Butterflying Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) Previous Thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/398078-he-s-32-lives-roomates-no-drivers-license I went out with the guy for pizza last Friday night. We agreed to meet there. He had a friend drop him off. We talked for over four hours. He was good company. And he truly is very handsome physically. However, here is what I learned about him during that time: He smokes at least a pack of cigarettes every day. He smokes marijuana occasionally. The reason that he lost his license was the result of being arrested for selling or using drugs. Now he has legal fines he has been paying for the past two years. He can't get his license back until the debt is paid. He expects that to be another year. Before all the legal issues he had his own house, car, and several girlfriends. His life was great. But now he lives in a house that is shared by three other people (1 female, 2 guys). They all get along well because they smoke, drink, and have dogs for pets. Each person has a similar story how they ended up there. The roommates ages range from 40 to 55. Billy (the guy) says he has been looking for a woman like me for a long time. Admittedly he needs my help getting out of his situation. He wants to live better. His construction job is sporadic, so he doesn't earn a lot of money. Sometimes he works. Sometimes he doesn't. He would like me to help him start a business since I have experience with that. I took him home after the date. That's how I met the roommates. Monday morning I contacted a business development friend of mine and arranged a meeting with Billy to discuss a business plan. Billy arrived late for the meeting. He smelled like alcohol and smoke. It was 11:30 in the morning. My friend was willing to give him a huge break with cost to get business cards, a website, and signs to go outside of the homes he working on to advertise his construction company. But Billy was only interested because he thought I was going to pay for all of that. "I thought you were going to help me," he said after the meeting. But I thought I was helping him by introducing him to my friend and getting a huge discount on services that will increase his business. So now he's not interested in the business anymore. He called yesterday we spoke briefly over the phone. But today we didn't see each other or speak at all. This lets me know he's not really serious about starting a business. Therefore he lacks ambition. It doesn't matter what material possessions he has or doesn't have. Bad habits combined with a history of legal and drug problems is what landed him where he is right now. Without ambition and responsibility he is stuck. It's not my job to help him if he's not motivated to help himself first. But hey, I took most of you LoveShack folk's advise and gave it a try!! Plus: I don't smoke. I don't do drugs. I don't drink alcohol every day. And I'm allergic to dogs. Edited June 6, 2013 by Butterflying
normal person Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I didn't read the other thread but this guy sounds like a complete waste of your time. Even the mental energy you expended writing a few paragraphs about him is more than he deserves from you. I'm sure there's a nice, ambitious, law abiding guy out there for you somewhere. Keep looking, I say!
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Definitely dodged a bullet but hopefully you still had a semi good time!
Jane2011 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I went on one date a long time ago with a guy who reminds me of your guy. He was hot as hell, but he chain-smoked and had nothing going for him. He didn't like me on our date because I didn't get drunk with him and his friends.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 That was a few bullets that you dodged Matrix style!
Treasa Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 Yeah, when I went how your date went, I think I forgot to post, but I did feel like he was a total loser. It's sad that his uncle feels he needs to set him up with people. You deserve so much better.
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