DavidBooty Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I am an 18 year old guy and I have a 17 year old girlfriend who is almost 18. I still live with my parents and my girlfriends in kind of a weird situation right now. She lived with her mom but her mom got arrested for assulting a police officer. The only other relative she has is her uncle who is very emotionally abusive to her and has tried to physically hurt her more then once. My gf told me that when she was little he would hit her, thrown her down, shake her and scream in her face for no reason. With good reason my girlfriend is very scared of him and now with him is the only place she has to live with her mom in jail. She's so stressed out over all of this and she has been sobbing for the past two days about this. I don't want her over there living in constant fear of her safety so I asked my mom if she could live with us and myy mom said no. She knows everything about what my girlfriend is going through but my mom hates her and couldn't care less what happens to her. After hours of arguing my mom said fine but that she would move out with my younger siblings and get a hotel room if I bring my girlfriend here. We also live in government housing so we're not allowed to have anyone else live here or we become homeless if the landlord found out. I don't want my mom to leave with them but I can't just let my girlfriend stay with her abusive uncle. I mean for God sake the guy is nuts and would probably rape her!! At the moment my girlfriend is still at her house but with her mom unable to pay the bills she'll have to leave very soon. My entire famliy is giving me hell about bringing her here to live! They're making me choose between them and her! Of course family should always come first. I would never tell my gf this but I would choose them over her in any other situation. But in this situation choosing them would mean putting my girlfriend in danger! It just makes things more complicated.. Advice would be wonderful.
MercuryMorrison1 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 We also live in government housing so we're not allowed to have anyone else live here or we become homeless if the landlord found out. This is probably one of the biggest reasons your mom feels the way she does. By bringing in your girlfriend she would be jeopardizing the well being of herself, you and any other family that legally lives in the government housing. It sucks about your girlfriends situation, but you aren't really in a position of any power to help her, Lest you work and make enough money to live on your own in a place of your choosing in which you could bring her in to live with you. But otherwise...It's house rules.
Toodaloo Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Oh dear lord this is messed up. Just back away from your girlfriend. Protect yourself from your sister and her drugs. Keep yourself on the straight and narrow. Educate yourself, get a job and move out to your own place in a couple of years time. The more I read your threads the more I feel as though I am watching Jerry Springer. Its no way to live. Concentrate on improving yourself so you can look after yourself. You are young. Don't worry about all this other stuff going on. People are responsible for their own actions not you. All of this is toxic. Drama all the time. You need to work on a way to distance yourself from it. The only way to do that is to better yourself and quit surrounding yourself with all of this.
catchthedrift Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 So wait, are you 18 or 24? Your threads don't match up. I feel these stories are all made up.
kendahke Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/519441-my-girlfriend-has-been-toturing-my-ex#post6207857 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/519436-my-girlfriend-emotionally-attacked-humilated-my-sister I have a girlfriend who I've been dating for almost a year now and she has always been the sweetest girl.. We're both 24. I am an 18 year old guy and I have a 17 year old girlfriend who is almost 18. Which is it? 1
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