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Old 10th November 2018, 8:06 AM   #1
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I love him.

We met Monday (2 weeks ago). We had coffee. Then he said he wanted to see me again. That night we had drinks at his place and slept together. He texted me 2 days later. 2 days after that (Friday) we had a date. Drinks, dinner, and a movie at his place. Nothing happened. I had my period and I woke up sick the next day. Its now been a week and nothing. I texted him myself last Wednesday. He just said "yeah see you later". Hes not interested right? Should I write something to him. If so, what? Please help...
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Old 10th November 2018, 8:17 AM   #2
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Invite him over for a nice home cooked meal... You've already slept together, so he won't get the "wrong message".

If he responds, Great... if he doesn't, I'm afraid its over.
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Old 10th November 2018, 8:17 AM   #3
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You love him? Don’t jump head first. If you can’t keep your emotions in check after two dates, you need to lay off the sex. It messes with your brain. Dating is a process in which you use to get to know if a man is worth pursuing. Next time, get to know someone first and figure out if you both have similar interest and intentions then go from there.

If you do want to have sex, great. Enjoy the moment. He’s a stranger — don’t have any expectations that it’s going to warrant interest or longevity.

You texted him and he gave you a blah response. Don’t text him anymore.
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Old 10th November 2018, 9:11 AM   #4
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You can't possibly love him. You don't even know him. It's been 2 weeks. Just because he had sex with you doesn't mean he reciprocates your feelings. Slow down.

It sounds like he is not interested.

You can give it once last chance but only one. Text him something along the lines of "Hey. Wanna grab a drink with me at [place] on [day, date]? How's [time]?"

Unless you get a resounding "sounds great" or can we make it [different place / time] give up.

Do not say anything about how long it's been, that you have feelings or anything else remotely emotional.
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Old 10th November 2018, 9:32 AM   #5
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It takes time to love someone.... Usually 3-5 months or longer

2 weeks is way too soon....

Sounds like he not that interested in you...

Best to move on
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Old 10th November 2018, 12:32 PM   #6
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I agree with the others. Either move on or send one more text inviting him to come over or go out. He has probably lost interest but one last try will tell you for sure if you want to give it go.

Keep those emotions in check the first few months. Falling 'in love' so quick could be driving them away. Depending on how you are acting around them. Many guys like a chase. If you get too familiar too fast you spook them.

And Im not referring to sex, but Zahara is also correct, if you can't separate sex from emotions best not to hop into bed that quickly. Sex can easily create attachments that are based on lust/infatuation only.
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Old 10th November 2018, 12:39 PM   #7
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You sound needlessly desperate. If he doesn't contact you, he's changed his mind about you, which can happen. Maybe he got a whiff of your obsessive feelings for him, and that can snuff out any interest. Whatever it is, you already reached out, and he wasn't too enthused. Get the hint and move on....you will find someone who will be on the same page.
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Old 10th November 2018, 1:12 PM   #8
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If he hasnt replied... then leave him be, If he messages you again then great if not move on
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Old 10th November 2018, 1:51 PM   #9
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We met Monday (2 weeks ago). We had coffee. Then he said he wanted to see me again. That night we had drinks at his place and slept together. He texted me 2 days later. 2 days after that (Friday) we had a date. Drinks, dinner, and a movie at his place. Nothing happened. I had my period and I woke up sick the next day. Its now been a week and nothing. I texted him myself last Wednesday. He just said "yeah see you later". Hes not interested right? Should I write something to him. If so, what? Please help...
What did you text him that elicited that response from him? He doesn't sound overly interested, but more information for context would be helpful.

And as the others have said, you don't love. You barely even know the guy.
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Old 10th November 2018, 2:20 PM   #10
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You love him after one date? He may be pulling back because he felt it was going in the wrong direction fast.
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Old 10th November 2018, 6:03 PM   #11
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He called today. Wants to see me sunday after dinner. Is this a booty call? Should I go?
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Old 10th November 2018, 6:04 PM   #12
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Wants to meet where? If at his place, a booty call for sure. If he is asking you to do something, like go do an activity, itís a date with a person who has higher priorities but is still trying to make time for you (although probably hoping to hook up as well)...if itís for a drink or something very low effort, itís a grey zone...could be low effort disguised booty call lol.

Keep in mind that you set the parameters of what you feel like doing and how you allow others to treat you. Which doesnít mean your answer to his invite has to be all black or white...if what heís offered to do seems reasonable and suits your schedule, go with an open mind but have standards in place that would make you happy with how the night turns out. If you think itís a booty call or the invite is only to meet up at his place, Iíd suggest declining at this stage and say you can get together when he has more time. Basically you would be showing him you require greater effort and you wonít lose someone who wasnít into you to begin with. Youíd be offering a virtual alternative but one that suits both of youóboth for timeframe and purpose (which goes unsaid but is implied). Good luck!
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Old 10th November 2018, 6:52 PM   #13
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He called today. Wants to see me sunday after dinner. Is this a booty call? Should I go?
Booty call....if he had better intentions he would ask you out for dinner.
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He called today. Wants to see me sunday after dinner. Is this a booty call? Should I go?
Is he going to a family dinner on Sunday?? Or is he making his own dinner??

If its a family dinner, then "yes, go over after dinner" as he has probably already committed to having dinner with his family... If he is making his own dinner, then I would be offended that I wasn't invited.

I'd go over and get to know him better. If you don't want it to be a "booty call" then stop before you have sex. Talk, make out, but draw the line at sex.
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Old 10th November 2018, 7:10 PM   #15
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This is yet another example of why it's a bad idea for women to sleep with men too soon. It devalues you, as terrible as that sounds. And, it can lead to a situation such as this where you turn into a booty call, not a relationship which is obviously what you desire.

It sounds like you have very strong feelings for him, so I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
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