Girlfriend of 7 months gave up on me

[luke001]

We are eachothers first loves and I was her first sexual partner. Shes 16, I am 18.

 

First months of our relationship was magic, I made her feel special, secure, and she fell in love with me 3 dates in. She was my dream girl. She was quiet and innocent and I took her out of her shell.

 

Fast forward 3 1/2 months in, I **** up and go to a party when I told her I was going to bed. She had begun to tell me prior to this that I was losing motivation, etc etc etc... she broke up with me and for 3-4 days we didnt talk but she didnt block me or anything, I met up with her to get my **** and then texted her some things when I got home about how she never loved me, etc and she calls me saying maybe we can be friends and try to work it out some day, then she invites me to go shopping for a present for her step mom.... she is sad and needs my help to quit her old job... I get her back by her thinking about me after she left the mall. For like 2 months everything was awesome, I had a job, we had fun, very little fights, etc.

 

Fast forward to August and this month and I no longer had a job but was going to college and working on my car a lot, etc. I wasnt going out at nights anymore and I was doing what she liked but not enough, we were arguing a lot like twice a week over very silly stuff like her not wanting to have sex then I got mad, me being insecure of her leaving again, her being insecure of me leaving, girls, etc... I knew things were going bad but I felt like she wouldnt leave so I didnt fix **** quick enough.

 

Fast forward to September 17th, I wake up one morning after having drank with my friend at my house (when I told her we were just bbqing and then i was going to bed) i sent her a snap on accident of us driving but that wasnt the problem, she messaged me in the morning to tell me goodmorning and i responded and she told me she missed me, etc and wanted me to be at her house more often and I ****ing for some reason felt like she didnt value my months of time with her.. the messages escalated, she said "I simply am saying I miss you" and me instead of ending it there and talking later I pushed it and pushed it and she ****ing says "Your priorities arent straight, you dont have a job, missed a class, blah" and I then lost it and for the first time cussed her out and told her she has $0 and no parents to take care of her because she said i rely on my parents for everything and i cant even fix my car. After I cussed her out she said we are officially over and goodbye then blocked me on everything...

 

I went to her work and said sorry and her co workers told me to leave but she was sobbing, I pass out in front of the mall but she didnt know it was me then i walked home from the hospital and she texts me taking me back and saying last time, etc and i told her sorry so much and cried... she then left home and next night we hung out and i ****ed up and sexually pressured her but barely and then stopped because she said i have to earn things back blah blah blah (I feel like she thinks sex is too important to me) then I went home and she didnt text me good night like she usually does till I did and she said love you, then next day we had plans to hangout after her work and on my way to the gym she texts me out of nowhere saying "I cant be with you anymore, I dont feel the same after you said those words, I feel hurt and depressed, etc" and blocked me on everything... I then contacted her day after day from different phones with her just saying "dont contact me anymore" and finally fast forward to 2 days ago i texted her saying sorry for all and that i am gonna change and she said "its the same **** over and over again you only change when i threathen to leave and you and I need to move on because you manipulate me and you dont support my dreams" then blocks the number after i asked to pick up the last of my **** which her mom left outside the house... then yesterday i texted her off my dads phone and she says i seriously need to stop contacting her or shes gonna call the police and im like ok just let me call you last time and ill never contact you again.. she answers and says the same **** that i wont ever change, meanwhile im crying on the phone saying this is the biggest regret of my life.. she hangs up on me after i ask if we will ever see eachother again and she said "probably not" in the most cold way. so i text her stuff saying that she never loved me, expects me to have my life figured out when im only 18, she wants a father figure not a boyfriend, shes cold hearted, i regret all the feelings and words, look at all the **** i did for you, good luck with your first rebound.... mean stuff but not rude or anything....

 

Fast forward to today and i like a picture on her twitter from flowers i got her once and then I go to the store and buy some flowers with a card saying sorry and that i cant lose her, etc and leave it on her front door and leave... next thing I hear is from her mom calling my dad that i need to stop contacting her and going to her house because this is harassment, etc

 

I havent given her enough NC I think and I feel like im smothering her... shes tweeting indirect **** about me like "shes so happy without someone whos been in her life for so long" then says "she barely sleeps anymore".... I know this girl loves me like no other I just really know that she doesnt think i can permanently change and that she gives me chance after chance to change.

 

I dont want to give up but I am so ****ing sad because this girl is my world and I love every single thing about her but i regret pressuring her at times, not being more sensitive to her feelings, etc shes very sensitive and I know people are influencing her decision... but then again i get why she feels this way but I know how her life is a roller coaster and when things go bad shes all alone (no friends because shes not from around here), but right now shes got these new friends from her work that are changing her mind and not letting her heart speak to her, idk what to do but NC

 

thanks for reading seriously.

Edited September 24, 2016 by luke001

[luke001]

Someone please help me, any advice is welcome on this thread

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/596389-girlfriend-7-months-gave-up-me

[Humantk]

Ok. So this isnt going to make you feel any better.

 

Leave her alone.

 

Youre only 18 with lots to learn. You will change a lot as you get older.

 

Shes 16 and is not the person she is going to be as an adult. She is NOT the love of your life TRUST ME.

 

You are infatuated. You are immature. You have to LET GO.

 

The best thing you've done so far is come here. Keep coming here and talking about it. And stop listening to your gut. Its wrong. You'll find a girl somewhere down the line. Youre very young.

 

Talk is cheap. Focus on you. Leave her alone.

[luke001]

Ok. So this isnt going to make you feel any better.

 

Leave her alone.

 

Youre only 18 with lots to learn. You will change a lot as you get older.

 

Shes 16 and is not the person she is going to be as an adult. She is NOT the love of your life TRUST ME.

 

You are infatuated. You are immature. You have to LET GO.

 

The best thing you've done so far is come here. Keep coming here and talking about it. And stop listening to your gut. Its wrong. You'll find a girl somewhere down the line. Youre very young.

 

Talk is cheap. Focus on you. Leave her alone.

At this point I want her back in my life even as a friend. I just need HER. I know she isnt over me and still loves me and if thats there then the rest should come. I know that im infatuated but very so, her and I went together like bread and butter.

[Humantk]

You are contradicting yourself. You say you want her as a friend but you dont. You want her as your lover and partner. To thy own self be true.

 

Dont talk, text, snap, fb, message, instagram or anything at her for 30 days. Take your medicine. If its true she will come to you. She is getting advice from a trusted person, a person shes known way longer then you and a person she is closer to then you. Probably a parent. Shes getting good advice from them. Let her follow it.

 

Its hard to hear but she's 16 and has a ton of living to do. So do you. One day you will look back on this and reflect on how much you learned from it. Just ride the wave of life. Let her do the same. It is better to let go and be strong now. Show yourself you can do that.

[luke001]

You are contradicting yourself. You say you want her as a friend but you dont. You want her as your lover and partner. To thy own self be true.

 

Dont talk, text, snap, fb, message, instagram or anything at her for 30 days. Take your medicine. If its true she will come to you. She is getting advice from a trusted person, a person shes known way longer then you and a person she is closer to then you. Probably a parent. Shes getting good advice from them. Let her follow it.

 

Its hard to hear but she's 16 and has a ton of living to do. So do you. One day you will look back on this and reflect on how much you learned from it. Just ride the wave of life. Let her do the same. It is better to let go and be strong now. Show yourself you can do that.

Is it true that her heart will over take what her influences are telling her? Her mother has a lot of mental and drug problems so her advice goes one way but her actions go the other. Her father is barely in her life at that so he maybe gave her advice but when hes not there to support her what is she going to think? I am starting my 30 days NC since the morning after i sent the flowers. I cant message her on anything because I am really ****ing blocked.

[spiderowl]

I'm sorry, I know how awful it feels

 

She doesn't seem to be feeling the same as you. She has told you to keep away.

 

If you don't stay away, you could get arrested.

 

I know it's hard to accept but it sounds like she tried several times but you didn't take her seriously. But we don't know what went on in your relationship, I'm only going by what you said she said.

 

You can't force her to come back. You can't make her feel the same as you. You can only step back and get on with building a different life for yourself. If you and she are meant to be, she will come looking for you.

 

You were both young when you met. Two years can make a lot of difference: people outgrow each other, lose interest. There are all sorts of reasons for break-ups. The main reason though is that people's feelings change. Her feelings have changed about you. It's a tall order to expect them to change back. Don't bank on it.

 

I know you are attached to her now but you can become unattached and open to others. It may take a while but it can happen. You may find someone you prefer. The best thing you can do is to leave your ex alone and show her that you are building a good life for yourself and future partner. If you keep trying to get her back, she doesn't have chance to miss you. Look forwards not backwards. The pain will fade. Talk to friends and family until you start to feel better. Moving on really is the only way now.

[luke001]

I'm sorry, I know how awful it feels

 

She doesn't seem to be feeling the same as you. She has told you to keep away.

 

If you don't stay away, you could get arrested.

 

I know it's hard to accept but it sounds like she tried several times but you didn't take her seriously. But we don't know what went on in your relationship, I'm only going by what you said she said.

 

You can't force her to come back. You can't make her feel the same as you. You can only step back and get on with building a different life for yourself. If you and she are meant to be, she will come looking for you.

 

You were both young when you met. Two years can make a lot of difference: people outgrow each other, lose interest. There are all sorts of reasons for break-ups. The main reason though is that people's feelings change. Her feelings have changed about you. It's a tall order to expect them to change back. Don't bank on it.

 

I know you are attached to her now but you can become unattached and open to others. It may take a while but it can happen. You may find someone you prefer. The best thing you can do is to leave your ex alone and show her that you are building a good life for yourself and future partner. If you keep trying to get her back, she doesn't have chance to miss you. Look forwards not backwards. The pain will fade. Talk to friends and family until you start to feel better. Moving on really is the only way now.

Yes I understand, this is great advice.

 

As far as our relationship we said we would work anything out, we were so ****ing close like we did weird **** together like we were so comfy with each other. Even though she gave me several chances she still loves me for a fact, she hasnt moved on... shes just so hurt of what i said and cant get over that so now I have to give her time to miss me... she said the same **** when we originally broke up but the only difference is that she didnt block me or threathen police but the words were the same. I am driving my parents nuts and theyre worried about me but I am going to try and focus on my life and just wait up for her for 30 days and then contact her.

[sooshi]

Until you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you won't have a healthy relationship with another.

 

Work on loving yourself. Stay single for a significant time and be kind, loving, and gentle with yourself.

 

One way to be loving to yourself is to go no contact with her.

 

This relationship is toxic. Remove this toxicity from your life.

 

Take care.

[Humantk]

You're only young once, and you're a long time dead. Have a brave heart and breathe young man, breathe! Time is master of us all. I thought I'd be 18 forever but it only lasted a year. Enjoy it while you can. There a lots of young women your age, and this is the most socially acceptable time to date them! Take advantage! Live!

[luke001]

You're only young once, and you're a long time dead. Have a brave heart and breathe young man, breathe! Time is master of us all. I thought I'd be 18 forever but it only lasted a year. Enjoy it while you can. There a lots of young women your age, and this is the most socially acceptable time to date them! Take advantage! Live!

Yes but I was messing around with other women before and ugh just having a girl you love that is was a virgin and only ever ****ed you is nice.

 

30 days NC then I will email her and if she doesnt respond or continues to deny me then ill move on.

[luke001]

Until you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you won't have a healthy relationship with another.

 

Work on loving yourself. Stay single for a significant time and be kind, loving, and gentle with yourself.

 

One way to be loving to yourself is to go no contact with her.

 

This relationship is toxic. Remove this toxicity from your life.

 

Take care.

 

It was toxic but it was also an antidote for her and her problems and how nobody was ever there for her... it also was good for me because it helped us both grow.

 

I hope she will miss me and realize.

[DarrenB]

Listen mate, I completely understand what it's like to be so in love with someone who is younger than you; especially with the age range being between relatively early/late teenage years. Over 1 month ago now I was in the same boat as you, same age for the both of us too. 2 years to be exact we were together.

 

It's pretty much your first real and genuine love encounter with someone. But, I'm going to shed some light on you here and give you an insight of what my own ex's parents had told me word for word (I remember this as it's embedded in my skull):

 

'She is still very young, you may comply that you believe that you will be together forever, due to the actions made between the two of you, and the love and chemistry you shared, but she is still yet to experience what she needs to at such a young age. You had found love in our daughter, we appreciate you loving her, but she is just not ready to be in a fully committed relationship like you are. You want something that will last, we believed it was going to at one point, but she has a lot to learn and a lot to do. She needs to be her age and act it, there will be a time and place in future where she may think differently, maybe towards you but I cannot speak for her. We are not mad at you, we just want our daughter to be happy - I guess she just felt pressured at times to not mess up and become more mature than she thought she was. You had motivated her and loved her, but for now you must forget and move on; let her go.'

 

This was said to me, in person and across messages as well. It hurts. Believe me, I know. A month in I still cry myself to sleep everyday, tear up on the way to work, to the gym, going home, anywhere. She is still on my mind. It does genuinely feel like someone has taken away your heart and your entire soul, why? because it's your first love and the attachments that come with it is something incomparable to 'let go of'. Throughout my last ditch attempts to get 'the girl I was going to spend the rest of my life with' I was faced with the cold-hard truth. I was faced with words and actions that you would never want to hear in a situation like that. Do not trouble yourself and make yourself feel so much sorrow that you struggle everyday. However, I believe as time will pass, the hard times will too.

 

I don't think there's anything you can do, besides let her go. Possibly, hold on to a small amount of hope that you could reconcile together in the future, but don't hang on that. What you also need to realise is, because you're older, the ball is out of your court. You cannot appear at her house at any given time, you cannot contact her so much when you are so hurt and want her back like you'd be able to if you were both considerably older and in your 20's. It will backfire. It will hurt you more to continue with these actions of getting her back. Do not hang on '1 month no contact either'. Believe me, you want to believe that after that time has finished that you would be able to make amends, but it's very unlikely that it would be the case. She had left you, therefore she is the only one that can decide what the future holds for both of you (if there is a possibility even still there).

 

Please, for your sake as well as hers. Do just let her live a life, even for now. She will soon understand the quality of real love as well as real loss. Work on your own life also, work on your traits and flaws that made this relationship end. Then, implement into your next. Better yourself for you.

Edited September 25, 2016 by DarrenB

[luke001]

Listen mate, I completely understand what it's like to be so in love with someone who is younger than you; especially with the age range being between relatively early/late teenage years. Over 1 month ago now I was in the same boat as you, same age for the both of us too. 2 years to be exact we were together.

 

It's pretty much your first real and genuine love encounter with someone. But, I'm going to shed some light on you here and give you an insight of what my own ex's parents had told me word for word (I remember this as it's embedded in my skull):

 

'She is still very young, you may comply that you believe that you will be together forever, due to the actions made between the two of you, and the love and chemistry you shared, but she is still yet to experience what she needs to at such a young age. You had found love in our daughter, we appreciate you loving her, but she is just not ready to be in a fully committed relationship like you are. You want something that will last, we believed it was going to at one point, but she has a lot to learn and a lot to do. She needs to be her age and act it, there will be a time and place in future where she may think differently, maybe towards you but I cannot speak for her. We are not mad at you, we just want our daughter to be happy - I guess she just felt pressured at times to not mess up and become more mature than she thought she was. You had motivated her and loved her, but for now you must forget and move on; let her go.'

 

This was said to me, in person and across messages as well. It hurts. Believe me, I know. A month in I still cry myself to sleep everyday, tear up on the way to work, to the gym, going home, anywhere. She is still on my mind. It does genuinely feel like someone has taken away your heart and your entire soul, why? because it's your first love and the attachments that come with it is something incomparable to 'let go of'. Throughout my last ditch attempts to get 'the girl I was going to spend the rest of my life with' I was faced with the cold-hard truth. I was faced with words and actions that you would never want to hear in a situation like that. Do not trouble yourself and make yourself feel so much sorrow that you struggle everyday. However, I believe as time will pass, the hard times will too.

 

I don't think there's anything you can do, besides let her go. Possibly, hold on to a small amount of hope that you could reconcile together in the future, but don't hang on that. What you also need to realise is, because you're older, the ball is out of your court. You cannot appear at her house at any given time, you cannot contact her so much when you are so hurt and want her back like you'd be able to if you were both considerably older and in your 20's. It will backfire. It will hurt you more to continue with these actions of getting her back. Do not hang on '1 month no contact either'. Believe me, you want to believe that after that time has finished that you would be able to make amends, but it's very unlikely that it would be the case. She had left you, therefore she is the only one that can decide what the future holds for both of you (if there is a possibility even still there).

 

Please, for your sake as well as hers. Do just let her live a life, even for now. She will soon understand the quality of real love as well as real loss. Work on your own life also, work on your traits and flaws that made this relationship end. Then, implement into your next. Better yourself for you.

Wow that was crazy, I see. But she also hasnt experienced missing me and all my qualities that made her happy and made her OPEN THE **** UP as a lover, friend, civilian. Before I met this chick she had no identity and was super quiet.

 

I dont want to hang onto hope but I also dont want to give the hope up, its not like she told me WE WILL NEVER EVER SEE EACHOTHER AGAIN YOU ARE DEAD TO ME. Shes just mad and time will heal her wounds even if she says she isnt angry and doesnt hate me, shes sad and depressed and the only person who made her not feel that was me.

 

She is MY GIRL no matter what, no matter if we arent dating, she knows it in her heart, we bonded so ****ing well we licked eachothers boogers out of our noses, stupid **** like that. crazy comfortable.

[DarrenB]

Wow that was crazy, I see. But she also hasnt experienced missing me and all my qualities that made her happy and made her OPEN THE **** UP as a lover, friend, civilian. Before I met this chick she had no identity and was super quiet.

 

I dont want to hang onto hope but I also dont want to give the hope up, its not like she told me WE WILL NEVER EVER SEE EACHOTHER AGAIN YOU ARE DEAD TO ME. Shes just mad and time will heal her wounds even if she says she isnt angry and doesnt hate me, shes sad and depressed and the only person who made her not feel that was me.

 

She is MY GIRL no matter what, no matter if we arent dating, she knows it in her heart, we bonded so ****ing well we licked eachothers boogers out of our noses, stupid **** like that. crazy comfortable.

 

I understand where you are coming from. But don't become in-denial, that's when things will gradually become more messed up in your mind the more you think about it. The thing is, you help them develop, you let them experience things with you that are so intimate and sincere for a person... I'm sure she appreciates that and she will definitely not forget it. But, like I say, she needs to experience a life away from a committed relationship, especially with someone older and who has probably more capabilities and motives than she does. She's 16, so she's still in the midst of her exams, and definitely the last thing she needs is real heartbreak and having to come to a decision of what she wants right. Not saying that's how it will be indefinitely, but it will for some time.

 

I don't think it matters what they say, whether it be nice or completely the opposite and hurtful. It's the actions that you need to look out for. It's so easy for people to use words rather than show it in their actions. After all, it could have turned out worse.

 

Haha, I wouldn't say I've gone to that type of intimacy, but I've gone to various levels... so I do empathize for you. Do just remember though, there's more than one perspective in a relationship. It might seem this to you but to her completely differently; also stating, people hide true feelings very well. Obviously this is your own experience, so you will take it how you will. But I'm telling you all this through my own personal experience/s as to what it's really like and how you should demonstrate yourself to her in the future.

 

Just give her time. Things might change, things might not. Grieve if you will, dwell, have the hope of getting back with her... but don't just use 'no contact' or anything like that to get back with her, do this for yourself and like I say, take some time to think about what you had done, what maybe she had done to make it to it's penultimate/temporary end. You're young, do what young people should do. The world is your oyster; live it like you would even w/o that special person in your life. Show her that with time, you can still be the person she once loved, if not better

Edited September 25, 2016 by DarrenB

[luke001]

I understand where you are coming from. But don't become in-denial, that's when things will gradually become more messed up in your mind the more you think about it. The thing is, you help them develop, you let them experience things with you that are so intimate and sincere for a person... I'm sure she appreciates that and she will definitely not forget it. But, like I say, she needs to experience a life away from a committed relationship, especially with someone older and who has probably more capabilities and motives than she does. She's 16, so she's still in the midst of her exams, and definitely the last thing she needs is real heartbreak and having to come to a decision of what she wants right. Not saying that's how it will be indefinitely, but it will for some time.

 

I don't think it matters what they say, whether it be nice or completely the opposite and hurtful. It's the actions that you need to look out for. It's so easy for people to use words rather than show it in their actions. After all, it could have turned out worse.

 

Haha, I wouldn't say I've gone to that type of intimacy, but I've gone to various levels... so I do empathize for you. Do just remember though, there's more than one perspective in a relationship. It might seem this to you but to her completely differently; also stating, people hide true feelings very well. Obviously this is your own experience, so you will take it how you will. But I'm telling you all this through my own personal experience/s as to what it's really like and how you should demonstrate yourself to her in the future.

 

Just give her time. Things might change, things might not. Grieve if you will, dwell, have the hope of getting back with her... but don't just use 'no contact' or anything like that to get back with her, do this for yourself and like I say, take some time to think about what you had done, what maybe she had done to make it to it's penultimate/temporary end. Show her that with time, you can still be the person she once loved, if not better

Thanks I agree.

 

I will stop the self denial because deep down I know this IS happening and it IS what it IS.

 

How do I shower her that I can be better than what she once loved? Her main problem with me is that I dont change and only change when she threathens to leave so once I make these changes (for myself i swear)(I dont want to **** up with the next girl if it doesnt work and I wanna love myself more) how do I prove her wrong with actions?

[ThorntonMelon]

How do I shower her that I can be better than what she once loved? Her main problem with me is that I dont change and only change when she threathens to leave so once I make these changes (for myself i swear)(I dont want to **** up with the next girl if it doesnt work and I wanna love myself more) how do I prove her wrong with actions?

 

This is trainwreck stuff you're posting right now.

 

Which is completely reasonable given your age. Just understand there's nothing sane about what you're posting and that you're going to have plenty of heartbreak and amazing times...

[Humantk]

Just listen to what DarrenB is saying. Take a few days, contemplate. Things will be ok.

 

DarrenB bravo mate. You are mature beyond your years.

[luke001]

OK GUYS MAJOR KEY ALERT.

 

I called her off a friends phone because I lost it, she was posting countless **** about me on twitter all night, I told her to quit that **** and hung up. She then proceeds to blow up my friends phone calling me a bunch of names saying she ****ing hates me, saying i made her hate her mom, saying I made her have sex in the car when she didnt want too, made her give me blowjobs when I didnt want to, etc... she then lets me talk to her over the phone because I told her I would admit some stuff. I tell her all the things I did wrong, etc and that at times I continued fights and I told her I was so so so sorry and all she said was she wants nothing to do with me she wants me to leave her alone.... blah blah blah mind you it was on speaker in front of a crowd of friends. I tell her I want peace and too be friends and she just tells me she wishes me the best but wants NOTHING to do with me and the first chances she gets shes moving out. I then tell her "youre famous now btw" and she thought I was talking about her sex tape that I made and she calls my friends phone saying its CP and that shes contacting the police and all this ****. crazy ass night but she unblocked me on facebook and twitter so maybe shes trying to trap me or maybe shes idk but i deleted the video and put it on an encrypted hard drive so we're chillen

Edited October 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[DarrenB]

OK GUYS MAJOR KEY ALERT.

 

I called her off a friends phone because I lost it, she was posting countless **** about me on twitter all night, I told her to quit that **** and hung up. She then proceeds to blow up my friends phone calling me a bunch of names saying she ****ing hates me, saying i made her hate her mom, saying I made her have sex in the car when she didnt want too, made her give me blowjobs when I didnt want to, etc... she then lets me talk to her over the phone because I told her I would admit some stuff. I tell her all the things I did wrong, etc and that at times I continued fights and I told her I was so so so sorry and all she said was she wants nothing to do with me she wants me to leave her alone.... blah blah blah mind you it was on speaker in front of a crowd of friends. I tell her I want peace and too be friends and she just tells me she wishes me the best but wants NOTHING to do with me and the first chances she gets shes moving out. I then tell her "youre famous now btw" and she thought I was talking about her sex tape that I made and she calls my friends phone saying its CP and that shes contacting the police and all this ****. crazy ass night but she unblocked me on facebook and twitter so maybe shes trying to trap me or maybe shes idk but i deleted the video and put it on an encrypted hard drive so we're chillen

 

And that my friend is your queue to leave it how it is and to not return. Do not aggravate the situation or even react. I know you want to and I know it's hard not to, but just don't. When things start stacking up against you (like they evidently are from what you've said), you're not in a good place and it'll be hard to get out of.

 

Out of sight, out of mind. Apply this. Use this experience as something to remember and to be cautious of in future. Do not give her the satisfaction she wants... because that's when you'll realize your entire escapade with her may have been more dysfunctional than you would have ever thought.

 

Best of luck.

Edited October 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[luke001]

And that my friend is your queue to leave it how it is and to not return. Do not aggravate the situation or even react. I know you want to and I know it's hard not to, but just don't. When things start stacking up against you (like they evidently are from what you've said), you're not in a good place and it'll be hard to get out of.

 

Out of sight, out of mind. Apply this. Use this experience as something to remember and to be cautious of in future. Do not give her the satisfaction she wants... because that's when you'll realize your entire escapade with her may have been more dysfunctional than you would have ever thought.

 

Best of luck.

Something is wrong with me.

 

I keep messaging her on FB appologizing trying to make things right, telling her to let me see her again, etc etc etc.

 

I keep somehow in my head making scenerios where I will have her back I need her back I cant move on without her.

 

She I think called the cops because I saw a police report on the public domain... but it just said "citizen assist"

 

She unblocked me from FB and Twitter but I honestly keep messaging her like I said... I should have done NC days ago and kept it but no I AM ****ING digging myself into a deep abyss of never coming back. I keep watching our movie and thinking about her mouth ugh im losing my mind.

 

Im gonna end up like fredrickkkkkk