Critique my OLD profile (with pictures)

[Mrlonelyone]

Yes you have seen me write about someone I met at my school/workplace lately and I do badmouth OLD much of the time.

 

Never the less I do engage in this on a certain TG specific dating website. So everyone knows that going in and should be cool with it.

 

Profile begins below

 

Looking for the real thing.

Age: 32 YR OLD

 

Gender: Woman,M2F Pre-op TS,M2F Non OP,

 

Sexual orientation: bi

 

Looking for: Man,Woman,F2M Pre-op TS,F2M Non OP,

 

Location: IL

United States

 

Relationship Status: single

 

I am looking for: dating, love, friendship, marriage,

 

Sexually, I am: Versatile

 

Living Situation: With Family

 

Birthdate: 1980 (32 years old)

 

Height: 5'10" (178 cm)

 

Body Type: athletic

 

My religion is: muslim

 

Speaks: english,

 

Occupation: Scientist

 

Hair Color: black

 

Eye Color: brown

 

Body art: none

 

Best Feature: butt

 

Education: Masters Degree in progress.

 

Drinking: Social Drinker

 

Smoking: I don't smoke

 

Turn On's: Creativity, Positivity, good character

 

Turn Off's: Negativity, self stereotyping, bad character.

 

Willing to Relocate: No

 

Interests: gaming, genealogy, gardening, travel

 

Favorite Movie/Musician/Group: Johnny Cash

 

Favorite Author/Book: Newton/ Philsosophea Naturalis Principia Mathematica

 

Pets: Cat

 

About me:

 

I am 32 years old and ready as I'll ever be for the real thing to come along.

 

 

Here are my vital stats.

 

 

5'10"

 

 

165lbs

 

 

39-27-40

 

 

Leo - if that matters to you.

 

 

I went to school to study physics and have a Masters Degree nearly completed. My hobbies include gardening, gaming (PC Xbox), traveling to historically interesting places in the USA. All kinds of music which has a good beat and good lyrics or a good story, from country to R&B and rap are on my MP3 player.

 

 

I am not terribly religious but spiritual matters concern me.

 

 

Seeking

I am looking for a man, FTM pre or non-op with whom I can share the real thing ( note to LS:This is a TG dating site. I can find women better offline). Physically I have been with biological females and males, admittedly more males but I know I can enjoy it with someone that's sexually compatible.

 

 

The person I am looking for has to be someone who is creative and/or interested in learning as I am. My comptable partner will love learning about the world and creating new things, as much as I do. I am looking for a partner with whom I can feel mutual intellectual stimulation.

 

 

The person I am looking for has to be not just looking for a quick secret encounter. If that's what your looking for look elsewhere.

 

 

Physically I need a man or transman who is within three inches of my height, give or take, and who takes care of their health. You don't need to be ripped to be my lover.

 

Photos

Actual captions used are in ()

 

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/09/chilover_803150226.jpg

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/09/chilover_2122201912.jpg (Don't have the huge implants anymore but still a C cup.)

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/09/chilover_1147775215.jpg (My headshot from earlier this year.)

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/11/chilover_1023452952.jpg (Me at 3AM and unglam as possible. If you seek what I do then you want to see this as much or more than the glamorous side of my (many TG's lives).)

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/11/chilover_1848298506.jpg (Me normal and everyday)

 

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Pics that aren't on the dating website but facebook. I think ya'll would probably like to see.

 

Me presenting as a man as I did for about six months a couple years ago.

https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/166250_1480327782036_3253940_n.jpg

 

Me now presenting more as a woman though I don't consider myself to litterally be a woman, I am transgender. This is how I look at work/school. See how big a difference a little bit of clothing makes.

 

https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/538781_3465499210081_1774085091_n.jpg

 

Me in front of a white board full of physics.

https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/527724_3568282059588_529483218_n.jpg

 

If anyone wonders what I was born as or how I was Id'd at birth this baby pic should answer it.

 

https://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/31707_1275633784814_7737410_n.jpg

 

Well. There you have it That's how I present online. My questions to you are as follows.

 

What are your general impressions?

 

What about my profile makes men on that dating website think that I am just up for exchanging nude photos or hooking up after little more than a hello?

 

Would this profile be wise to use on a website like POF, Chemistry.com or others which are more LGBT friendly. (Tried EH once, their whole organization is utterly unable to deal with people like me.)

 

How about my facebook pictures. If you were a FB friend of mine and could see pics like those do they make me look more or less attractive as a possible partner ( BF or GF depending on your definitions).

[pteromom]

Oh my gosh. You are cute. COMPLETELY different than I imagined you. Not that I imagined you ugly, but just looking at your photos, you look like someone who would be fun to know.

 

My first comment was going to be that you should make a separate profile for women, but then you noted it was on a TG site.

 

I think it sounds good. You give an impression of who you are. You make it obvious that you aren't just looking for a hookup. You include adorable photos. (I would probably remove the one in the bustier where you are noting your implants, because it gives the impression you are looking for sex and you are gonna get unwanted propositions due to it.)

 

I think it would be worthwhile to post on POF or other OLD sites, but I think you should create a title that includes that you are transgender looking for a LTR. You may not get a lot of nibbles, but all you need is one good one, right?

[Mrlonelyone]

Thankyou for answering.

 

Oh my gosh. You are cute. COMPLETELY different than I imagined you. Not that I imagined you ugly, but just looking at your photos, you look like someone who would be fun to know.

 

I know when people think scientist they don't think of someone like me at all. I don't have that kind of look.

 

My first comment was going to be that you should make a separate profile for women, but then you noted it was on a TG site.

 

That may be a good idea on certain websites.

 

I think it sounds good. You give an impression of who you are. You make it obvious that you aren't just looking for a hookup. You include adorable photos. (I would probably remove the one in the bustier where you are noting your implants, because it gives the impression you are looking for sex and you are gonna get unwanted propositions due to it.)

 

You may be right about that. We MTF transwomen complain about sexualizeation...yet we all have pictures like that and when going to socialize dress sexily. It's part of the complex we have.

 

I think it would be worthwhile to post on POF or other OLD sites, but I think you should create a title that includes that you are transgender looking for a LTR. You may not get a lot of nibbles, but all you need is one good one, right?

 

That's right. I don't need the whole sea. In my lifetime I would just like to have one, or even two truly loonngg term relationships (i.e. Marriage level committed relationships).

[River Rain]

I like your profile, I would take the 3am photo out though, but that's just me. I tend to put photos of me up without makeup and in less-than-chic clothing, but I do also choose the best of them.

 

I also agree about the boob shot. That could attract the casual daters and hookup-ers.

 

How about a different tag line? "Looking for the real thing" is kind of overused in my opinion. I struggled with my own when I was OLD, I ended up writing "Red hair and freckles, that's me!". I got a lot more attention when I changed the subject line..good and bad.

 

But you know, I think a lot of the OLD sites are a meat market, there are a few diamonds in the rough though. You may have to go through lots of those propositions before getting someone serious to message you.

[Mrlonelyone]

I like your profile, I would take the 3am photo out though, but that's just me. I tend to put photos of me up without makeup and in less-than-chic clothing, but I do also choose the best of them.

 

I'm actually not wearing makeup in any or most of those pictures.

 

 

I also agree about the boob shot. That could attract the casual daters and hookup-ers.

 

I'll pass that idea onto others on this website. It has a forum attached and a common complaint is those kind of guys. Most all of us have at least one glamour shot though. Perahps that's the reason.

 

How about a different tag line? "Looking for the real thing" is kind of overused in my opinion. I struggled with my own when I was OLD, I ended up writing "Red hair and freckles, that's me!". I got a lot more attention when I changed the subject line..good and bad.

 

But you know, I think a lot of the OLD sites are a meat market, there are a few diamonds in the rough though. You may have to go through lots of those propositions before getting someone serious to message you.

 

What's worse is I have one guy who I message with when I'm on. He just lives 1000 miles away. I'd almost prefer having gotten no bites at all.

[River Rain]

What's worse is I have one guy who I message with when I'm on. He just lives 1000 miles away. I'd almost prefer having gotten no bites at all.

 

That's hard. I'm kind of in limbo myself. I'm moving away from here in 5 months so I don't want to meet anyone here...so I put "my" city as the one I'll be moving too, so I was getting a lot of bites, as you said, well said!, but a lot of them lost interest when they found out I didn't live in their city. I did meet one guy, we may have potential, at least he wants to take it slow, but he was the only one who seemed serious of the hundreds of others, and that was after 6 weeks OLD on OKC, POF and EH. I think a lot of people go on there to pass the time and be entertained, I haven't found lots of serious people. But I do hope you find someone, it's hard to be alone, I really hate it!

[Mrlonelyone]

I think a lot of people go on there to pass the time and be entertained, I haven't found lots of serious people.

 

Exactly! So many guys and many women as the guys here engage in OLD with no intention of doing anything for real.

 

Too many, guys go on looking for in my case sexy chat with a "tranny" or "shemale" as we are called in porn (the fastest growing segment of porn by the way). They should just pay the 3.95/min to the websites that are for that. More often the want an emotional affair because they don't really love or even like their wives anymore.

 

Too many, women go on looking for the same thing. They just need a boost not really truly looking.

 

I swear the same thing happens on pay sites.

 

It's hard to be alone I really hate it.

 

Yeah it can be. It's not just the being alone it's the lack of hope that anyone we want to be with will also want to be with us. You are not alone, there are plenty of people here who feel just the same.

[River Rain]

Exactly! So many guys and many women as the guys here engage in OLD with no intention of doing anything for real.

 

Too many, guys go on looking for in my case sexy chat with a "tranny" or "shemale" as we are called in porn (the fastest growing segment of porn by the way). They should just pay the 3.95/min to the websites that are for that. More often the want an emotional affair because they don't really love or even like their wives anymore.

 

Too many, women go on looking for the same thing. They just need a boost not really truly looking.

 

I swear the same thing happens on pay sites.

 

I admit I went OLD right after the first break up with the ex to boost my ego. Mind you, I only responded to the non-serious messages, knowing that if I disappeared, I wouldn't be hurting anyone. I got some "hey want to get hot with me?" type of messages on EHarmony! They're paying fifty bucks a month for a hookup!

 

Yes, it's true, it's an emotional affair. I've encountered that a few times as well when I've found out they are married but (the typical) "we're not happy, I'll be divorcing her soon"...it's very easy to do that these days because of the anonymity of the internet, and the availability of people willing to chat.

 

It's like time over number of messages...eventually you'll get one that clicks.

[Mrlonelyone]

I admit I went OLD right after the first break up with the ex to boost my ego. Mind you, I only responded to the non-serious messages, knowing that if I disappeared, I wouldn't be hurting anyone. I got some "hey want to get hot with me?" type of messages on EHarmony! They're paying fifty bucks a month for a hookup!

 

Yes, it's true, it's an emotional affair. I've encountered that a few times as well when I've found out they are married but (the typical) "we're not happy, I'll be divorcing her soon"...it's very easy to do that these days because of the anonymity of the internet, and the availability of people willing to chat.

 

It's like time over number of messages...eventually you'll get one that clicks.

 

Perhaps we should just learn to enjoy emotional affairs for what they are instead of wanting them to be more so bad? Not everyone is even able to be engaging enough through words and still photos alone to do that.

 

 

 

The website I OLD on gives the option of posting a video.

Almost no one does, might it be a good idea?

[River Rain]

Perhaps we should just learn to enjoy emotional affairs for what they are instead of wanting them to be more so bad? Not everyone is even able to be engaging enough through words and still photos alone to do that.

 

 

 

The website I OLD on gives the option of posting a video.

Almost no one does, might it be a good idea?

 

I think a video is a great idea. In fact, I'm doing one for my possible love interest tonight, just to say hello and goodnight. Serious people do like the personal touch.

 

Emotional affairs? I don't think I could learn to enjoy them for what they are because I'll always be wanting more.

[Mrlonelyone]

I think a video is a great idea. In fact, I'm doing one for my possible love interest tonight, just to say hello and goodnight. Serious people do like the personal touch.

 

Emotional affairs? I don't think I could learn to enjoy them for what they are because I'll always be wanting more.

 

 

Well I'll admit to enjoying talking to the one guy who's 1000 miles away. He's at least funny sometimes.

 

I wonder why no guys replied to this post?

[snowflakes88]

I have no substantive suggestions, but you are totally adorable. And such a cute kid.

[nessaaa]

Are u reallu a guy?

 

You look better as a girl.

[nessaaa]

Your hair needs some extra virgin coconut oil..dry hair not cute.

Bet u have cute curls tho..

[Mrlonelyone]

Thanks.

 

Yes, biologically I am male 46 XY, I produce a full complement of Green Beret's every day. I checked.

 

Yet socially I am more like a woman in many ways. Admittedly I haven't been raised with some of the training that women are given in our society. Yet I can feel some of the discrimination against them.

 

i.e. Having my science recieved one way when I am thought a man, then suddenly being seen as an incompetent when I am seen as a woman.

[threebyfate]

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/09/chilover_803150226.jpg

http://transgenderdate.com/upload/pics/2012/09/chilover_2122201912.jpg (Don't have the huge implants anymore but still a C cup.)

 

What about my profile makes men on that dating website think that I am just up for exchanging nude photos or hooking up after little more than a hello?

The above two pics, especially the second pic, would encourage men to solicit for nude photos and hooking up.

[ja123]

What do you mean by "Green Beret's"?

[Mrlonelyone]

What do you mean by "Green Beret's"?

 

My spermatozoa.

[xdahliax]

I think your profile is fine. Maybe put some humour in there, humour always gets me. I'd also get rid of the photo of you on your bed, it will definitely attract the wrong type of men. My favourite picture is the first, you look absolutely gorgeous. I'd prefer it without the cleavage, but all women have some. I'd definitely crop the picture to hide that your leg is showing, because the cleavage + leg together sort of sends the same signal as the bed picture.