do_you_care Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 i travel with a girl daily to college in a bus...we study in same college and she lives 10 min from my house.... she used to stare at me...but i ignored her at first as i am not interested in her... this went on for 2 months she kept staring me & me ignoring her.... then i found her interesting at last and talked to her...... next day i messaged her can we have coffee together she said no... then i started to ignored her again but she kept staring and smiling by seeing me...but i kept messaging her some bull**** and she replied ..... after a while she used to say hi and i just said hi and kept ignoring but she kept staring me...... one day while going to the event in nearby town I took the bus at my place and sisters are sitting next to each other I glanced her sister and know that she is beside her and she did not notice me observing her, when her stop came she refused to get down and her sister has to force her by hand, her sister looked at me giggling, I had known that it has something to do with me and confirmed it when the people sitting behind girls stared at me when the girls got down, well its embarrassing moment for me several days back when i took the bus at my place to station she recognized my perfume and herself turned back to me said hi and i said hi and she kept staring me but i just smiled and turned my head off... she did not get off at her stop and came till station where i got off in urgency to catch the train... but i messaged her this time more openly saying "the dress you wore yesterday is good compared to the dress you wore today" she looked at it 30 minutes after i messaged her....but replied 2 hours later saying"well you haven't seen me without cloths :p" to which i replied "i dont know what to say but will talk to you for long time the next time we meet" to which she replied"...and you will never do.... I am happy with my boyfriend .....and ya do not need complements......" what should i do now ignore her completely like before for ever or talk to her after holidays or message her something to break the ice or just ignore her as she said she has a boyfriend.....???? she is mean why should she say this way ??? its better of without .... these are the things making me crazy....... 1)why should she stare me 2 months for grabbing my attention if i am not interested?? 2)then after the day we talked and rejecting my coffee proposal why should she stare me again?? 3)why should she reply to my messages if not interested?? 4)then why should she say hi every time she sees me & make a wide smile if i look at her in-spite knowing that i am ignoring her?? 5)then at last when i made a move why should she flirt first then say rudely i have a boyfriend and stop complementing me?? then as final message on valentines day i messaged her a letter in which it contained a para like this "Disclaimer: I think the only thing that stood for me from loving you is the boyish coffee color coat you wear, had I seen you in that grey color thing first day itself we would have been in parks cinemas malls etc by now. At least change the attire now, my friends say you are not beautiful let them see through my eyes you are the most gorgeous girl in the world for me." i sent the mail of my love letter Friday before valentines day from next week she is just wearing the grey color coat and completely stopped wearing coffee color coat....what should i deduce from this?
mikeylo Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 i travel with a girl daily to college in a bus...we study in same college and she lives 10 min from my house.... she used to stare at me...but i ignored her at first as i am not interested in her... this went on for 2 months she kept staring me & me ignoring her.... then i found her interesting at last and talked to her...... next day i messaged her can we have coffee together she said no... then i started to ignored her again but she kept staring and smiling by seeing me...but i kept messaging her some bull**** and she replied ..... after a while she used to say hi and i just said hi and kept ignoring but she kept staring me...... one day while going to the event in nearby town I took the bus at my place and sisters are sitting next to each other I glanced her sister and know that she is beside her and she did not notice me observing her, when her stop came she refused to get down and her sister has to force her by hand, her sister looked at me giggling, I had known that it has something to do with me and confirmed it when the people sitting behind girls stared at me when the girls got down, well its embarrassing moment for me several days back when i took the bus at my place to station she recognized my perfume and herself turned back to me said hi and i said hi and she kept staring me but i just smiled and turned my head off... she did not get off at her stop and came till station where i got off in urgency to catch the train... but i messaged her this time more openly saying "the dress you wore yesterday is good compared to the dress you wore today" she looked at it 30 minutes after i messaged her....but replied 2 hours later saying"well you haven't seen me without cloths :p" to which i replied "i dont know what to say but will talk to you for long time the next time we meet" to which she replied"...and you will never do.... I am happy with my boyfriend .....and ya do not need complements......" what should i do now ignore her completely like before for ever or talk to her after holidays or message her something to break the ice or just ignore her as she said she has a boyfriend.....???? she is mean why should she say this way ??? its better of without .... these are the things making me crazy....... 1)why should she stare me 2 months for grabbing my attention if i am not interested?? 2)then after the day we talked and rejecting my coffee proposal why should she stare me again?? 3)why should she reply to my messages if not interested?? 4)then why should she say hi every time she sees me & make a wide smile if i look at her in-spite knowing that i am ignoring her?? 5)then at last when i made a move why should she flirt first then say rudely i have a boyfriend and stop complementing me?? then as final message on valentines day i messaged her a letter in which it contained a para like this "Disclaimer: I think the only thing that stood for me from loving you is the boyish coffee color coat you wear, had I seen you in that grey color thing first day itself we would have been in parks cinemas malls etc by now. At least change the attire now, my friends say you are not beautiful let them see through my eyes you are the most gorgeous girl in the world for me." i sent the mail of my love letter Friday before valentines day from next week she is just wearing the grey color coat and completely stopped wearing coffee color coat....what should i deduce from this? Lol. You ignored her on purpose. It's payback time. Enjoy the ride
basil67 Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 i sent the mail of my love letter Friday before valentines day from next week she is just wearing the grey color coat and completely stopped wearing coffee color coat....what should i deduce from this? I would deduce that she has no concept of red flags. The V Day message you sent was one hell of a backhanded compliment.... 3
angel.eyes Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 There are better ways to spend your time.
Author do_you_care Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) This is previous thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/614569-she-shy-waiting-avoiding-ignoring Yesterday we saw eachother and smiled for a while Then I sent this message Let's forget the past and start everything afresh I like you a lot, I know you also do the same but I think I went too fast after I realised that I have strong feelings for you. If we go in the same way we can never break the ice and silence between us, even after almost 1 month of separation I can still feel you if you are around me and can turn and recognise you like what happened yesterday ( you kept staring me from behind the stairs) . I think it's also same with you. I must travel next 10 months to 1 year in same way so just can't ignore you and stay away from you. So I think let's just ignore and forget the whole past and start everything fresh, from introducing one another may be our mutual friend xxc can aid us in this aspect. This time let's behave like matured individuals unlike our childish acts in the past Till then Xxxxxxxxxxx Today she has class at 8 so must take 7.30 bus but skipped the class and took my bus and acted as if not noticing me but when I saw through window image she is staring at me that is my back.... While her sister took the 7.30 bus my friends said that But i smelled something fishy by the situation so backed off from approaching her.... Tell me guys what should I do Edited February 22, 2017 by do_you_care
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 she has told you she has a boyfriend....which should be enough for you to back off....she is taken .means nothing can happen however much you have decided you want it too.......find yourself a young woman in a grey coat who isnt taken..you are young plenty of grey coats left out there for you..i wish you well...deb 1
Erik30 Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 You should do nothing. She already told you she has a boyfriend and is happy being with him. That's when you should've stopped. Those messages you're sending to her are way too much, and you're probably also reading too much into all these situations with her. Find another girl 2
Author do_you_care Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) You should do nothing. She already told you she has a boyfriend and is happy being with him. That's when you should've stopped. Those messages you're sending to her are way too much, and you're probably also reading too much into all these situations with her. Find another girl Yes I already found one but this happened on Monday when i went to college and drinking coffee in canteen....it occurred as if some one is looking me and i turned to find that she is hiding and gauging me with out coat so that i cannot recognize .....but when she noticed that i saw her she fastly walked away.....what should I deduce from it?? Also she is wearing the grey coats every day, newly bought another grey coat, so wearing 2 grey coats alternate days previously she only wore coffee color coat every day for past 5 months Edited February 22, 2017 by do_you_care
Author do_you_care Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) she has told you she has a boyfriend....which should be enough for you to back off....she is taken .means nothing can happen however much you have decided you want it too.......find yourself a young woman in a grey coat who isnt taken..you are young plenty of grey coats left out there for you..i wish you well...deb Dude other day I messaged her this on that day she wore pink coat " by the way you are the most gorgeous girl in world and like the angel when in that grey coat, at-least for me" She daily wore coffee color coat for past 5 months I only saw her wearing grey coat once in that 5 months and complemented it then got the above response,and now she is only wearing grey colour coats from the day I messaged her I.e v day love letter, also brought new coat of same color..... Either she must me teasing me or not knowing what to do with me or deep with me Edited February 22, 2017 by do_you_care
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 At this point you have been rejected twice: once directly when she said no to coffee & again when she told you about the BF. As painfully awkward as this whole thing has been -- I physically cringed multiple times reading your post -- it has to end. Perhaps she was playing a young girls' game to see if she could get some attention from you. Perhaps she did like you at some point but you ignoring her turned her off. Perhaps you are over-reading the whole thing but it needs to end. Her telling you about a BF -- even if he's a lie -- means she does not want to continue to interact with you. Take a different bus. Problem solved. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Stop thinking there are subliminal messages in her coats. This isn't a spy movie. You have now been rejected 3x by this girl. When will you get the hint? She doesn't like you & she has a BF. 4
Miss Spider Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I think you should maybe leave her alone now since she's told you she doesn't want to go out with you and she has a bf.
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Dude other day I messaged her this on that day she wore pink coat " by the way you are the most gorgeous girl in world and like the angel when in that grey coat, at-least for me" She daily wore coffee color coat for past 5 months I only saw her wearing grey coat once in that 5 months and complemented it then got the above response,and now she is only wearing grey colour coats from the day I messaged her I.e v day love letter, also brought new coat of same color..... Either she must me teasing me or not knowing what to do with me or deep with me for starters man....i am not a dude......you have some skills lacking on how to compliment a woman and what to say and what to not say.....this lady isnt for you she has let you know more than once.........i would say she is young...as you are.....you need to move on...and find a young lady who doesnt have a bf...and actually wants to date you...deb 1
Author do_you_care Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 for starters man....i am not a dude......you have some skills lacking on how to compliment a woman and what to say and what to not say.....this lady isnt for you she has let you know more than once.........i would say she is young...as you are.....you need to move on...and find a young lady who doesnt have a bf...and actually wants to date you...deb Hmm OK We are not young she is 23 I'm 25... She is doing her second bachelors and I'm doing by second masters now..... Frankly till now I have never dated any girl
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 We are not young she is 23 I'm 25... She is doing her second bachelors and I'm doing by second masters now..... Frankly till now I have never dated any girl Clearly. Perhaps it's cultural but for you all your book smarts you have very little social skills. Whatever is going on here seems more like middle school then two people in college or beyond. When you asked her out for coffee you did the right thing. When she said no that should have been the end of it. Her laughing, staring, dragging her sister into this & continuing to respond to your messages is confusing but it's also immature & thoughtless on her part. You sending her these love letters or professing your love for her is truly cringe-worthy. STOP. Why do you want to date a woman who is playing all these childish head games?
Author do_you_care Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) Clearly. Perhaps it's cultural but for you all your book smarts you have very little social skills. Whatever is going on here seems more like middle school then two people in college or beyond. When you asked her out for coffee you did the right thing. When she said no that should have been the end of it. Her laughing, staring, dragging her sister into this & continuing to respond to your messages is confusing but it's also immature & thoughtless on her part. You sending her these love letters or professing your love for her is truly cringe-worthy. STOP. Why do you want to date a woman who is playing all these childish head games? Ok got the point I liked her because she is smart and is challenging to me else would have dropped on that day itself... Also she is not a pretty and beautiful lady... Lean figure having bow legs and looks more like this http://www.testedich.de/quiz15/picture/pic_1122445387_1.gif?1331298973 Almost same facial features..... Though I got many beautiful girls who like me I don't know why I'm attracted to this lady Edited February 22, 2017 by do_you_care
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 What she looks like is not as important as how she acts. Here she's acting badly. She also has a BF so that alone means game over for you. Leave her be already. Seriously delete her # from your phone & take a different bus already 1
BaileyB Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Leave this poor woman alone. And, I would suggest that you work on your social skills and learn how to respect personal boundaries.
Sara1989 Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 This dude is freaking me out. Leave this poor girl alone, she is hiding from you as you make her feel uncomfortable.
M_D90 Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 You need to find some chill before you get slapped with a restraining order.
preraph Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I don't know. I think his messages to her were kinda funny and she probably finds him amusing, BUT she has made sure he knows she has a boyfriend and is happy about it, so unless she breaks up, he probably needs to respect her enough to say, "I hope your boyfriend gets hit by a bus or something so I can take you and your gray coat out." (Don't really do that.) Say "Your boyfriend is one lucky guy. Please message me the moment you dump him."
Dub Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I find this thread kinda funny, but yeah OP I'm gonna echo the sentiments being said here, leave here alone, there are plenty of grey coat wearing women out there 1
BaileyB Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I don't know. I think his messages to her were kinda funny and she probably finds him am using." Really, because as a woman I find his behavior really creepy and if it went much further, I would be very, very concerned...
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) Hmm OK We are not young she is 23 I'm 25... She is doing her second bachelors and I'm doing by second masters now..... Frankly till now I have never dated any girl honestly i can tell by your replies that you have not dated many girls....and it turns out to be not one....i dont think her playing games with you like she has, is at all right..its dead wrong considering she has a bf....the first comment she made to you is you have not seen me with my clothes off...weird strange and inappropriate with her being involved with someone else....in saying that she has made it clear to you she is with someone if you are a man of character you will let her go and move on...i feel its more important for you to feel that you are that man of character rather than chase after some girl who ridicules you and plays mind games.....a man of character doesn't go for taken women......you are going for a bachelors or a master...be that intellectual with character...... and when you do end up finding another lady that takes your eye ......treat that young lady with respect and do not bomb her with love letters.....write them if you must ....but keep them for your self....and be not so "full on" with any woman....it can come across badly....please take my advice and others on here...you are borderline stalking her ...her response to you...should be clearer.....if i were you i would be watching the horizon for her bf who she might end up telling....deb Edited February 22, 2017 by todreaminblue
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