Why women love black men

He's got a brain which he uses - that's hot, tami. Get to know him better!

 

(a man who sings while he's making love to you is hot!)

Lucky for me...there are others equally brainy or more and I do not have to dig deeper.

You are right, black men treat women much better than their white counterparts do. No condescension, no scolding, no high expectations. They just bail as soon as she misses her period

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The black guys I see getting white women are the ones who are full of bravado and over emotional, not the normal black guys. Don't know why the women here are pushing the idiotic and disproven stereotype about black men's penis', funny how some stereotypes the TV and masses of asses will push, but some not so pleasent stereotypes that have more evidence to them about blacks are quickly shouted down if you even hint at them.

A lot of idiots confuse bravado and hyperactiveness with masculinity, but it's not. The most masculine men I know are whites and immigrants from Korea (not Korean Americans), the two races ironically the TV, girly magazines, and Hollywood can't stop defaming and putting down. With all the unfounded and stupid hollywood stereotypes about white christian men and Asian men, the testament to our masculinity is that despite all these insults, we remain unshaken by it. Just look at how outraged the black community gets at every perceived insult or stereotyping of them, from Don Imus to Dr Watson, if you want a baseline comparison.

From what I've seen of black men, they tend to give off that "I don't care; everything's cool" vibe very naturally. It's like it's in their blood. And of course that's attractive to a lot of women.

Many of my African American friends are exactly like this and yes, they do have all kinds of chicks on them (of all races) so I tend to agree with this theory. They simply don't give a crap if a girl likes them or not.

I have yet to meet a black man I am attracted to....I doubt I ever will. There is this black MD at my work whom the nurses think is "soooooooooo hot"....I looked and really, I do not see it. I admit he is quite cool because we always catch him singing some Earth, Wind and Fire song..("Fantasy", with that falsetto voice.. ).

I am with you on this one. I have yet to meet a black man that I am attracted to. I do see some attractive black men but have never had an attraction to them. Maybe it's an Asian thing.. I dunno.

It could also be that I have never had any good experiences with black men because they tend to come off way too aggressive and very crass. Of course, the same can be said of any other race but this is purely based on my experience.

I didn't say he was groping me. Holding my hand, rubbing the small of my back or my arm, putting his arm around me and hugging me from behind are far from disgraceful in my eyes. I find it interesting that from the word "affection" I used you imagined sleazy groping. At home in our room is where the sleazy groping happens.

 

If I was a piece of meat many components of our relationship and level of commitment we both have would not be in place.

 

It might be an idea to analyze your negative your attitude is towards black men and see just what the problem is there. I may be wrong but I am sensing a great deal of negativity, borderline hostility.

Ok, I'm glad he's not groping you, but physical touching in public means nothing regarding the quality of a relationship. You may like it, but many men (particularly white/asian males) feel excessive touching in public is dishonoring you (gives others the appearance you are loose) and that's why some don't do it.

Well, I'm 100% positive you don't think he sees you as a piece of meat, but how he he really sees you is what matters. How he treats you is how you know. Just make sure you are always honest with yourself when judging his actions.

"Analyze my negative attitude towards black men", LOL . Many black guys are cool and treat women with respect, I have no problem with them. The ones that treat women as nothing more than a sex object, yes, I have big problems with them and rightly so.

Need I remind you that it was you that said such cruel things about white guys just a few posts ago. You think I'm the hater in this thread? Go back and read what you said.

The black guys I see getting white women are the ones who are full of bravado and over emotional, not the normal black guys. Don't know why the women here are pushing the idiotic and disproven stereotype about black men's penis', funny how some stereotypes the TV and masses of asses will push, but some not so pleasent stereotypes that have more evidence to them about blacks are quickly shouted down if you even hint at them.

 

A lot of idiots confuse bravado and hyperactiveness with masculinity, but it's not. The most masculine men I know are whites and immigrants from Korea (not Korean Americans), the two races ironically the TV, girly magazines, and Hollywood can't stop defaming and putting down. With all the unfounded and stupid hollywood stereotypes about white christian men and Asian men, the testament to our masculinity is that despite all these insults, we remain unshaken by it. Just look at how outraged the black community gets at every perceived insult or stereotyping of them, from Don Imus to Dr Watson, if you want a baseline comparison.

Black men dont really seem all that masculine to me. Theyre much more coquettish, much more dandyish and much more likely to be switch hitters on the down low.

I'm a black woman who only dates black men because that's what I prefer for many reasons that I won't go into here. I've had men of many races interested in me, but I've found in all honesty I'm always wary of only black men. Let's keep in mind I live in NYC where the highest concentrations of black people are in the "bad" neighborhoods and I feel that doesn't help this situation at all, but black men stand on the street and say crude things to women. Whenever I meet a black man who seems to be nice, he's always after sex first and foremost - never interested in a relationship of any sort, not even friendship. It doesn't even matter his educational background. I've had experiences like this with an analyst at a financial institution who wound up having a girlfriend and I've had it with a mailroom guy. Age doesn't matter either. I've dated a 40 y/o. I've dated men in their 20s. It doesn't matter. Black men always just want to have sex.

However, this works out because I like sex. Kidding. But seriously, I feel like you have to try so much harder with black men to get them to behave and treat you with some dignity and respect. Especially the ones cute and smart. They know they're the ish so it's even worse with them. Why stick with one woman? I think this is what the women on this board must mean when they speak of this "I don't care" "laid-back" attitude. The only reason they're fine with you and without you is because they can always get someone else...unless you play hard to get. It's all a game with them. And it doesn't even have to be overt sexual contact, but trust me, they're trying to see if they can get in your pants. Whenever a man of any other race has tried to speak to me, it's always with hesitation and he's interested in conversation and very polite and I've never gotten the funny feeling that he's only being nice because he wants to see my *****.

What's twisted is that when you finally get a black man to see beyond having sex with you and take you seriously, it is usually an amazing relationship.

I still don't see how the color of a man's skin dictates how he treats other human beings. Is it nature or nurture? Or is it our own perceptions and projections? Your problems with anyone lay solely within you.

Seriously, what is your problem? Do you at least admit you're racist?

 

Black men don't bail. People bail, White, Black, Asian, etc.

How do you explain the fact that over 50% of black children grow up without a father in their lives (and many don't even know who their father is)? It happens among other racial groups too, sure...but not nearly to the same extent. Even Obama admitted that this is a particular problem of the black community.

All of you people who scream 'racist' at every opportunity are a bunch of PC idiots. Truth can't possibly be racist.

I'm a black woman who only dates black men because that's what I prefer for many reasons that I won't go into here. I've had men of many races interested in me, but I've found in all honesty I'm always wary of only black men. Let's keep in mind I live in NYC where the highest concentrations of black people are in the "bad" neighborhoods and I feel that doesn't help this situation at all, but black men stand on the street and say crude things to women. Whenever I meet a black man who seems to be nice, he's always after sex first and foremost - never interested in a relationship of any sort, not even friendship. It doesn't even matter his educational background. I've had experiences like this with an analyst at a financial institution who wound up having a girlfriend and I've had it with a mailroom guy. Age doesn't matter either. I've dated a 40 y/o. I've dated men in their 20s. It doesn't matter. Black men always just want to have sex.

 

However, this works out because I like sex. Kidding. But seriously, I feel like you have to try so much harder with black men to get them to behave and treat you with some dignity and respect. Especially the ones cute and smart. They know they're the ish so it's even worse with them. Why stick with one woman? I think this is what the women on this board must mean when they speak of this "I don't care" "laid-back" attitude. The only reason they're fine with you and without you is because they can always get someone else...unless you play hard to get. It's all a game with them. And it doesn't even have to be overt sexual contact, but trust me, they're trying to see if they can get in your pants. Whenever a man of any other race has tried to speak to me, it's always with hesitation and he's interested in conversation and very polite and I've never gotten the funny feeling that he's only being nice because he wants to see my *****.

 

What's twisted is that when you finally get a black man to see beyond having sex with you and take you seriously, it is usually an amazing relationship.

Everything that you have said here is right on the money since I have had similar experience actually exact experience even up to your your last comment about when you finally get a balck man to see beyond having sex with you and take you seriously, it usually is an amazing relationship...

Wow. Not all black men ( or men from any race ) act the same way. I have dated men from various races. But I'm especially attracted to black men. The black men that I had various types of personalities, attitudes, beliefs, values etc.

How do you explain the fact that over 50% of black children grow up without a father in their lives (and many don't even know who their father is)? It happens among other racial groups too, sure...but not nearly to the same extent. Even Obama admitted that this is a particular problem of the black community.

 

All of you people who scream 'racist' at every opportunity are a bunch of PC idiots. Truth can't possibly be racist.

I realize the majority of black children were born to unmarried parents. But that doesn't always mean the dad wasn't around. The parents could have split up. But both parents still helped in raising the child. I know some examples of this.

This, listen to this guy and stop buying into the hype about how white women love black men.

 

As for me, honestly I hate the type of women who ONLY date black men exclusively. I don't like the type of women who date any particular race exclusively.

 

I have dated girls in the past who only exclusively date black men and I'll never do that again.

Why is that?

Black men are my favourites...

 

and it's not a myth btw... I've had many many black lovers.. and it seems to be a 'characteristic' of the race.. but this is not the reason why I love black men...

 

The ones that are beautiful are realllllly beautiful... I don't know what it is exactly.. but they're cool... (most of them)... but like any other races, some are jerks...

 

The BS that caught me with her H.. they were black... he was a really attractive (extremely well endowed)..

As a black woman I have not ever came across a black man that fits the stereotype of being well endowed. I'm still looking. Its like a white woman dates the first black guy and conviently gets the one with the biggest dyck. I'm thinking what is average to a black woman must be huge to a white woman (if shes only been with white men previously)

That is true,though tons of black women seem to want "thugs" and look down upon regular black dudes so it gives some of these guys more incentive to act that way..

There are black people from ALL over the world. We are not all the same. I grew up in a predominantly black neighborhood, and was around black people from different countries, like Nigeria, Liberia, Jamaica, Trinidad, etc. I knew a lot of West African guys and t hey tend to be totally different from African Americans, as far as culture and personality. They were also incredibly smart and good in math. I just hate when folks start stereotyping "black" people without realizing that there are so many different types of black people from different cultures and we all have different values. I think a lot of you seem to be making the comments about African Americans though.

But seriously, I feel like you have to try so much harder with black men to get them to behave and treat you with some dignity and respect. Especially the ones cute and smart. They know they're the ish so it's even worse with them. Why stick with one woman? I think this is what the women on this board must mean when they speak of this "I don't care" "laid-back" attitude. The only reason they're fine with you and without you is because they can always get someone else...unless you play hard to get. It's all a game with them. And it doesn't even have to be overt sexual contact, but trust me, they're trying to see if they can get in your pants. Whenever a man of any other race has tried to speak to me, it's always with hesitation and he's interested in conversation and very polite and I've never gotten the funny feeling that he's only being nice because he wants to see my *****.

 

What's twisted is that when you finally get a black man to see beyond having sex with you and take you seriously, it is usually an amazing relationship.

Exactly! Loved too many black guys and the main reason they are cool and laid back is because they almost always, and I do mean ALWAYS have something else waiting on the sides so they are in no rush. They will pretty much agree to anything just to have sex with you.

There are black people from ALL over the world. We are not all the same. I grew up in a predominantly black neighborhood, and was around black people from different countries, like Nigeria, Liberia, Jamaica, Trinidad, etc. I knew a lot of West African guys and t hey tend to be totally different from African Americans, as far as culture and personality. They were also incredibly smart and good in math. I just hate when folks start stereotyping "black" people without realizing that there are so many different types of black people from different cultures and we all have different values. I think a lot of you seem to be making the comments about African Americans though.

I am speaking of American black men that I've known.

They will pretty much agree to anything just to have sex with you.

Thank you for posting this, it's good to read a knowledgeable (and intelligent if I might add ) opinion regarding this topic. Everytime I read about or hear a white girl saying, "I like black guys better than white guys", my immediate reaction is that they mostly care about physical intimacy and sex. It helps me a great deal, because I don't want to date women like that, so the black guys can have em' .

Wow. Not all black men ( or men from any race ) act the same way. I have dated men from various races. But I'm especially attracted to black men. The black men that I had various types of personalities, attitudes, beliefs, values etc.

I wanted to add something to my earlier post. I think there are many other factors such as socioeconomic background and geography that can effect a person's culture or values. A poor inner city black person may act much different than a black person who grew up in a middle class suburb or a rural area. This can also apply to whites and other races.

Allot of white girls look at it as a novetly and soemthing new cool and exciting plus they buy into the myth..

Plus allot of times black guys have more charimsa or certain personality then the average white guy then a women can be drawn to..

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Originally Posted by absoluttifftiff

But seriously, I feel like you have to try so much harder with black men to get them to behave and treat you with some dignity and respect. Especially the ones cute and smart. They know they're the ish so it's even worse with them. Why stick with one woman? I think this is what the women on this board must mean when they speak of this "I don't care" "laid-back" attitude. The only reason they're fine with you and without you is because they can always get someone else...unless you play hard to get. It's all a game with them. And it doesn't even have to be overt sexual contact, but trust me, they're trying to see if they can get in your pants. Whenever a man of any other race has tried to speak to me, it's always with hesitation and he's interested in conversation and very polite and I've never gotten the funny feeling that he's only being nice because he wants to see my *****.

What's twisted is that when you finally get a black man to see beyond having sex with you and take you seriously, it is usually an amazing relationship.

Stillafool: Exactly! Loved too many black guys and the main reason they are cool and laid back is because they almost always, and I do mean ALWAYS have something else waiting on the sides so they are in no rush. They will pretty much agree to anything just to have sex with you.

Ladies, I apologize on behalf of all cute, smart, black men. I felt like I was being personally singled-out and scolded as I read your descriptions. It's very difficult, as silly as it sounds. I would like to be in a committed relationship, but it's hard to figure it all out when you got a couple girls really easily, then you meet someone you really like, but they may not give it up as easily as someone else did, so you continue with one of the original girls until the girl you like finally gives it up. Perhaps by that time, you might be annoyed or over your initial interest in the girl you thought really had potential, so you continue to see other people or new people. That is how my life is and I wish it had more order. I don't want to hurt people but it is inevitable sometimes. That's why I come to this forum, to try and figure out how to "date" properly. When I am in a relationship though, I am very loyal, and all the the charm and affection, that is used to deceive other women, is genuine.

To Citygal, I don't think anyone will argue with you. I grew up in a wealthy, predominantly white area and white people(particularly in the south), are often thrown off by a young, articulate(often times moreso than them), black man and don't know how to react. I think this is, at least, partially a reason for why I've been with many more white women than any other race, many times their first black guy. I also get off on the fact that white men seem to hate it, whether inwardly or outwardly.

Need I remind you that it was you that said such cruel things about white guys just a few posts ago. You think I'm the hater in this thread? Go back and read what you said.

Go ahead...quote those words.

Go ahead...quote those words.

You said I had a small peepee and it felt like air....ehr...you said that about white guys I mean

You said I had a small peepee and it felt like air....ehr...you said that about white guys I mean

Bwahahahaa, /thread

Damn, I'm docked points for being short, and now because I'm not black.

If I wasn't in the Marines, I wouldn't have anything going for me.