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Old 9th November 2017, 9:52 PM   #31
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Wow... he's precious, isn't he?
I will not. He might be a guy who could hold his own with me intellectually but he's ... Socially awkward to say the least and I want someone who makes a better presentation than he would.
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Old 10th November 2017, 1:56 AM   #32
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Like that's a bad thing...

It results in avoiding messy, emotionally stunted males and keeping peace in one's heart, mind and home.

No sense in keeping foolishness around past the point they reveal their messiness.
Precisely!
Even if that 'list' consists of one person this guy would have been struck off it at that first phone call.

OP, I don't understand why you have left things hanging in the air?
Why didn't you tell him you're not interested following this second call?
He'll just keep hanging around if you're not straight with him.
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Old 10th November 2017, 2:02 AM   #33
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Wow, tough crowd around here. Not everything is literal.
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Old 10th November 2017, 4:38 PM   #34
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I got a text from him today, I will ignore it. I also got a text from that hippie I was with last year which I also ignored.

So tired of disappointment after disappointment. I can't do this anymore. Someone posted on this thread that I need to have a thicker skin but there are only so many disappointments you can take before it hurts your self esteem to such a point that you can't do it anymore. I am back in that feeling of "nobody wants me" again. Just a bunch of losers and sick freaks out there.
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Old 10th November 2017, 4:48 PM   #35
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MO, you need to stop giving the losers air time when they mess up big time like this guy did on that first call.
It's a much quicker way to a happier dating life.
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Old 10th November 2017, 5:08 PM   #36
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MO, you need to stop giving the losers air time when they mess up big time like this guy did on that first call.
It's a much quicker way to a happier dating life.
Then please tell me how one gets one of these. Really, I am asking.
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Old 28th December 2017, 12:26 PM   #37
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You know this idiot reached out after almost two months of silence. I got a text from him this morning saying "Hi (my name) it's (name) from Tinder, we were talking on the phone a bit. Wanted to say hi. I'm at the Sierra Mountains visiting my college roommate and his family. Northern Nevada is beautiful but the chill makes me appreciate southern Nevada / Vegas where it's much warmer."

Scroll back to see other conversations between me and him, I'm not interested in him anymore due to the conversations. This makes me somewhat sad because he seemed semi decent, and by the above message you would think he was a semi decent person, but after the questions he asked me as recorded in this thread he is not.
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Old 28th December 2017, 12:37 PM   #38
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You know this idiot reached out after almost two months of silence. I got a text from him this morning saying "Hi (my name) it's (name) from Tinder, we were talking on the phone a bit. Wanted to say hi. I'm at the Sierra Mountains visiting my college roommate and his family. Northern Nevada is beautiful but the chill makes me appreciate southern Nevada / Vegas where it's much warmer."

Scroll back to see other conversations between me and him, I'm not interested in him anymore due to the conversations. This makes me somewhat sad because he seemed semi decent, and by the above message you would think he was a semi decent person, but after the questions he asked me as recorded in this thread he is not.
Don't settle for "semi-decent". Raise your standards, even if it means being alone for a while.
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Old 28th December 2017, 3:11 PM   #39
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I got a text from him today, I will ignore it. I also got a text from that hippie I was with last year which I also ignored.

So tired of disappointment after disappointment. I can't do this anymore. Someone posted on this thread that I need to have a thicker skin but there are only so many disappointments you can take before it hurts your self esteem to such a point that you can't do it anymore. I am back in that feeling of "nobody wants me" again. Just a bunch of losers and sick freaks out there.
Hi Mortensorchid,

I am sorry you're in so much pain.

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I am back in that feeling of "nobody wants me" again.
When we look for love outside of ourselves before we love ourselves unconditionally we will typically be disappointed.

We need to work on ourselves, with compassion (we are so darn self abusive), kindness and most importantly forgiveness (of ourselves).

It's not about having a thicker skin, it's about loving yourself so deeply that you don't NEED someone to love you.

A thick skin hides a cold heart (ask me how I know).

Take this time to step away from OLD and dating in general. Focus on your personal and spiritual development.

Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes (it's tough, we are our own worst critique) love yourself unconditionally first and foremost.

As you heal the pain and fear, you heal your heart and open to love.

Sending you much love and light
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