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Old 14th December 2011, 3:43 PM   #1
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What's your deal breaker?

Recently for me, it was finding out a guy had a daughter in another state he never saw or took care of.

Coming from a single mom home, I know how important having a father in a little girl's life can sometimes make or break her view on relationships as an adult.

Since he was nonchalant about it, I decided to pass on him as well.

Judgmental? Maybe...but to me, it was a deal breaker. What are some of yours?
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:32 PM   #2
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There have been some threads about this, for example:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301353/
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:38 PM   #3
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My number one dealbreaker would have to be... "attention whores." Sorry couldn't resist!

Seriously, some include impulsive sex, spending, substance or risk-taking habits; FWBs or exes still in the picture; more than two prior marriages; children by more than one prior man; prior felony record; untreated diagnosed personality disorders; being on SSRIs or anti anxiety meds or in therapy and not making serious steps to get off them and out of therapy.
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:38 PM   #4
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Recently for me, it was finding out a guy had a daughter in another state he never saw or took care of.

Coming from a single mom home, I know how important having a father in a little girl's life can sometimes make or break her view on relationships as an adult.

Since he was nonchalant about it, I decided to pass on him as well.

Judgmental? Maybe...but to me, it was a deal breaker. What are some of yours?
Passing on him was the right thing to. He would probably do the same if you had kids with him and your relationship didn't work out.
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:43 PM   #5
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Recently for me, it was finding out a guy had a daughter in another state he never saw or took care of.

Coming from a single mom home, I know how important having a father in a little girl's life can sometimes make or break her view on relationships as an adult.

Since he was nonchalant about it, I decided to pass on him as well.

Judgmental? Maybe...but to me, it was a deal breaker. What are some of yours?
My deal breaker is people who are judgemental

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If you're *that* concerned about it, eat a cheeseburger. If not, you're just an attention whore.
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Butterface.
Just saying... oh wait.
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:49 PM   #6
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I have went on about hypotheticals but one time I actually walked out on a date over a deal breaker was a woman telling me she once falsely accused an ex of rape. I walked out and paid the check upfront with the hostess and never talked to her again.

I also walked out when I found a date was married.

Other dealbreakers are being a misandrist and having a history of treating men like crap.
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:51 PM   #7
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My absolute deal breakers are someone who is divorced, who has children, no education past high school or drug use.

Then I have a bunch of others that aren't absolute but they will strongly sway against his favor. If he lived with someone previously, if he keep in active contact with exes, tons of female friends few close male friends...

I really DO NOT like guys with baggage. lol.
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Old 14th December 2011, 4:57 PM   #8
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A woman who has had difficult marital and childhood issues and still drones on about them at 50+ years old.

Any woman whose cup is half empty, meaning she complains more than sharing her joys and optimisms, and especially when those complaints are about other people, and especially her family.

Need I go on?
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My deal breaker is people who are judgemental
Just saying... oh wait.
Good thing I'm not trolling for a man online.
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Recently for me, it was finding out a guy had a daughter in another state he never saw or took care of.

Coming from a single mom home, I know how important having a father in a little girl's life can sometimes make or break her view on relationships as an adult.

Since he was nonchalant about it, I decided to pass on him as well.

Judgmental? Maybe...but to me, it was a deal breaker. What are some of yours?
I wouldn't care if it's judgmental! Point is you know it wouldn't work for you and I agree. If a man doesn't take care of the children he has then you will surely find yourself in the same position! Lets you know right away what kind of man he is.

My deal breakers:
*Smokers.
*Dead beat dads.
*Men with children who don't respect the mother of their children.
*Men with children who talk to their children's mother about their personal life and seem to be close in every way. Getting along for the kids sake is fine, knowing the ins and outs of each others lives makes me suspicious.
*Men who have a record.

I will think of more lol
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Good thing I'm not trolling for a man online.
Thank god!
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Old 14th December 2011, 5:18 PM   #12
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I don't have many dealbreakers when it comes to dating. If marriage or long term were to enter into the equation, there'd be quite a few...

-Shallowness and pettiness
-Too conservative (politically)
-Not enough motivation in life
-Religious views
-Apathy towards those less fortunate
-No appreciation of music

There's others that have to do mostly with the way she treats other people. Kids, ex-husbands, poverty level, and education I could deal with so long as she was working to better herself.

I could never deal with a narrow vapid woman though.
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Old 14th December 2011, 5:22 PM   #13
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My absolute deal breakers are someone who is divorced, who has children.
My ex-wife left me, and you wouldn't date for me for that simple fact if you were attracted to me? I didn't want my divorce, and tried to save my marriage with counseling. Some people give up on being married. You don't like kids? Do you even want kids?
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I have went on about hypotheticals but one time I actually walked out on a date over a deal breaker was a woman telling me she once falsely accused an ex of rape.
Oh hell no!
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an ex in the picture
some1 who has a beard, maybe just my preference
a man who shouts at me, who needs to be yelled at?
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