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Old 18th October 2017, 9:55 AM   #16
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My type has changed often through the years. Their only common denominator is they were all confident and extroverted. Physically they have nothing in common.
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Old 18th October 2017, 11:56 AM   #17
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in looks, no, but they have all had similar qualities for sure
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Old 18th October 2017, 12:09 PM   #18
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I no longer have a physical type, but I definitely have a character type.

I can be wildly attracted to a variety of 'types' physically speaking that run the gamut provided they possess the right characteristics, attributes, and qualities. Those are what drives my attraction and holds my attention.
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Old 18th October 2017, 12:53 PM   #19
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I tend to notice guys with darker hair, thin and toned body type, nice face and voice. I love a masculine calm vibe and personality. A bit of introversion is also quite attractive. I prefer guys around my age.
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Old 18th October 2017, 2:44 PM   #20
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Yes I definitely have a type physically and mentally I guess.

I have always been attracted to that type (but attraction is ultimately determined by my mental attraction).

I like tall, fit east-Asian men. A lot of people have told me I am weird for that or that I am never going to get "my physcial type" to want to be with me long term, especially since I am hispanic. Its sad because these insecurities made me almost give up on my crush on my ex because I didn't think he could ever fall in love with me.

He ended up leaving anyway so maybe they were right, sigh.
At least I tried....

I try not to listen to these people but the way my love life is going I have my doubts sometimes.

I like someone who is humble, confident intelligent and carrier orientated/passionate and can have good conversation.
I also like guys that are confident in social situations but are more naturally introverted/don't drink and party a lot.
Heycrunch, I really relate to you. My ex is my type too. And he's a rare catch. I feel I got EXTREMELY lucky with him which makes it all the more difficult to cope with the break up. It's so rare for me to be attracted to a guy. I almost gave up as well and had feelings out doubt at the beginning because he was so 'out of my league.' I had one who not only fit that but the personality characteristics I desired. Feels messed up.

I don't understand what Hispanic has to do with it at all. Don't listen to those people! It could be harder to find that type if you live in the US. Maybe if you live on the west coast it's a bit different, or overseas there'd be a lot more of your type(maybe not because it's probably more specific than just tall and Asian. I live in the Indianapolis and I don't see many Asian men when I'm out at all, let alone tall, fit good looking ones.
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Old 18th October 2017, 3:10 PM   #21
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My type?

Smart – I can’t suffer a fool. That has been a common denominator with anyone I have connected with. Starting with my first high school BF, an artist rebel type, who was incredibly bright – valedictorian of his class without much effort.

Beyond that, the guys I have dated, and have been attracted to are all over the place.

They have had different heights (from 5’8” to 6’6”), builds (from a linebacker build, to a fit svelte triathlete), from olive skin, black hair and black eyes, to fair, blond hair and blue eyed.

From artists to dressed to the nines business men.

Personality wise, I have dated the quiet and shy, and the biggest extrovert around.

Now, my husband? I my chosen type? Smart as a whip, incredibly funny and outgoing, good at working with his hands, solid athletic build with deliciously broad and strong shoulders. Brown hair and gorgeous blue eyes. Yummy hair on his chest – but not his back (ha!), a full beard.

He just screams “man” to me.
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Old 18th October 2017, 3:27 PM   #22
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I have a type: intelligent, responsible, INFJ/INFP personality, slender to athletic build, with similar values, attitudes, and interests.
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Old 18th October 2017, 4:16 PM   #23
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As I keep posting. My type gets refined.

Age-Late 20's to 40's. If I met a great 52 yr old. That would be fine as well.

Ethnicity. I don't really care. As a Black man. I find that for some reason that the women I date are white and 90% of my friends are white.

Height. I don't think I have a preference. Short/Medium/Tall. I am 5'9 so a little tall or short does not matter.

Weight. Not to heavy or skinny to extreem.

Face-More natural. Less made up.

Hair-Short or long. I don't care as long as it suits her. I think as long as she has some play with it. Hair colour. I love Red heads, but I would not hold me to it.

Voice- I like soft voices.

Tempermeant. Mid tempered is the best. Thats realistic.

Eye colour. don't care

Personality- Soft/Warm/Sharp=Finding a clever way around a situation that works best/high energy/Girl next door type-Think Betty from the Archie comics or Renee Z in Jerry McGuire. Reasonably positive and humour/affectionate/able to provide interesting conversation. A woman that really gets along with me and see potential in us as a couple. No rush to have kids.

If she is childless. All the better or one child. A woman with 3 baby daddies or 4 kids. I don't know about that. She would really have to be very charming for me to consider that. At 46 thats a lot to take in. I just feel that a woman with one child or none is the best for me and vice versa.

Other things..... Well dressed and groomed and makes an effort with me to the point, where I don't have to be the driving force of all things when we get together.

Thats my general type as I see it.

So to shorten my type in a few words. A girl next door type that is romantically attracted to me and tries to connect with me.
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Old 18th October 2017, 4:45 PM   #24
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If I go by the Stars of today. My Actresses or Music star for looks are.....

Ann Wilson from Heart.
Susan Sarandon
Kate Walsh
Lauren Holly
Viola Davis
Queen Latifah
Michelle Yeoa
Audra McDonald
Pink
Rhetta
Rosario Dawson
Thats just my silly list. Thats just looks wise
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Old 18th October 2017, 8:59 PM   #25
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Heycrunch, I really relate to you. My ex is my type too. And he's a rare catch. I feel I got EXTREMELY lucky with him which makes it all the more difficult to cope with the break up. It's so rare for me to be attracted to a guy. I almost gave up as well and had feelings out doubt at the beginning because he was so 'out of my league.' I had one who not only fit that but the personality characteristics I desired. Feels messed up.

I don't understand what Hispanic has to do with it at all. Don't listen to those people! It could be harder to find that type if you live in the US. Maybe if you live on the west coast it's a bit different, or overseas there'd be a lot more of your type(maybe not because it's probably more specific than just tall and Asian. I live in the Indianapolis and I don't see many Asian men when I'm out at all, let alone tall, fit good looking ones.
I live in NYC so I suppose hope isn't lost on me, there are more people that fall within my type here than say in the midwest of the United states. I want to try looking but sometimes I wish it would find me, just like it seems to find others. I am trying to be optimistic since I have gotten encouragement from many people on this forum that have told me that there is indeed someone out there for me.
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Old 18th October 2017, 9:42 PM   #26
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This thread should be shown to all the younger guys on here that think they don't have the perfect looks, physique., height, hair, whatever...and that there is virtually no hope..

Pay attention...

No disrespect here, just an observation, but notice how most of the younger ladies still looking for Tom Brady, while some of the older ones are now ok with a variety of guys and their appearances/shortcomings.....

Maybe its just a matter of waiting a while with them...The tables turn here for you, fellas...just stay in reasonable condition and work on your career.....

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Old 18th October 2017, 10:24 PM   #27
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My type is alpha, confident, KIND, shares my same religious and moral values, has his **** together, and has good hygiene (no bad teeth!). I have to be attracted to him, but that really runs the gamut. I don't have a physical type I'm attracted to. I like smiles and shoulders, but that's about all I have as a physical "type."
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Old 18th October 2017, 10:59 PM   #28
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This thread should be shown to all the younger guys on here that think they don't have the perfect looks, physique., height, hair, whatever...and that there is virtually no hope..
Pay attention...
No disrespect here, just an observation, but notice how most of the younger ladies still looking for Tom Brady, while some of the older ones are now ok with a variety of guys and their appearances/shortcomings.....
Maybe its just a matter of waiting a while with them...The tables turn here for you, fellas...just stay in reasonable condition and work on your career.....
TFY
Here is the thing... giving up is stupid. A ruthless commitment to self improvement is how a boy should respond to this.

I'm going to tell you the truth. When I'm out there single at 5% bodyfat women respond to me completely different that when I'm 20% or 30%. I've lifted weights my whole life, but I'm not huge.

Also... it simply isn't fair to ask a significant portion of the male population to wait around for some beat up old hags to decide that chasing "Tom Brady" looking guys isn't working for them. These guys need to be taught how to get in the game earlier, and family law needs to be readjusted to punish bad female behavior.
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Old 18th October 2017, 11:03 PM   #29
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Here is the thing... giving up is stupid. A ruthless commitment to self improvement is how a boy should respond to this.

I'm going to tell you the truth. When I'm out there single at 5% bodyfat women respond to me completely different that when I'm 20% or 30%. I've lifted weights my whole life, but I'm not huge.

Also... it simply isn't fair to ask a significant portion of the male population to wait around for some beat up old hags to decide that chasing "Tom Brady" looking guys isn't working for them. These guys need to be taught how to get in the game earlier, and family law needs to be readjusted to punish bad female behavior.
There is a lot to unpack in your post. I'll start with asking what the heck you mean about family law being readjusted.
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Old 18th October 2017, 11:55 PM   #30
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There is a lot to unpack in your post. I'll start with asking what the heck you mean about family law being readjusted.
The system as it is today just rewards the laziest person with the lowest moral character. It benefits lawyers a lot, but has horrific ramifications for society.
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