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Old 18th August 2017, 6:59 PM   #31
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Have you ever had a situation where your BF/GF left you and after all that he/she came back to you and wanted to date you again. Or it doesn't even have to be BF/GF it can be your date you really liked but rejected you for someone else. How did it go? Did you get back together or was it just waste of time?
I personally have had a couple situations like this. My problem, as a man, is that when they come back after breaking up with you because of someone else, I don't feel like a man anymore. I mean I feel like im not the same man as I used to be when I first met her. I don't feel like im in charge or that im the catch/prize anymore. And thats the feeling you, as a man, should have when dating women. Being chased by them and be the leader. You need to feel your power.

I only feel like a pussy who is taking back queen highness and I feel like I have 0 value. I don't trust myself or them that they like me. I feel like im her doormat and she is more valuable than I am.

Have you ever turned something like this into a healthy relationship? How have you turned it to feel like a man/female again and feel that you are the prize and have a high value again?
No. Never have or ever will, but I can call most of my GFs and chat anytime. I generally do not leave on a bad note with my mate.

I am that guy that pulls out the remote from time to time and places it on mute and says "lets talks".

Some women for a certain reason cant deal with it. When I lived with 5 guys in college we did it all the time just to let things out and make peace.

Women dont seem forgiving on certain issues and talk discomforts many of them(my experience).

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Old 19th August 2017, 2:12 AM   #32
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Take an ex back? No never have.

Why did you let her back OP?
She is walking all over you and you are letting it happen.
Well, it is not really my ex. We just dated little bit while she was trying to get back with her ex. Ofcourse I didn't know that back then.
She started texting me so I took that opportunity to have sex with her.

Shes texting me first 100% of the time and we are doing things I want to do. How is that walking all over me?
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Old 19th August 2017, 2:20 AM   #33
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Because that will change. And your ok with being option. You think its going your way but whose to say it isn't going like she wants?
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Old 19th August 2017, 2:47 AM   #34
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Because that will change. And your ok with being option. You think its going your way but whose to say it isn't going like she wants?
We went on like two dates, before I noticed she still misses her ex. Didn't have sex or anything.
I have to say that she was my rebound girl too before. I broke up with my ex, texted her and I think we did see eachother back then once. I went back with my ex and we broke up. I started texting her again but she was already involved with this other guy.
I started to like her, although she was my rebound.
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Old 19th August 2017, 5:24 AM   #35
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This thread really has helped and opened my eyes as to why I shouldn't try to message my ex to try and reconcile, amongst the other factors why I shouldn't either. So many valid points made and lots of people singing from the same hymn sheet.
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Old 19th August 2017, 8:53 AM   #36
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I think for certain situations is OK to give it a second chance- too busy with school,work, or you moved.
But when somebody dumps you to be with someone else that tells me they thought that person was better then you and they were upgrading.
Cheating no second chances. They breached the trust. .
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Old 19th August 2017, 10:40 AM   #37
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I think for certain situations is OK to give it a second chance- too busy with school,work, or you moved.
But when somebody dumps you to be with someone else that tells me they thought that person was better then you and they were upgrading.
Cheating no second chances. They breached the trust. .
She already wanted this other guy when she started seeing me. This guy was a player tho so she thought she cant get him. So it was not like she met someone else after me, it was way before.
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I have, many times in my life. It went badly 100% of the time. In fact, it was always much worse than the first time around.
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Old 20th August 2017, 3:02 AM   #39
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You all were right. Bull**** was bigger than ever before. She was with me and wanted to see her ''good friend''. We drove there, they talked and after that she gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek. I was like wtf but didn't say anything.
Next day she wanted to see me but didn't give me a kiss anymore, just got a hug from her and she left pretty quickly. I invited to her my place but she told me some bull**** excuses.
Later I heard that she banged that ''good friend'' just two days after we ****ed.

So waste of time and I just got hurt again.

edit. atleast i got laid

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