DavidBooty Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I have a girlfriend who I've been dating for almost a year now and she has always been the sweetest girl.. We're both 24. My sister is 19 and has a drug addiction. She has gotten into the habit of stealing money from people for drugs. Tonight my girlfriend did something and I'm not sure how I feel about it. She was with me and my family at my little cousins birthday party. My girlfriend niticed my sister going outside and my girlfriend followed her to make sure she wasn't going to get her purse out of the car for drug money. Suddenly there's all this yelling and I see my sister chasing my girlfriend and trying to take her phone from her. So what had happened was my girlfriend secretly filmed my sister taking $200 out of my girlfriends purse and busted her while still filming and proudly saying that it was going to be showed to the police and that my sister would be ripped away from everything she loves for this! She filmed my sister having an emotional breakdown and continued to call her names and went on and on about how everyone on facebook will see it too, how she's a dirty drug addict, a slut. My girlfriend ran to the bathroom and locked the door where she put the video on facebook and tagged my sister in it. My little sister left in tears and we still haven't heard from her. Well, obviously that ruined the rest of the birthday party.. My whole family hates my girlfriend now and are saying that they're going to stand by my sister if my girlfriend takes this to the police. Now I'm just caught in the middle and now sure what to do. I hate how my girlfriend handled it. She didn't have to go and film it and post it on facebook! Everyone says I should break up with her now but I don't know if I should. For now I'm trying to talk my girlfriend out of taking this to the police and making things worse. Am I wrong for stopping my gf from reporting my sister for theft of $200 which is very wrong. I never thought my girlfiend would be so vengful.. Edited March 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Toodaloo Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 ...and this is why your family do not like her... Sounds like your girlfriend is being a bit of a drama queen, goodie two shoes... but your sister on the other hand needs to sort her self out. Personally I would keep them separate and if I am brutal I would back away from both. 3
Arieswoman Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 DavidBooty, You have 2 females in your life that have issues and aren't doing you a pile of good. I agree with toodaloo. Dump your girlfriend, then if she goes to the police it isn't your problem. I am concerned that your family would "stand by" your sister when she has committed a crime. She has gotten into the habit of stealing money from people for drugs So what has been done about this? Do you live at home on in your own place? If you live alone I'd distance yourself from your family until they stop turning a blind eye to your sister's problem. 2
mammasita Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I dunno, I'm on your girlfriends side. No, not completely. She shouldn't have been name calling nor posted the video on Facebook BUT, your family has obviously been enabling your sister and WTF they're on your sisters side if your GF goes to the police for stealing money for drugs? 7
PegNosePete Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) My whole family hates my girlfriend now and are saying that they're going to stand by my sister if my girlfriend takes this to the police. Of course they are, duh. They are her family. That is what families do, stick together. I'm not sure what difference it will make to the police though. The police do not consider whose side a family take when there has been a crime committed. Your GF has clear evidence of a crime being committed and it pretty much seems like an open and shut case, your sister is clearly guilty of stealing $200. Yes your GF acted quite poorly with the name calling and the facebook uploading. But she did just catch a drug addict trying to steal $200 from her. I would be pretty annoyed if I caught someone trying to steal $200 from me, too. No I do not think you should talk her out of taking it to the police. She has been the victim of a crime and your sister shows no remorse whatsoever, quite the opposite in fact, she is blaming your GF when she is clearly the initiator of this whole episode by stealing your GF's money. Your sister should be begging her not to go to the police and asking her forgiveness. Your sister is guilty of a crime and needs to see some consequences of her actions. Everyone rallying around to defend her will not do her any good in the long run. Edited March 12, 2015 by PegNosePete 2
h0000 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 pttt this guy has another thread saying he is 18 and his gf is 17 2
Toodaloo Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 pttt this guy has another thread saying he is 18 and his gf is 17 All the more reason for him to set up what is known as "boundaries" and a sense of right/ wrong and what are good and bad situations for him to be in and deal with them before he gets messed up...
idoltree Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I agree with others. Your family has been enabling your sister's criminal behavior, and this is what happens when your family chooses to do that. Eventually you sister tries to mess with someone who will stand up to her. And then she has the nerve to feel like a victim? This mess is partially your family's fault. By not holding your sister responsible, it has made her bold, and she thinks she can branch out with her petty theft and other people will enable it too. They won't. This is the reality if she keeps it up and if your family keeps turning a blind eye. In that way, it will be a good thing for your sister if your girlfriend goes to the police. Someone needs to hold your sister accountable lest she settle comfortably into a life of drugs and crime. Secondly, your girlfriend had a right to feel wronged and she had a right to capture evidence of your sister's stealing. However she also showed she had a cruel streak by posting the video publicly and calling your sister names. That part of it is not okay. Do not confuse this piece of it with your girlfriend's right to do what she did. She simply took it too far. However, I have to wonder how much she has watched your family enable your sister and if that led to her frustration. That possibly contributed to her anger and her sense of vengeance. 2
kendahke Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/519441-my-girlfriend-has-been-toturing-my-ex#post6207857 Now the girlfriend is torturing his ex with basically the same shtick. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Am I wrong for stopping my gf from reporting my sister for theft of $200 which is very wrong. I never thought my girlfiend would be so vengful.. Of course you are wrong!! The sister is the one who has needed some tough love from the rest of you, for a long, long time!! And you have collectively not done enough. Once the line is crossed where someone breaks a law then it is time for you and your family to cease all of the absurd lying and covering-up and play by the book! Which includes telling the authorities the truth about anything they ask. To be angry with your girlfriend over this is worse than would be being angry at your neighbor for having a video tape surveillance of his garage, and of any theft ongoing there while he is at work... and then his taking that videotape to the police upon his getting robbed. Had this been your grandmother's purse, and not your girlfriend's, you MIGHT have a case where your GF should let your grandmother tend to her own concerns (and it sounds like the rest of your family wouldn't care a whole lot about someone stealing from your grandmother in such a way). PS - just learned that all of your stories/entries are fake.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Sorry OP but your girlfriend is a huge bitch and you should dump her ass. Anyone who starts Facebook Drama is a tool in my opinion, and what your GF did was over the top. Posting a video of a crime being committed and tagging that person, with them subsequently having an emotional breakdown with names being called -- that's REALLY LOW.... Yes it sounds like your Sister has a drug problem and needs a mixture of TOUGH LOVE , and some HELP... But as long as she didn't make away with the $200 I don't think the police should have been involved, and it should be kept in the family. EDIT: Oh... This sounds fake. Can't believe I wasted my time...
SomeDude16 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I hate three things more than anything in life 1. People who abuse animals 2. People who abuse people 3. Thieves Your sister needs to grow up. I would react the same way, the name calling could have been done without but the Facebook part is irrelevant. Had she been arrested her info would be public record anyway. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I hate three things more than anything in life 1. People who abuse animals 2. People who abuse people 3. Thieves Your sister needs to grow up. I would react the same way, the name calling could have been done without but the Facebook part is irrelevant. Had she been arrested her info would be public record anyway. I'd have to say its not that black and white. Especially when family is involved. Family sticks by you no matter what, there are people who have MURDERED and their family still sticks by them. Theft is nothing compared to that. Of course her family is going to stick by her and be pissed at the OP's GF, she effectively publicly humiliated their family - not to mention emotionally devastating the sister. If the GF wanted to be a part of that family, she would have dealt with the situation more delicately. Edited March 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Topical content
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 You have a big problem, and it's not your girlfriend. Your sister needs to go to drug rehab.
Satu Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 She's innocent. It was Pinnochio who took the money. 3
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) 2. People who abuse people. you really don't. you can't even recognize abuse when you read about it - what OP's girlfriend did to his sister IS abuse. Your sister needs to grow up. educate yourself about addiction (drug abuse) before you tell an addict to "grow up" - you're embarrassing yourself. I would react the same way, the name calling could have been done without but the Facebook part is irrelevant. Had she been arrested her info would be public record anyway. recording someone during their breakdown and putting it on FB is NOT the same thing as getting someone arrested & getting them the help they need. the shame during those 2 moments & the embarrassment a person feels is NOT the same. how can you possibly not understand that? it's not the same when people know you've been arrested and when they actually see your breakdown & you at your worst on the Internet. like... what is wrong with people? why would you even do that? why would you even film someone who obviously needs help? OP's sister is not a thief - she is a drug addict stuck with a bunch of people who don't have the sligthest idea how to help her. addicts don't steal because they like to steal - they steal because they need their next shot. like... you see someone stealing from you & having a breakdown and the FIRST thing you do is pull your phone out and put in on FB? fix it, jesus. OP - dump the girl. immediately. she is petty, immature, abusive & emotionally damaged. then focus on your sister & get her the help she needs. Edited March 12, 2015 by minimariah
SomeDude16 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) you really don't. you can't even recognize abuse when you read about it - what OP's girlfriend did to his sister IS abuse. educate yourself about addiction (drug abuse) before you tell an addict to "grow up" - you're embarrassing yourself. recording someone during their breakdown and putting it on FB is NOT the same thing as getting someone arrested & getting them the help they need. the shame during those 2 moments & the embarrassment a person feels is NOT the same. how can you possibly not understand that? it's not the same when people know you've been arrested and when they actually see your breakdown & you at your worst on the Internet. like... what is wrong with people? why would you even do that? why would you even film someone who obviously needs help? OP's sister is not a thief - she is a drug addict stuck with a bunch of people who don't have the sligthest idea how to help her. addicts don't steal because they like to steal - they steal because they need their next shot. like... you see someone stealing from you & having a breakdown and the FIRST thing you do is pull your phone out and put in on FB? fix it, jesus. OP - dump the girl. immediately. she is petty, immature, abusive & emotionally damaged. then focus on your sister & get her the help she needs. The abuse part you misread, I was putting into prospective my disdain for thieves. You cannot justify stealing money for drugs, plain and simple. Don't want to be embarrassed?? Don't break the law. Edited March 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
William Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 OK, with three members already moderated for their public statements regarding the veracity of this thread topic, I'll up the ante. The next utterance shall be suspended for a week. Either address the topic or move on or simply leave our forums. We have no need nor desire for such people to populate it. Clear?
Redhead14 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I have a girlfriend who I've been dating for almost a year now and she has always been the sweetest girl.. We're both 24. My sister is 19 and has a drug addiction. She has gotten into the habit of stealing money from people for drugs. Tonight my girlfriend did something and I'm not sure how I feel about it. She was with me and my family at my little cousins birthday party. My girlfriend niticed my sister going outside and my girlfriend followed her to make sure she wasn't going to get her purse out of the car for drug money. Suddenly there's all this yelling and I see my sister chasing my girlfriend and trying to take her phone from her. and busted her while still filming and proudly saying that it was going to be showed to the police and that my sister would be ripped away from everything she loves for this! She filmed my sister having an emotional breakdown and continued to call her names and went on and on about how everyone on facebook will see it too, how she's a dirty drug addict, a slut. My girlfriend ran to the bathroom and locked the door where she put the video on facebook and tagged my sister in it. My little sister left in tears and we still haven't heard from her. Well, obviously that ruined the rest of the birthday party.. My whole family hates my girlfriend now and are saying that they're going to stand by my sister if my girlfriend takes this to the police. Now I'm just caught in the middle and now sure what to do. I hate how my girlfriend handled it. She didn't have to go and film it and post it on facebook! Everyone says I should break up with her now but I don't know if I should. For now I'm trying to talk my girlfriend out of taking this to the police and making things worse. Am I wrong for stopping my gf from reporting my sister for theft of $200 which is very wrong. I never thought my girlfiend would be so vengful.. Your sister stole $200 from your girlfriend! That is a crime. Whether your sister stole from your girlfriend or anyone else. Your girlfriend should have called the police. (I don't agree with posting it on facebook, however, and that is a separate issue mostly about the maturity level of your girlfriend). Nevertheless, you and your family are enabling your sister by protecting her from consequences of her actions. Your girlfriend should distance herself from you and your family. Why are you afraid of making things worse? Are the two of you involved in drugs as well and afraid of being outted too? There is something very wrong about this whole scenario.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Your sister stole $200 from your girlfriend! That is a crime. Whether your sister stole from your girlfriend or anyone else. Your girlfriend should have called the police. (I don't agree with posting it on facebook, however, and that is a separate issue mostly about the maturity level of your girlfriend). Nevertheless, you and your family are enabling your sister by protecting her from consequences of her actions. Your girlfriend should distance herself from you and your family. Why are you afraid of making things worse? Are the two of you involved in drugs as well and afraid of being outted too? There is something very wrong about this whole scenario. I think most families would rather not involve the police unless absolutely necessary though. They could agree to have her check in to rehab instead of pressing charges for example. Regardless - it's not his GF's family, so she should have been more delicate in that situation. If she didn't create such a scene with the whole Facebook debacle, I would be less inclined to point fingers at his Girlfriend. Fact is, the Facebook piece was highly unnecessary. What troubled me more was his GF was calling her names WHILE filming her, and calling her a "dirty slut". If it was MY sister who was publicly humiliated like that, I'd be pretty mad too - drug problem or not. I would want my Sister to get help in a way that didn't involve me or other family members embarrassing her in front of the world and sending her to court.
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