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Old 8th February 2018, 4:40 PM   #1
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Hi,

I'm gonna have my second date with that girl, and that day is her birthday. We are going to the restaurant. So i'll offer her the meal, but shall I also get her something or not as it is only the second time we see each others ?

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Old 8th February 2018, 4:53 PM   #2
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Do not get her anything more than flowers or A card if you're that type. Play it cool and be thankful she wants to spend her birthday with YOU! Good luck on your date!
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Old 8th February 2018, 4:58 PM   #3
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Agreed with Soul Bear, a modest bouquet of flowers (don't go overboard with this either) would be a nice touch but nothing more.

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Old 8th February 2018, 5:29 PM   #4
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How old are you two and how long have you known each other?

I personally wouldn't do the flowers and dinner. Seems too much to me. Dinner, yes.
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Old 8th February 2018, 5:40 PM   #5
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I think a modest bunch of flowers and dinner would be perfect.
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Old 8th February 2018, 6:12 PM   #6
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Old 8th February 2018, 6:22 PM   #7
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Second time, just dinner. If she likes you she is not going to think less if you just take her to dinner. If she doesn't like you, flowers or a gift from a stranger won't change her mind and will probably make her uncomfortable.


If she thinks flowers are or gift are a bit much so soon, it's not exactly a good thing either. In my opinion you only stand to lose buying gifts or flowers early on so why bother?
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Old 8th February 2018, 6:24 PM   #8
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Guy I like doesnít bring me even some flowers for my bday Iím gonna think wth. Thatís kinda cold, but ok

Guy I donít like... itís really not gonna matter because I donít like him.
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Old 8th February 2018, 6:24 PM   #9
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Maybe something small if you don't want to give flowers...

A book, maybe??
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Old 8th February 2018, 6:56 PM   #10
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Get her a card. Have the wait staff put a candle in her dessert. That's it.

If you are under 30 do not get her flowers. They will spook her. You can get her a flower for Valentine's Day, just not a red rose.
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:01 PM   #11
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Get her calla lilies!!!! No card. Do not get her a card

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I wouldn't do a birthday anything for a second date. Tell her to go out and have a good time with her friends.
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:06 PM   #13
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Get her calla lilies!!!! No card. Do not get her a card
Why no card & why expensive funeral flowers?

I think a $3.99 card that has some balloons on the front & say Happy Birthday but not much else printed inside is way more low key.
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Lol They’re not that expensive!!! It’s her birthday. They’re pretty. What’s she going to with a card from a virtual stranger anyway? That’s not a romantic gesture, it’s more FZ and sort of desperate at that

& if she agreed to a bday date with op she has no one better to spend it with, no diss to op, that could be good for him
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:16 PM   #15
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And they are not funeral flowers!!! They do put them on gravestones sometimes to represent innocence but they are actually low key and casual & unique unlike roses

Theyíre Ď tap ití flowers, if you know what Iím saying

Anyway, let us know what you decide to do.
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