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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:02 AM   #46
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I will not leave my husband, and will put my effort to make this marriage work.
While youíre having sex with your ex. Great plan.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:04 AM   #47
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Thanks for the suggestion and already made an appointment with Individual Counsellor and marriage counsellor and I love my husband more than anyone, when it comes to my husband I won't even tolerate or defend my ex-boyfriend.

Update. My husband has blocked me from his phone, email id, Facebook, Instagram, I am not able to contact him, I just want to talk to him,
I have gone to my in laws house, they are not responding.
I have tried contacting my husband colleague and his friends, nothing seems to work out.


I am alone going to my office and coming back to my home, I miss my husband very much,
Canít describe in words how much I miss my husband.
Tomorrow is our 2nd year of marriage anniversary, donít know how and with whom to celebrate.
I am sure your ex will console you.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:07 AM   #48
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I know, i have betrayed my husband, as far video and pics are concernd these are made by my Ex bf.

Definitely , one day i am going to have kids with my current husband.

You can laugh and make fun of me, because of my mistake.

I am alone and sad right now, but definitely one day i will be with my husband.
No you wonít have kids with him.

No you wonít ever be with him again.

You made it very clear you want your ex more then your husband.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 1:46 PM   #49
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On the verge to lose my marriage and my wonderful and lovable husband

thanks for the reply.

god bless all of us.

Update : I went to my parents house, they said today is your second marriage anniversary, and you are alone.

My parents told me give your husband space and divorce, if he wants.

i was shocked, how come my parents are so insensitive towards my emotions and feelings and they said that they will take my husband side if my husband proves my infidelity and other activities in court .and they said they dont want to loose such a good man , so even after my divorce, my parents will consider my husband as their sone,may be not son i law.

and the worst part was when my mom said your husband deserves better than you.

I was in tears and left my parents house.

I called my ex boyfriend asking for help to locate and find my husband current address.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 1:50 PM   #50
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thanks for the reply.

god bless all of us.

Update : I went to my parents house, they said today is your second marriage anniversary, and you are alone.

My parents told me give your husband space and divorce, if he wants.

i was shocked, how come my parents are so insensitive towards my emotions and feelings and they said that they will take my husband side if my husband proves my infidelity and other activities in court .and they said they dont want to loose such a good man , so even after my divorce, my parents will consider my husband as their sone,may be not son i law.

and the worst part was when my mom said your husband deserves better than you.

I was in tears and left my parents house.

I called my ex boyfriend asking for help to locate and find my husband current address.

Well, this proves that the apple can fall very far from the tree. Your parents sound like lovely people.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 1:55 PM   #51
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i was shocked, how come my parents are so insensitive towards my emotions and feelings
Your self-centeredness is noteworthy, but sadly not too "unique".

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I called my ex boyfriend asking for help to locate and find my husband current address.
Comedy gold.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:19 PM   #52
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I called my ex boyfriend asking for help to locate and find my husband current address.

WHAT? Clearly you don't want to fix your marriage. The guy you slept with can't be the person you turn to in an effort to get your marriage back on track. He's the last person your STBXH wants around.


I'm sorry your parents are picking him over you but hopefully their reactions will help you understand just how serious this is. You may lose them too if you don't start acting remorseful & repentant.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:20 PM   #53
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My parents told me give your husband space and divorce, if he wants.

i was shocked, how come my parents are so insensitive towards my emotions and feelings.

and the worst part was when my mom said your husband deserves better than you.

I called my ex boyfriend asking for help to locate and find my husband current address.
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Your parents are very right. Your husband does deserve better.

You don't get this, at all. Indeed, comedy gold.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:36 PM   #54
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Turning to the man that helped you destroy your marriage to save it pretty much says it all. Stop and think about what you wrote, don't take our advice, call and speak to the counselor your scheduled to meet with and ask them for their advice. Your house is burning and your trying to put out the fire by throwing gasoline on it. The more you associate with your affair partner the farther away your husband will get from you. Have you ever been diagnosed by a mental health specialist, are you on any treatment program or on any kind of prescribed medication?
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:42 PM   #55
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this thread can't possibly be real. it must be a troll trolling.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 2:45 PM   #56
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Gosh, I feel so bad that your parents hurt you. Don't they understand that you're a real person with real feelings? How could someone be so callous? I mean, you are always cognizant of others' feelings, right?

Seriously, leave your husband alone. You've done enough already. Why rub salt in the wound? Thanks to you, he'll probably never be able to trust again.

Can't you just see past your own selfishness at some point and let him pick up the pieces of his life?
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Old 22nd December 2017, 4:14 PM   #57
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Humiliation

Too late. You are humiliating him further. You may want him, but consider what he wants for a change. If you really love him and want him to be happy, give him EVERYTHING he wants. If that means never seeing you again, grant him that immediately so that he can heal from the trauma.

Not trying to be harsh, but I've placed myself in his shoes and personally, I would seek to remove the shame and embarrassment that my wife inflicted upon me. It's a irreparable situation, I've never made a statement like that before. Best to restart elsewhere after you resurrect your moral principles with help from professionals.

May take a while before you're ready. You need a tremendous amount of personal work before a any type of meaningful relationship occurs. One final thing. This story is so horrific, I actually don't believe it. I hope I'm right. If wrong, It's the worst I've ever read, and I've read some dandies.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 4:29 PM   #58
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I will not leave my husband, and will put my effort to make this marriage work.
He will leave you. Its better you do it mutual consent otherwise trial would not be good for you. Is it a fault or no fault state? Start looking at your state laws.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 5:03 PM   #59
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Thanks for the reply,

Offcourse, i love my husband and i want to work on this marriage.
You are not ready to be married. You may think you love your husband, but you don't really know what love is or means. Your idea of love is superficial. You say you want your marriage, but then you continue to cheat on him even after you've been caught. It is clear to me you do not have the emotional maturity to return the love that you may or may not have been given.

If your husband gave you another chance, you'd almost certainly cheat on him again unless you sought professional help, and made some major behavioral changes.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 5:16 PM   #60
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This thread just proves how much we like drama.
The pages get longer and longer and the situations get worse
I feel for th op but I think sheís just losing it at this point
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