Girlfriend lied all along

[LoveBoat242]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/445309-trying

 

so there is my story thats just the simple version its alot more complicated, we took each others Virginities

 

It's been 1 week since break up.

2 nights before she dumped me she went and had sex with some guy, next day she dumped me and broke my heart then went and had sex with her ex that she was tuning the whole time in our relationship.

 

She was complete fake through whole relationship, how can someone do that and she thinks its alright because she ' dumped me ' afterwards.

 

I'm shattered

[LoveBoat242]

i really have no idea whats next. I'm heartbroken all over again but 10x worse

Edited November 29, 2013 by LoveBoat242

[fixing]

I can help. She is a disgusting cheating little slag mate. Your so much better than she will ever be. She has no morals.

Dont make the mistake i did though, and shutdown for the next 6 months. I know betrayal is very hard, but you gotta go back out there and date again.

 

Im in the same boat. I loved dearly, a girl for 15 months, literally 24/7, thought we would marry and have kids etc. Until i found out she had slept with another man and hid it from me. She was laughing and joking with the guy on facebook, calling me a loser, no future etc with him

I kicked her out, and she wasnt even sorry. That was 13 months ago. NC since.

She instantly jumped in bed with her best friends husband and they are together since. No remorse.

So dont waste your life now agonising about this. She's a slag.

I since found out that my ex had slept with a few others and even paraded them at my house as 'friends'

 

Its humiliating. But dont let her win by shutting down.

 

Go out and date others.

 

That bitch will feel karma sometime. I promise.

[LoveBoat242]

I can help. She is a disgusting cheating little slag mate. Your so much better than she will ever be. She has no morals.

Dont make the mistake i did though, and shutdown for the next 6 months. I know betrayal is very hard, but you gotta go back out there and date again.

 

Im in the same boat. I loved dearly, a girl for 15 months, literally 24/7, thought we would marry and have kids etc. Until i found out she had slept with another man and hid it from me. She was laughing and joking with the guy on facebook, calling me a loser, no future etc with him

I kicked her out, and she wasnt even sorry. That was 13 months ago. NC since.

She instantly jumped in bed with her best friends husband and they are together since. No remorse.

So dont waste your life now agonising about this. She's a slag.

I since found out that my ex had slept with a few others and even paraded them at my house as 'friends'

 

Its humiliating. But dont let her win by shutting down.

 

Go out and date others.

 

That bitch will feel karma sometime. I promise.

 

Thank you so much dude, i gave her everything i never did wrong by her, she cheated on earlier in the relationship 2-3 months ago as well that was only hook up, but she lied about that as well, she was a complete fake i gave her my everything, I don't see how someone can do that. We get through this.

[emi]

Hey im sorry. What did she lie about?

I want tell you that i feel your pain. I was in the exact same position like you 4 months ago. I didnt think i can make it to the day i can actually cope with it.

But i did. Now i cant say im 100% heal but its getting better. I accepted that there is sometime in life i need to leave something behind.

Everytime i remember the day 1 after he dumped me, I shivered. I glad i've made to this day. You will to. Just take it day by day like i did. And posting here help too

[LoveBoat242]

Hey im sorry. What did she lie about?

I want tell you that i feel your pain. I was in the exact same position like you 4 months ago. I didnt think i can make it to the day i can actually cope with it.

But i did. Now i cant say im 100% heal but its getting better. I accepted that there is sometime in life i need to leave something behind.

Everytime i remember the day 1 after he dumped me, I shivered. I glad i've made to this day. You will to. Just take it day by day like i did. And posting here help too

 

She lied about everything she was my first love and everything, she lied about chatting with other guys, getting with them, played me the whole time and dumped me because she didnt want to do it behind my back anymore. Gutless, she was my world and she just screws me over like that with no remorse.

[fixing]

Thank you so much dude, i gave her everything i never did wrong by her, she cheated on earlier in the relationship 2-3 months ago as well that was only hook up, but she lied about that as well, she was a complete fake i gave her my everything, I don't see how someone can do that. We get through this.

 

You just got unlucky like i did. You got burned by a shallow, immoral whore. She dont deserve you. We will get through this. Just please dont waste the next months/ year going over and over her foul betrayal.

Its all her fault. You will never get the answers you seek, the why? The how?

 

She wont give it to you. Its very unfair. But that life.

 

KEEP STRONG SON

[LoveBoat242]

You just got unlucky like i did. You got burned by a shallow, immoral whore. She dont deserve you. We will get through this. Just please dont waste the next months/ year going over and over her foul betrayal.

Its all her fault. You will never get the answers you seek, the why? The how?

 

She wont give it to you. Its very unfair. But that life.

 

KEEP STRONG SON

 

I won't i hate her guts i only found out today so its going to take my head a couple days to get around it, and i don't care for the answers i never want to see her again or talk to her

[emi]

Take care yourself until you are ok again.

I know food taste suck now but remember to eat/sleep. I slept alot during that time simply to shut my mind down

[LoveBoat242]

Take care yourself until you are ok again.

I know food taste suck now but remember to eat/sleep. I slept alot during that time simply to shut my mind down

 

Since we broke up i had no appetite at all, just got it back today then this happens. And i like to sleep but tit's so hard being upset, always woke up back at square 1, the breakup was hard enough, but then this afterwards.

Edited November 29, 2013 by LoveBoat242

[LoveBoat242]

How do i trust anyone ever again

Edited November 29, 2013 by LoveBoat242

[LoveBoat242]

And when i confronted her of what happen i said ' did you have sex with ***** ? ' and she said ' yes it was great ' (that was her ex)

 

How can people be so heartless

[Salvatore85]

Bro quit talking to her. Every time you talk to her you set yourself back. She was your first love and that's something that's going to be very hard to get over but you're finding out the hard way she wasn't right for you. You don't deserve this, no one deserves to be treated that way but the worst possible thing you can do is lay around whining and moaning. She's going to be on your mind anyway so why not go out and do something fun with your friends? Or put your headphones on and go for a long walk or run, do something. Don't just sit around because it makes it much worse.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

When you are feeling better and ready for a new relationship, you will be able to use this broken one as a reference.

 

Look for red flags. If you aren't sure if something is a red flag, ask on LoveShack. Red flags are not to be dismissed.

 

It may take some weeding through some bad ones before you find someone nice. Remember, bad girls usually have a boldness about them. They are more likely to take what they want and toy with people. Not to be confused with a nice, outgoing person.

 

If you want to know what red flags to look for, do some reading on personality disorders and their symptoms.

[Logan oO]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/445309-trying

 

so there is my story thats just the simple version its alot more complicated, we took each others Virginities

 

It's been 1 week since break up.

2 nights before she dumped me she went and had sex with some guy, next day she dumped me and broke my heart then went and had sex with her ex that she was tuning the whole time in our relationship.

 

She was complete fake through whole relationship, how can someone do that and she thinks its alright because she ' dumped me ' afterwards.

 

I'm shattered

 

Firstly, Virginity is over-rated. It's no where near as special as you make it out to be, and over time and other women, you will see that yourself.

 

Also, you can see now you were a fool to believe in her after she cheated on you the first time.

 

If i'm cheated on once! it's done! no crying, no it was a mistake, it's over!

 

No offense but being only 18, you forget you are still young! Women and Men do not know what they want till at least late 20's i'd say, once they've experienced all the good and bad of the previous ten years of freedom! There are some cases where childhood sweethearts and all, but mostly, it's just a vicious circle of wanting what you aint got, and betraying what you have.

 

Someone always gets hurt.

 

Now for the advice

 

You have two options to help heal.

Either you learn to HATE her!

Or

You tell yourself she is DEAD in your head. It doesn't matter that she isn't, them no longer existing in your mind is the point.

 

People like her are the kind of women, that end up with kids really young!

Also they end up hating men, because of how they originally treated men like you.

 

Women always complain about men being cheaters and liars, but they are the very incarnation of the thing they hate.

 

They turn Good Men, into Bad Men.

 

I've reached the stage where i don't feel a thing anymore, and i don't care about anything it feels really good to be this way again:)

[Chi townD]

Move on dude. Just move on. You know WAY TOO MUCH. So, that tells me that you are no where near NC with her.

[LoveBoat242]

Firstly, Virginity is over-rated. It's no where near as special as you make it out to be, and over time and other women, you will see that yourself.

 

Also, you can see now you were a fool to believe in her after she cheated on you the first time.

 

If i'm cheated on once! it's done! no crying, no it was a mistake, it's over!

 

No offense but being only 18, you forget you are still young! Women and Men do not know what they want till at least late 20's i'd say, once they've experienced all the good and bad of the previous ten years of freedom! There are some cases where childhood sweethearts and all, but mostly, it's just a vicious circle of wanting what you aint got, and betraying what you have.

 

Someone always gets hurt.

 

Now for the advice

 

You have two options to help heal.

Either you learn to HATE her!

Or

You tell yourself she is DEAD in your head. It doesn't matter that she isn't, them no longer existing in your mind is the point.

 

People like her are the kind of women, that end up with kids really young!

Also they end up hating men, because of how they originally treated men like you.

 

Women always complain about men being cheaters and liars, but they are the very incarnation of the thing they hate.

 

They turn Good Men, into Bad Men.

 

I've reached the stage where i don't feel a thing anymore, and i don't care about anything it feels really good to be this way again:)

 

Thank you i'll be doing the 'hating her' thing as i cant believe she would do that,with the virginity thing yeah i know its not important just the fact as i was her first and she moved on to someone else so quick and did it i relationship while having sex with me at the same time and lied behind my back.

[elbe]

Some girls are like this. Be glad you didn't procreate with the thing.

[LoveBoat242]

Some girls are like this. Be glad you didn't procreate with the thing.

 

Yes, fake and unfaithful, i have so much hate for her now.

[Sugarkane]

And when i confronted her of what happen i said ' did you have sex with ***** ? ' and she said ' yes it was great ' (that was her ex)

 

How can people be so heartless

 

She actually gloated about it? I wish people like your ex would date people like my ex, they're a perfect match for each other! I wouldve called her a wh*** and would never, ever speak to her again!

[Sugarkane]

Yes, fake and unfaithful, i have so much hate for her now.

 

Please use it as motivation for NC and find someone much better. These dumpers always think their shyte doesn't stink.

[MrBossMan]

You dodged a major one here. Imagine if you were married with kids and were forced by the courts to fund her lifestyle for decades. Imagine if you were forced to see her face to face with new men.

 

Teach yourself to stop caring so much. You have to show women that they have no power over you in the beginning or they are likely to walk all over you, especially a woman like this.

 

You got lucky. Forget her. Find someone new who you can really fall in love with and you'll be surprised how quickly you can get over someone.

[LoveBoat242]

You dodged a major one here. Imagine if you were married with kids and were forced by the courts to fund her lifestyle for decades. Imagine if you were forced to see her face to face with new men.

 

Teach yourself to stop caring so much. You have to show women that they have no power over you in the beginning or they are likely to walk all over you, especially a woman like this.

 

You got lucky. Forget her. Find someone new who you can really fall in love with and you'll be surprised how quickly you can get over someone.

 

She gloated, big time, first serious relationship i ever had that had meaning and she did this, i have to learn that i've realised i do care too much and fall into things very fast, i blocked her and everything, last thing i said was i hate you to her, don't regret it at all! You guys don't the full story of our relationship, but if you knew you would see all the wrongs to start with, i just didnt see them till now. I was blinded by beauty.

[bubbaganoosh]

I read your thread. First big mistake. No one is perfect. You said she was so that's a lesson to learn.

 

Next thing. After what she did, you now have to learn to be more particular in choosing a woman to share your life with. There's more to a good woman besides great boobs, nice ass and good looks. Morals, values and a conscious would be some of them.

 

What you should have said to her when she told you that she had sex with the other guy was "did you take any pictures?" and if she said no then you should have replied, "Wanna buy some?"

[LoveBoat242]

I read your thread. First big mistake. No one is perfect. You said she was so that's a lesson to learn.

 

Next thing. After what she did, you now have to learn to be more particular in choosing a woman to share your life with. There's more to a good woman besides great boobs, nice ass and good looks. Morals, values and a conscious would be some of them.

 

What you should have said to her when she told you that she had sex with the other guy was "did you take any pictures?" and if she said no then you should have replied, "Wanna buy some?"

 

That is a lesson, now i see right through her, and yes i know that now, i was very nieve before falling in love with her to be with her, and i should have said that i can't now though. It hasn't hit me yet what she did it will soon though i'm not sure if i'm prepared for it, all i can think of is i found out 3 of the times in relationship she cheated, imagine how many more she could be lying about.