Ok, It's official. I'm too short so I've been dumped. [UPDATE 9 Years Later...]

Just making lemonade ruby, just making lemonade...

I was wondering what you may be doing lil' legs ... I mean Rod!

I was wondering what you may be doing lil' legs ... I mean Rod!

:lmao:

Me and my lil' legs are making lemonade and adding sugar like crazy. Trying to make it all a little sweeter.

:lmao:

 

Me and my lil' legs are making lemonade and adding sugar like crazy. Trying to make it all a little sweeter.

You look pretty hot, I would date your short ass!

You look pretty hot, I would date your short ass!

There's nothing short about my ass!!

There's nothing short about my ass!!

Thats not what ya ex thinks!:lmao:

I am joking wit ya honey x

Thats not what ya ex thinks!:lmao:

 

I am joking wit ya honey x

I mean, my actual butt is quite nice and firm... :lmao:

Yeah we should totally date.

I mean, my actual butt is quite nice and firm... :lmao:

Yeah we should totally date.

Ok, I will meet you by Big Ben in an hour?

Ok, I will meet you by Big Ben in an hour?

Big ben? Blast!

you have 51 minutes hon

Be quick, I am waiting (pantie less)

you have 51 minutes hon

 

Be quick, I am waiting (pantie less)

O cruel, irreligious piety!!

O cruel, irreligious piety!!

DOnt you dare stand me up! I am getting a chill in my nether regions and I just got waxed so hurry those lil' legs!

Tick tock, tick tock

DOnt you dare stand me up! I am getting a chill in my nether regions and I just got waxed so hurry those lil' legs!

 

Tick tock, tick tock

Sorry, I'm going to need more time. I just took a very very cold shower...

I think it may be comforting to tell the OP to blow this woman off because she's "shallow". But how is having a height preference any more or less shallow than having a weight or build preference, and how many times on LS have we supported a poster who just wasn't turned on by someone? "Hey, we all have preferences and fine, this person didn't do it for you" is what we tend to say to THEM. But I digress.

I think it is shallow because a person's height is out of their control. Weight and body type can be changed to a certain extent by diet and exercise.

I'm 5'6" for instance. I was very ill as an infant (nearly died) and my growth was slightly stunted as a result. Nothing I can do about that. If I was 50 pounds overweight I could eat healthier and exercise to lose that weight.

I have been told before that I am too short to date. If you are that shallow I don't really have any interest in dating that person anyhow.

And if height is that important to you, don't get in a relationship with someone and then tell them they are too short. Better to let them know right off the bat this isn't going to go anywhere.

Just my $0.02......

woo hoo! we are all the west coast girls here to cheer rod up!

i hope you've been able to get past the lame excuse this so called friend gave you. she obviously knew your height long ago when this started - and it's an issue now?

what a dork! is she so stupid and obvious that she couldn't come up with something more obscure or creative?

go out there and have some fun... with someone smart and nice.

woo hoo! we are all the west coast girls here to cheer rod up!

 

i hope you've been able to get past the lame excuse this so called friend gave you. she obviously knew your height long ago when this started - and it's an issue now?

 

what a dork! is she so stupid and obvious that she couldn't come up with something more obscure or creative?

 

go out there and have some fun... with someone smart and nice.

Thanks Sunny

I'm actually going over to her place tomorrow to pick up my things (something I lent her) and let her know I won't be taking her to the wedding with me (in reference to the other thread related to this girl):

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t163198/

Since she dumped me, I've heard back from a girl I met at a group date (8 at 8... btw, don't ever do it), from a girl I used to know, another friend of mine is setting me up with a spaniard woman who lives in the area, and I'm going to something like 4 parties this month... I guess when it rains it pours.

I'm going to try to have drinks with the girl from the group date this Friday, then I have the wedding on Saturday and the bride is hooking me up with her single teammates (I'm very excited about this, something about these rowers turns me on), Sunday, I'll try to take out the spaniard, the following weekend I'm already booked for fri and sat parties with friends. we'll see what happens. I'm so happy I have my friends, they really look out for me.

I think it is shallow because a person's height is out of their control. Weight and body type can be changed to a certain extent by diet and exercise.

 

I'm 5'6" for instance. I was very ill as an infant (nearly died) and my growth was slightly stunted as a result. Nothing I can do about that. If I was 50 pounds overweight I could eat healthier and exercise to lose that weight.

 

I have been told before that I am too short to date. If you are that shallow I don't really have any interest in dating that person anyhow.

 

And if height is that important to you, don't get in a relationship with someone and then tell them they are too short. Better to let them know right off the bat this isn't going to go anywhere.

 

Just my $0.02......

Not sure if you are a guy or a girl, I am assuming guy...but, IMO, 5'6" is the perfect height for a guy. I generally don't date taller. I would date taller, but I am attracted to shorter men and more often seek them out. It's not as bad you think it is!

Well good for you Rod! You get out there big boy and date till you drop!

Update:

I went over to her place yesterday to pick up my belongings and to tell her I would not take her to the wedding with me, she was waiting for me sitting on her doorstep with a bottle of white wine and 2 glasses saying "we're having wine". so I obligued.

We sat on the steps of her house while her dogs played around and we talked... about random things mostly, for a while. It's uncomfortable the level of chemistry that we seem to have, we hugged a couple of times and at one point during one hug she kissed my neck.

I asked her about the height issue and we talked about honesty and things and she did say that she had some issues from growing up and being taller than everyone else and being teased by it, and that when she's with someone shorter, those feelings come back and make her uncomfortable. Also she said that she had been seeing other guys at the same time and that one had asked her to give him some level of committment (not sleep with many guys at the same time) so she decided to cut me off.

We also talked about some other important issues that needed to be talked about (personal) and agreed to remain friends. She did give me the cliche "you're a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you" bit... it sounds like a broken record by now. Such is life. It's always some *other* girl who would be lucky to have me, it's like a vicious circle IMO.

Told ya she had personal problems with her height, but the other guy wanting a commitment was the real deep and underying "issue"...

Glad you found out and please, don't waste any more time on her. Friends with ex's of any degree, at least IMHO, is bad mojo.

Update:

 

I went over to her place yesterday to pick up my belongings and to tell her I would not take her to the wedding with me, she was waiting for me sitting on her doorstep with a bottle of white wine and 2 glasses saying "we're having wine". so I obligued.

 

We sat on the steps of her house while her dogs played around and we talked... about random things mostly, for a while. It's uncomfortable the level of chemistry that we seem to have, we hugged a couple of times and at one point during one hug she kissed my neck.

 

I asked her about the height issue and we talked about honesty and things and she did say that she had some issues from growing up and being taller than everyone else and being teased by it, and that when she's with someone shorter, those feelings come back and make her uncomfortable. Also she said that she had been seeing other guys at the same time and that one had asked her to give him some level of committment (not sleep with many guys at the same time) so she decided to cut me off.

 

We also talked about some other important issues that needed to be talked about (personal) and agreed to remain friends. She did give me the cliche "you're a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you" bit... it sounds like a broken record by now. Such is life. It's always some *other* girl who would be lucky to have me, it's like a vicious circle IMO.

while the height thing is valid I think the bolded pretty much sums it up!

I am SO glad you are not taking her to the wedding you will be so much better off going solo incase you meet someone you like. And all these parties you have set up that's awesome Rod you are bound to run into someone you like.

Hey what about this 8to8 deal I had also heard it's not good, that bad huh? What's the deal?

. She did give me the cliche "you're a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you" bit... it sounds like a broken record by now.

and UHHHHH how TRITE I can't believe people actually use that lame azz line!?!? Honestly Rod you sound way too good for her.

Rant warning, I was just dumped not an hour ago and I need to vent

 

Well, I can't say that this is a surprise, I've been seeing the signs for at least a week, she usually ran out of my house first thing in the morning (have to take the dog out), and she has not been responding to my texts and emails like she used to.

 

We were going to hang out today because her best friend was leaving town after spending a week with her and she said: "I've got plans for later tonight but let's meet for a snack or early dinner" supicious, she would always come over and we would go wherever together.

 

When we were asked at the restaurant (2 amys in DC) if we wanted the main dining hall or just quiet she said "let's do quiet". which to me meant, "she wants to talk"

 

So we had some light conversation, and I asked her what her plans were for tonight... she hesitated, and then said "I'm going to dinner" (a lie), so I asked her if somewhere exciting and she replied "oh my friend sara is coming back from Philly today and we talked about having dinner today" another lie. Her friend is with her husband spending labor day weekend in philly, why would they come back on Sunday? But whatever, by this point I knew what was coming.

 

Near the end of the dinner and with a 9-top with children next to us she said "I don't think I should keep dating you anymore, the last time we had sex I felt like it wasn't right." so I look around, see the kids next table and tell her, let's talk about this outside after we're done.

 

So we did, we walked to my car and I gave her the basil that I got for her today at the farmer's market and then we walked back to her car and had a conversation about why she didn't feel like could do this anymore.

 

Remembering the recent thread on honesty, I asked her why and I asked her to be honest.

 

She said that we're the same height, we're both 5'11 and she likes to wear heels and she feels strange with me being shorter when she's heeled and she knows that it's shallow but she's not ready to be in a serious relationship where that wouldn't be an issue.

 

She said that we get along well and we have many things in common and that she feels very comfortable with me, but she didn't ask me if I wanted to be friends which I was kind of expecting. So I brought it up... can we be friends?

 

She said that it was up to me, but that she would like to. and I'm ok with that. We then had a long walk to the park and played in the swings and talked some more...

 

I wanted to ask her if she had been sleeping with other guys while we were sleeping together, but I'm not sure yet if I want to know. If I do, I'll ask her and I hope she's honest.

aww....I don't think you're short. You're 5'11...i'm 5'1...You're WAY UP THERE!!! I'm dating a guy that's 5'9 and he thinks he's short. Do you guys know what SHORT is? It's when you can't see above ppl's head. That's short. Honestly, some girls that wear heels will eventually be taller than their man. I personally don't like heels cuz they hurt like a mother on dates. I wear flip flops or tennis shoes. I know the height issue is a problem for girls. If she really did like you, she wouldn't have mind to be taller when with heels. If she really felt like she's taller, than she would have wore flats. Honestly, I think that she's stupid and she's not worth your time. But at least she was honest. I don't think you should ask her if she slept with other guys while you two were seeing each other. For me, I'd rather not know and not put another dagger in your chest. There are many girls out there. You just need to keep searching for the one that really likes you for who you are and accepts the way you are.

while the height thing is valid I think the bolded pretty much sums it up!

Yeah, I'm a little relieved to be honest, I was sure this was the case. My gut was right.

I am SO glad you are not taking her to the wedding you will be so much better off going solo incase you meet someone you like. And all these parties you have set up that's awesome Rod you are bound to run into someone you like.

Yes, I'm actually very optimistic about this

Hey what about this 8to8 deal I had also heard it's not good, that bad huh? What's the deal?

Oh well allow me to add a brief back story to this thing.

Many years ago (2001 I think) I got a letter in the mail from "Great Expectations" which is a video dating service nationally, I called them back and they setup an appointment at one of their offices in the area and what followed was nothing short of all the "pressure sales" tactics that wrote the book on pressure sales, they keep you alone in a room, you get tag-teamed by sales reps (match-makers as they called themselves) and feed you lines about being serious and how this is the last day that you'll get "special pricing" on the membership, how on monday it's going to double and you should sign up for the bi-yearly membership at the low low cost of $250 a month... long story short, I signed, then had to go through a painful process of convincing them the next day that I hadn't used their service and I wanted out. I had to threaten lawsuit and talked to a guy who was leading class actions in a couple of states away to get some pointers to get out. I ended up loosing $200 dollars but compared to what it would've cost me, I was lucky to be able to get out of it.

Fast forward to 8at8 dot com. I saw them on an ad on facebook and the concept is 4 guys and 4 girls having dinner together. meet strangers and take the pressure off of a one-on-one date. They have just come into DC but checking their website they didn't have any pricing posted (first red flag) also there was no way of joining online (second red flag) basically you had to send them your information and they would call you to try to sell you the concept. I reluctantly did it and I got my first call on the next day from a blocked number (major red flag) a lady Sandy tried to sell me the service, how it was "upscale" and "we only the best of the best". I let her speak for what must've been 10 minutes and finally she made the pitch, "we're having an introductory special if you join now, $450 for 5 dinners", "is the dinner included?" "no" she said, "we match you, we find the restaurant and we provide you with a complimentary drink". Now, I don't consider myself a cheap bastard but it seemed very steep compared to all the other services, speed dating to be more precise is about half that, and you only pay as you go. Plus the whole pressure thing gave me a bad feeling and I decided not to do it.

Next day Sandy calls me and tells me that they have a dinner open and that they would love to have me there. that just this once they would let me go for $50. So I accepted and went, knowing full well that she would try to get me to join.

So I go to this thing, and another lady introduces all 8 of us, gives us a drink, and sits us down and says "good luck". I've never been to a dinner that had so many awkward silences. and I did most of the talking for all 4 of the guys (if you haven't figured it out by now, I'm pretty talkative).

There was no guidance, we didn't know when to exchange information, I got the info exchange rolling by hinting at our name and got the name of the girl next to me. (Very nice/cute mid-west blonde who's into running) but felt too awkward asking any other girl for their contact information. It seemed disrespectful for the girl whose number I had just asked to kind of go around the table and get everyone else's number.

So, I don't know, I find their practices questionable, I don't agree with the whole "package deals" and the event itself seemed disorganized. I wouldn't do it again.

and UHHHHH how TRITE I can't believe people actually use that lame azz line!?!? Honestly Rod you sound way too good for her.

As the words were coming out of her mouth, I couldn't help but feel like she was feeding me a line.

Don't get me wrong, I am convinced I am a catch in every way. But it didn't feel honest the way she said it.

aww....I don't think you're short. You're 5'11...i'm 5'1...You're WAY UP THERE!!! I'm dating a guy that's 5'9 and he thinks he's short. Do you guys know what SHORT is? It's when you can't see above ppl's head. That's short. Honestly, some girls that wear heels will eventually be taller than their man. I personally don't like heels cuz they hurt like a mother on dates. I wear flip flops or tennis shoes. I know the height issue is a problem for girls. If she really did like you, she wouldn't have mind to be taller when with heels. If she really felt like she's taller, than she would have wore flats. Honestly, I think that she's stupid and she's not worth your time. But at least she was honest. I don't think you should ask her if she slept with other guys while you two were seeing each other. For me, I'd rather not know and not put another dagger in your chest. There are many girls out there. You just need to keep searching for the one that really likes you for who you are and accepts the way you are.

Thanks I did talk to her last night. a full week after the original incident. the update is here:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1829642#post1829642

Wow Rod that was some story THANKS for sharing that!!!

I actually wrote an article on a similar service we have here in our town, quite a few years back which is why I asked about it. In fact the few people who had done that contacted me AFTER the fact and after reading the artilce told me similar things they said they had never been matched to spend an evening with an odder bunch. I remember asking the owner of the service "so how do people hook up?" and she said well we provide the atmosphere and match and then it's up to them. But I see there is a major flaw with that system because you should at least give the program coordinator your email addresses to do this in a more discreet way, sort of like the way speed dating works.

Gees the things people will do to capitalise on people's need to meet quality hook ups it's kind of disgusting how half azzed they are about it...

Oh and those dating services, I worked part time at one of those when I was in my first year at uni, it was good because it was evenings and really flexible shifts. The women had to call the guys and the guys were to call the women but half the time the dudes weren't interested in the service but would insist on meeting me, because you would call them a few times since we were to follow up with them and of course after a few phone calls they would take a liking to the girl calling them. I didn't stay very long it made me feel icky trying to convince these poor guys to come in and the pool of women was not all that great. I remember we had some regular caller that would call us and we would get him from time to time and he insisted on telling us what he was wearing a lot of the time he wanted to share he was wearing a "petticoat" and the colour of his undies etc ahhhh okkkkkk......he would reel in whomever he got on the phone and then eventually the petticoat line would come out, we would run bets to see who would get the petticoat guy and who could catch him before he gave the famous line. It was funny at the time.

Gees the things people will do to capitalise on people's need to meet quality hook ups it's kind of disgusting how half azzed they are about it...

Completely agree. I like the whole concept of speed dating best because I've had positive experiences with it. You actually get to meet real people, I always wonder who is real on sites like match.com and who is not. and having only met a couple of people, the time and patience invested only to be disappointed is very frustrating to say the least.

When you meet people one on one, it's very easy for me to tell who is not being truthful and who would not be a good match for me.

I did make a mistake the last time I did it. I had a little too much to drink and a little to little to eat and was more than just tipsy after my second drink. I only had 1 match that night out of 10. whereas the previous time, I had 7 out of 11.