lonesurvivorever Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Hello folks. It has been months since my last post. I've done pretty well lately and I'm here now to update a new phenomenal date story of my latest. I hope some mature men and women can shed some light on it, middle age ones preferably. The date is still with that professor of mine in my history posts. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/459205-men-using-relationships-convenience-free-sexI know it sounds a little pathetic for me still seeing him, but life is sometimes complicated. This man is just someone that I haven't experienced, have a strong feeling for and he has a very puzzling, complex character. Again to clarify, I'm around 30, he is 40. Both unmarried. After last time I posted here and got so many tremendous feedback from you guys, I bravely put on a proud face and cut him loose the next time he timidly asked me out. Then we had zero contact for about a couple months. I did a lot of self-advancement stuff during this period, got a new job and new life. but still thinking about this man. To be honest, the main reason I cut him loose last time was because I couldn't deal with his "heavy" past with exotic women, aka his "fetish". Afterwards, I kept thinking about if I had some complex about this as well. If I really value him in some parts, should I try to adjust my own standards or "quirks"? At a day when the pleasant spring is approaching, I was in a mood to give another shot at him to see if I can figure him out more. I texted him a very short "hey stranger" stuff and he responded immediately. Then a new round between him and I started. I found that he didnot delete my number which I would probably do. and in a sudden he started asking me ton of questions as usual like we never lost any touch. This is a part really puzzled me at first. Because our first date ended miserably because he brought up sex and kissed me on the lips as my former professor. But after some back and forth ongoings in the new round, I gradually tested and figured that he is certainly not an *******-like player. Indeed, he has a nerd side that he put in disguise using all his social and professional experience from the past 40 years. It can be evidenced by how he kept asking me all the details about my life and my past. So then I felt a lot better about him as a man because who would bother going through these if he is aiming for a few stands with you only？He reached the soft part of my heart especially in a late night that we misunderstood on some date plan, he then kept texting me his real thoughts on me. At that moment, I realized something I failed to notice before which was I acted way too mysteriously for many men. He said himself he liked me but wasn't sure how it would go. From that night, his position in my heart has been lifted further because he opened up and I was inspired then took some notes from him. So basically things went well, he kept texting me and saying hi until the day we finally met for a second date, which is about two weeks later. The date turned to be very dramatic in a subtle way which I will put in another post.
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