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Old 21st September 2018, 12:52 AM   #31
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Originally Posted by Andy_K View Post
Congrats, good luck! Let us know how it works out. Sometimes it's good to hear the success stories, since you naturally hear most about the unsuccessful ones here.
Thank you for asking! In every quantifiable manner, today was a great success! The biggest measurement of success, and improvement, is that she met me, and we're still talking.

We met for lunch. The conversation was good, and she held her own, doing about 50% of the talking. One of the things I asked her about was her online dating experience. She mentioned being ghosted, and starting conversations which end after a sentence or two and she never hears from the man again. I was pretty surprised. I didn't think this happened to women. She said she doesn't like that Bumble had very little depth to profiles. I agreed, but explained that the benefit is that it's easier to get a conversation going -- on Match, with too many data elements, people find reasons to reject a person too easily. This was a perspective she hadn't considered, and liked what I said. I also learned that she's an extrovert (I'm an introvert). She maintained eye contact the whole time, which I loved (she has beautiful eyes). The lunch ended with her giving me a hug (which I really liked).

She seems really cool. I like her a lot but am not infatuated with her (yet?). Her interest in me seems mild. My occasional compliments get no response, and there are no compliments from her, which I interpret as low interest. Given how inexperienced I am, I'm not sure what to make of this. I'm guessing this is how "normal" people start relationships, or possibly it's a sign of it not going anywhere...I'm not quite sure. Can you become in love, or should you know immediately? I knew immediately with my son's mom. It was ridiculously intense, fast paced, exciting, unhealthy, a total train wreck, and bad parts aside, the best years of my life.

I messaged her about 40 minutes later thanking her and letting her know I'd like to continue. I asked her to think it over and let me know if she is interested. An hour later she said she would be happy to. We texted for several hours this afternoon, at a rate which was to my liking (which is to say, a LOT of texting). I'm not quite sure where this is going, but am going to try to keep meeting with her to find out.
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