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Old 7th August 2017, 12:40 AM   #1
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Does your husband share you with other men?

Ok so my husband and I started talking about our fantasies one night and his fantasy is to see me with another man while he watches and also joins in. Hes told me about it before but we were drinking and it was never brought up in until recently.

See my husband is 40 and I'm 26. He likes it when other men look at me or hit on me. He trusts me more than anything in the world. He knows I love him and only him. Well we discussed his fantasy and the person he wants to share me with is his best friend. His best friend is 3 years younger than him and hes attractive. His best friend knows about this and wants to do it. I'm all for it, I'm actually a little excited and nervous at the same time because my husband told me if I like it then I can do it again when ever I want.

My husband however doesn't want anything out of it. He just wants to get off on it. He has admitted that he has a hard time keeping up with me cause of our age difference. I really don't mind it I love him no matter what and he treats me like a queen. I just need some advice before it happens... Of course I'm gonna have a few drinks before it happens but any tips on getting comfortable?

I am nervous but the more I think about it the more I want it and it turns me on even more. Also any couples out there that have done this and can share their experience with me? I cant tell my girl friends cause they wont understand and think its weird.

I don't think its weird I love the fact my husband will let me have sex with another man in front of him. But its not for everyone.... Please share

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Old 7th August 2017, 1:53 AM   #2
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I have a difficult time taking this post seriously.
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Old 7th August 2017, 2:33 AM   #3
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If you do this then it will most likely be the end of your marriage.

Some fantasies should be left as fantasies.
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Old 7th August 2017, 4:12 AM   #4
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if you need a "few drinks" you are forcing yourself, so stop this unpalatable event, close the door on it
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Old 7th August 2017, 6:10 AM   #5
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You don't say in your profile where you are. Let me know if you want more guys for the gangbang.

Yeah, sarcasm there. Shouldn't this be in the sex discussion? Probably not serious.
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Old 7th August 2017, 6:42 AM   #6
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This should be in sex area instead of dating.

Of course it could be real. This kind of stuff is actually not as uncommon as you might think. I was a third once. A lesbian asked me to have sex with her wife. She watched and even brought us drinks during a break.

The sharing with the best friend thing... I think that has a LOT of potential to destroy the marriage. It would be safer to bring in someone you barely know and won't ever have to see again.
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Old 7th August 2017, 8:46 AM   #7
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With his best friend is a bad idea.

These things can go south real quick, and if it's someone intertwined in your life, it can make it exponentially worse.

Are you both interested in having some sort of triad relationship with this guy? Not for me, but I know some people are into that sort of thing.

If it's just sex.... Get someone who isn't a part of your social circle.
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Old 7th August 2017, 8:51 AM   #8
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Leave your fantasy there. Please do not use it and create a reality out of it.
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Old 7th August 2017, 9:05 AM   #9
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Does your husband share you with other men?

Not a ****ing chance.
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Old 7th August 2017, 9:06 AM   #10
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I say whatever floats your boat, BUT if I were you I would keep close friends, and coworkers out of your bedroom. This sort of thing is private. You think this BFF is going to keep his mouth shut? Hell no he's gonna brag about it and your friends, and maybe even your family is going to hear about it. Think first before you do. You need to go over some rules so everyone is safe and protected. There are private clubs for this sort of thing, and even websites. If I were you I would research this more before diving in. And keep his friend out of it.

You are a fool if you believe that having each others passwords = trust.
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Old 7th August 2017, 9:47 AM   #11
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Standard cuckold fetish. Only go there if you want to, but keep his friend OUT of it. Is your relationship really, really strong to begin with? Then it may work - otherwise, don't.

Cuckold scenario has NO appeal for me, but it is a very common fetish. We've done FMF and MFM threesomes, but nobody is just watching.
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Old 7th August 2017, 11:34 AM   #12
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Don't do it.
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So what's going to happen most likely is this.

You'll do it and love it. He'll love it.

You'll do it again....he'll get insecure. Thought sill go through his head:

"I'm too old for her she wants the younger guys"
"She's going to leave me for them"
"She likes it with them more than me"

Then, he'll accuse you of cheating and really believe you are and hound you about t and become annoying or mean about it. Then you'll actually cheat with someone because your husband makes you feel horrible and you're unhappy and he's mean to you.

Then. Divorce.

I think things like this CAN work out but to be blunt and honest the age difference is a disadvantage. You're going to get so much attention from younger and hotter guys and no matter how much you love your H, he's not going to believe it once the attention starts .
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Old 7th August 2017, 12:34 PM   #14
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he wants you to behave as his personal whore, slut or porn star. it is very erotic fetish for few times but even if its 'your thing' it will wear off very fast, you'll get tired and it will ultimately effect your marriage one way or another even if he doesnt get jealous and all.

its not good believe me, i have read stories about the damage and have same kinda fetish but its very bad for marriage and personal life as a whole, it will end up no where.

it is a very sick fetish to be honest and some wives even go as far as getting impregnated by their FB

marriage is not a cup of tea to play with like that.
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Old 7th August 2017, 12:35 PM   #15
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Hi hunbun, what you and your husband are contemplating doing is known as the Hotwife kink. There are websites for this kind of thing. However, I would tend to agree with everyone who has warned of the dangers as these are very real. If you really love your husband and vice versa then keep all this as a fantasy between the two of you. It could make for spicing things up in the bedroom. Warm wishes.
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