here for all those poor souls who have to work with their ex's.

However, to may be help you along I would simply suggest you act natural - talk to the females as you would the males. Be polite and friendly. Don't see them as a potential v-card remover, but just see them as someone you work with and want to talk to. As much as men like the thrill of the hunt, so do women. We all want a little challenge and like to get what we think we can't have. Basically, if it's too easy, it's boring.

Get to know people and let yourself be known around the place so you're not a stranger before you even talk to them. Being polite and funny often is just the perfect ice breaker, so if you see them in passing, say hi but leave it at that unless they start up a conversation.

Overall, take your time.

It's like a joke I once heard: two bulls overlooking a field of cows and the younger bull turns to the older wiser bull and says "hey, see those cows, lets charge down there and have one". The older bull turns to his younger friend and says "no, lets walk down and have them all."

I agree, this is new territory for me... and little taunting to be honest, so my ego would take a battering if it turns out less than ideal.

However, I wouldn't date any girl or even try to in my office... it'll just complicate things. I'm thinking more about other girls who work for other firms. I've been use to the uni dating lifestyle, which is pretty casual but this seems more formal. I get the feeling there's a lot of 'status' involved.

But you're right, I'll be friendly and polite and just take it easy. But I'm just wondering what would be a good ice breaker for say a random cute girl I saw walking down the street during lunch time? I'm not sure how the professional dating world works...

There's no easy answer. I worked on Wall Street in NYC for many years and you can't tell from attire who is whom and what is what. It does matter how you appear so I strongly urge that you dress like an adult who knows who he is. That doesn't guaranty anything, it just proved to be true to me. I was once on a subway dressed nicely in a blue double-breasted and I heard this woman across from me turn to her female friend and say about me "now that's the way a man SHOULD look". I felt fantastic. But I went to a presentation a week or two later where I interacted with someone I found very attractive and the first moment I opened my mouth to be personable and ask if she'd maybe like to have lunch, she snarled "gimme a break" at me. That's life in the big city. Just keep dressing for success and assert yourself and don't take the hits to much to heart. There are a lot of stuck up people in those big offices and they don't wear signs that say so.

It's like a joke I once heard: two bulls overlooking a field of cows and the younger bull turns to the older wiser bull and says "hey, see those cows, lets charge down there and have one". The older bull turns to his younger friend and says "no, lets walk down and have them all."

Awesome. That about sums it up. Are you listening Counterman? That is your p*ssy goldmine advice right there.

Of course once you're done sewing your wild bull oats you'll likely be happiest focusing your attention and energy down to one particularly special cow of your choosing. Just sayin'.

There's no easy answer. I worked on Wall Street in NYC for many years and you can't tell from attire who is whom and what is what. It does matter how you appear so I strongly urge that you dress like an adult who knows who he is. That doesn't guaranty anything, it just proved to be true to me. I was once on a subway dressed nicely in a blue double-breasted and I heard this woman across from me turn to her female friend and say about me "now that's the way a man SHOULD look". I felt fantastic. But I went to a presentation a week or two later where I interacted with someone I found very attractive and the first moment I opened my mouth to be personable and ask if she'd maybe like to have lunch, she snarled "gimme a break" at me. That's life in the big city. Just keep dressing for success and assert yourself and don't take the hits to much to heart. There are a lot of stuck up people in those big offices and they don't wear signs that say so.

That's how I imagine it to be, just ruthless. I get the impression that these girls would just shoot guys down straight away. I feel awesome dressing in my slacks and business shirt and extremely confident but not confident enough to approach one of these girls and just ask her out. First of all, I'm not of a high position, as I've just started out...Second, as you said, there are a lot of stuck up people, I'll go as far to say that there are a lot of pretentious people as well. So, I'm a bit wary about approaching these girls. I might just stick to my uni campus.

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Originally Posted by smudge21

It's like a joke I once heard: two bulls overlooking a field of cows and the younger bull turns to the older wiser bull and says "hey, see those cows, lets charge down there and have one". The older bull turns to his younger friend and says "no, lets walk down and have them all."

 

Awesome. That about sums it up. Are you listening Counterman? That is your p*ssy goldmine advice right there.

 

Of course once you're done sewing your wild bull oats you'll likely be happiest focusing your attention and energy down to one particularly special cow of your choosing. Just sayin'.

That was a good story, but I'm still learning to 'walk' I guess

I would be ecstatic to have someone to focus on but, of course, not just anyone.

That's how I imagine it to be, just ruthless. I get the impression that these girls would just shoot guys down straight away. I feel awesome dressing in my slacks and business shirt and extremely confident but not confident enough to approach one of these girls and just ask her out. First of all, I'm not of a high position, as I've just started out...Second, as you said, there are a lot of stuck up people, I'll go as far to say that there are a lot of pretentious people as well. So, I'm a bit wary about approaching these girls. I might just stick to my uni campus.

 

 

 

That was a good story, but I'm still learning to 'walk' I guess

 

I would be ecstatic to have someone to focus on but, of course, not just anyone.

You can't have them all and can't have any in "your time". So, bide your time, be reasonable in whom you approach give your "station" and it's perfectly fine to try to get others to play cupid for you--meaning if you develop likes and get to know anyone who might be an intermediary, you can use them to either find out if there is any interest in you or ask them to mention your interest. If you're a nice guy, decent-looking and not an a-hole, it may get around that you are single and in the market. That can influence some females when they hear it to consider you. Don't do what was popular in my day a few decades ago--go to bars after work hoping to meet. It's a way to waste a lot of money and put a lot of mileage on your body and meet females with alcohol problems. Sad state of affairs.