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Old 15th November 2017, 7:46 AM   #16
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54 here (55 next month) engaged to a woman who is 58. Married for 25 years. Happy for ten of that, then miserable for 15. Finally realized I didn't need to stay in a marriage for appearances sake. Divorce final just this past July. I am learning SO MUCH from my new love!

So.....love, sex, relationship. Yes, all possible past 50!
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Old 15th November 2017, 8:33 AM   #17
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Bet you'll get a bunch of pm's!
No, Blues. I meant it for Myword! Sounds as if he is a great catch and looking for someone.

Blues, I am so happy for you! Have noticed all of your posts about your new love, or maybe she's your love you've had for awhile, not sure how to classify. But, anyway, it's great that you're happily in love and I would never want you to mess that up in any way!

(I meant to quote your post, Blues, not sure how I quoted my own instead!"

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Old 15th November 2017, 8:50 AM   #18
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You are not doing it right... LOL.

You just have to find the right woman. I am 53, and I have had young women, women my age and women older than me.

I am in a great relationship with a woman that is 60, and beautiful in every way. She is past menopause, and granted I had to bring her along slowly the first few times. But she picked it right up.

And granted, she really did not understand what good sex was all about before she met me, but good god she learns fast.

Frankly, I have created a bit of a monster. But that is a good problem to have. But this weekend she wore me out, my **** was actually hurting and sore when she left on Sunday.

And not to brag too much, but wearing me out sexually takes quite a bit of doing. I have had women 20 years younger than me not be able to do that.

So, yeah she learns quick. She has and interesting phrase that she used this weekend. She refers to "effortless orgasms". I never knew that orgasms required much effort for women, at least from my experience. But she assures me that they used to require effort for her.

So it depends on the woman... Just keep looking.
You STUD you!

I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.
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Old 15th November 2017, 9:13 AM   #19
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I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.
Same thing for new girl friend. I have known a few women of all ages and she is as wet as a 20 YO. Constantly...

And I was going to comment on that. NGF is not the only woman that age that I have been with, and all of them have gotten their mojo back after menopause. I think the important part of that word is PAUSE, because from what I have seen, it is indeed a "pause".

And LWP, she is the newest GF. I have gone through a few. But I am thinking I will be able to keep this one. She does not seem crazy at all. I don't do crazy, even a little bit. That is the reason I had to cut most of them loose...
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Old 15th November 2017, 3:35 PM   #20
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You STUD you!

I am 60 and like Anika menopause hit me hard at 52. The hot flashes, dryness, mood swings; but I was lucky I did not gain weight. Now that it is over sex is on my mind most of the time and the wetness is back in full force. This is a wonderful time in my marriage. So hang in there menopausal women there is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.
There's an end to this??? Yay
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Old 15th November 2017, 3:37 PM   #21
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There's an end to this??? Yay
A beautiful one! Hang in there!
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Old 17th November 2017, 10:36 AM   #22
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I'm 54 and feel 21, and look mid 40's. Financially independent, gainfully employed, (ie: not looking for a meal ticket), good looking, slim, and I cannot find a partner for the life of me. They're either boring old fuddy-duddies or immature jerks.....I really like the company of some men but am not physically attracted to them, I often note they want slim and attractive in a woman, and feminine, but they'll be packing a beer gut, or they'll smell like an ashtray, or they're a toilet mouth, or they overdo it with the smut jokes, (NOT a gentleman).....maybe I just expect too much. I think most women are interested in sexual relationships no matter what their age, but they're more interested in the friendship side of things, you have to build that first before you start expecting the physical stuff.
I hear ya MsJayne,

I'm male, 57, and take care of myself. I work out, watch what I eat, don't drink and still manage to go out and have a good time. BUT, the majority of men I know around my age, including my friends, don't fit that bill. Many just don't seem to care about their appearance any more, especially the married ones. It's sad really. I do it for myself. I like to be able to bend over to tie my shoes. I like to be able to run or walk up a few flights of stairs and not be winded.

When I go to the gym, I am often the oldest guy there, and one of the few with gray hair.

For myself, I have no interest in younger women, meaning more than 7 or 8 years. I have a 50 year old GF and she suits me just fine. Any younger than that and I'm really not interested.
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Old 17th November 2017, 10:51 AM   #23
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This site includes a wide age range but not many 50 and above I have noticed. married or single. I am in my Sixties and single but have a very active interest in sex, love, relationships. And a high libido. I wonder how many others are out there especially in U.S. but everyone can answer. Women my age are usually not interested in sex of any kind. They talk about being friends. ( have tried online dating sites--ugh.)
Do senior men have any "bait"?


I'm early 60s but in a marvelous 18 year relationship with an 8-years-younger woman. We both have a very active interest in sex, love - and high libido to match. I hope to never be without her, but if I were, I'm confident I could find another good relationship with similar qualities. Some women my age do have high libidos - if I don't find one, I'd keep looking, multi-date, or date as young as would date me. My recent FWB was 27 years younger, so it's not just delusional thinking that I could find someone.
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Old 17th November 2017, 11:04 AM   #24
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I've never really known that about menopause, that it's really just a "pause."

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Old 17th November 2017, 11:53 AM   #25
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Wow. I simply can't wait for my 45th birthday!

On another note, I've never really known that about menopause, that it's really just a "pause."


Actually, there is an upside....Maybe it's just this particular locale, where a lot of women really do their best to look good, but I do think this is not as rare as it may seem..

Women in their 40's and 50's actually looking better than their 20 something daughters...yes...It's true...Especially the workout crew..I know of two women in their 50's that most 20 somethings would kill to have their bodies..

There is a logical explanation as well..

Like the rest of us, most women in these age groups grew up without technology for the most part....They are reaping the benefits of years of their youth, where they weren't just staring at a screen all day long...They are just better conditioned...



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Old 17th November 2017, 3:43 PM   #26
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51 years old. Financially very comfortable, professionally in demand. Just split up with my LT partner so feeling sorry for myself and wondering if that was it, in terms of any hope of a LTR.

Give me hope guys!
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Old 17th November 2017, 4:41 PM   #27
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You officially have hope...

You officially have hope...

Listen 51 is young. Just don't be crazy, keep yourself looking good.

Don't go crazy, but be don't be a prude either. If you like a guy after a few dates and you want to get laid, do it. Just don't be stupid.

And do NOT get into anything serious for a while. Shop around if you want that.

I think you are female. Either way, just stay lose and have fun. WATCH OUT FOR CRAZY, it is everywhere out there. But there are some really nice people as well.
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Old 19th November 2017, 3:08 AM   #28
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I met a nice guy already, but I'm not ready to date yet.

TBH, I don't feel confident enough to date, at my age. I feel past it. Nor sexually, but looks wise and just... Kicked by the end of my LTR.
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Old 19th November 2017, 12:20 PM   #29
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Over 50 here.

I'm in shape, sane, and financially stable, which seems to be the trifecta for this age group - I'm in demand. Problem is that many of the guys can't say the same. Not looking for perfection but it would be nice to meet men that are also taking care of themselves (inside and out) and are emotionally healthy.

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Old 19th November 2017, 1:03 PM   #30
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Over 50 here.

I'm in shape, sane, and financially stable, which seems to be the trifecta for this age group - I'm in demand. Problem is that many of the guys can't say the same. Not looking for perfection but it would be nice to meet men that are also taking care of themselves (inside and out) and are emotionally healthy.

Eh...I dunno....

I mentioned it in another thread...An old HS buddy of mine got divorced recently....When I say this guy is broke, I mean, he can't even pay attention...I had to lend/give him some money on several occasions..Conventionally unattractive, out of shape, one of those 50 something guys that has a gut and a Harley.....but little else...You know the type I am sure...

He spent a few years dating(and screwing) all kinds of women from late 20's to 50's...Some of these women were pretty nice looking and had their crap together, from what I can see...He's now settled with a pretty attractive size 2/4 40 something...

The problem is the guys you are looking for do exist, but they have a zillion options...Being "in shape" by 50's standards is great, but may just not be enough and most guys don't really care about financial security at this point in life, because most better quality guys have money and you wouldn't(and rightfully so) share any of your money with them anyway-even if they didn't.,....let's put it this way, they generally aren't on dating sites looking for relationships, for the most part...



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