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Old 26th October 2017, 10:48 AM   #46
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My guy and i are like this. He loves to drink, party, play loud music, go clubbing. I like reading, walks, and ballet. I dont think hes compensating. I think thats his personality. My ex was older and also a big people person though not a partier.
I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
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Old 26th October 2017, 11:28 AM   #47
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I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
New guy and i arent committed or dating seriously. I see him once every couple of weeks.

It would be a lot easier if we could skip that getting to knlw you stage. I dont know how, aside from arranged marriages lol
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Old 26th October 2017, 10:36 PM   #48
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I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?

Hotpotato is so inconsistent and contradicts everything she says.
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Old 26th October 2017, 11:09 PM   #49
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I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
This is something you and I can agree on. That's why I approach dating the way I do. I hardly ever date strangers or people I meet online. I almost exclusively date people I already know somehow. People I grew up with, ladies I have known some high school days, women I went to college with, people I have met at work and kept in touch with, you name it. I absolutely hate those first couple months of dating when it's like starting a new job and neither of you has a clue about the other.
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Old 27th October 2017, 1:50 PM   #50
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Hotpotato is so inconsistent and contradicts everything she says.
Lol im not dating him, nor am i looking to date anyone. Thats not a contradiction.
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Old 13th November 2017, 6:24 PM   #51
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No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?
I'm late to this 'party' but have my own answer to this question. I'm a 60-something looking for a 'life' LTR on OLD. I don't even think in terms of messaging a 20-something (or 30, 40, etc - my search criteria starts at 55). I have little to offer sexually compared to younger men. And my best years of 'providing' are past so I don't see myself as offering anything to a young woman who is interested in raising a family. I do see myself as extremely healthy and active for my age so I'm looking for and at women who seem to be similarly healthy and active. The idea is to 'share' whatever 'golden years' there may be. I can't see that working with a woman young enough to be .... let's just say .... my daughter. If I was a 'player'. Yeah, I'd be hitting on 'almost jailbait'. I suspect you'd get your share of 60s at a site like seekingarrangement.
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Old 14th November 2017, 3:35 PM   #52
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i'm an older man.all i get are messages from much younger women who want children.
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Old 21st November 2017, 11:06 AM   #53
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I (mid late 20s) don't think I've ever received a message from a man over 38...
Why? I don't think my profile is immature. It's just interesting that I mostly get 30-35 with a few 38 but never any higher??? I mean not one guy in his 40s messaging me that I can recall? No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?

Can other ladies relate?
So, you don't want to date men in specific age ranges and you are bummed they aren't messaging you?
What do you want out of that?

My parameters are set at 50-65. I get messages from 50-68.
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Old 24th November 2017, 12:50 PM   #54
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For POF the site won't let anyone message anyone else that is 15 years younger then them. Not sure if other dating sites have those kinds of messaging restrictions.
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I (mid late 20s) don't think I've ever received a message from a man over 38...
Why? I don't think my profile is immature. It's just interesting that I mostly get 30-35 with a few 38 but never any higher??? I mean not one guy in his 40s messaging me that I can recall? No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?

Can other ladies relate?
Sorry, new here.
is OLD short for On Line Dating?
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Old 11th December 2017, 2:50 PM   #56
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I (mid late 20s) don't think I've ever received a message from a man over 38...
Why? I don't think my profile is immature. It's just interesting that I mostly get 30-35 with a few 38 but never any higher??? I mean not one guy in his 40s messaging me that I can recall? No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?
We get sooooooooooooo tired of no replies... from any age range. I mean, my net is cast pretty wide and while someone who's younger is slightly more likely to reply than someone closer to my age, it's pretty bleak overall.

Honestly, I'm looking for a mutual match before I bother sending a message, so get to liking, IMO.
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Old 11th December 2017, 10:45 PM   #57
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I (mid late 20s) don't think I've ever received a message from a man over 38...
Why? I don't think my profile is immature. It's just interesting that I mostly get 30-35 with a few 38 but never any higher??? I mean not one guy in his 40s messaging me that I can recall? No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?

Can other ladies relate?
Honestly? Well I'm 39.. look at some of the very attractive 20 somethings and think "oh god, I'm going to come across as a dirty old man".

If you want an older man to take an interest, you might have to reach out, because a lot of them are going to put you squarely out of their league.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 3:30 AM   #58
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don't understand what the thing is.
it sounds like a pretty good typical age range for you that your getting.

The site l've just joined has age things you fill out and if you want no one outside of that age range can message you.
l've kept it locked into the age range suits me so l dunno what would happen if l left it open to all ages ,hate to think.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 7:59 AM   #59
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don't understand what the thing is.
it sounds like a pretty good typical age range for you that your getting.

The site l've just joined has age things you fill out and if you want no one outside of that age range can message you.
l've kept it locked into the age range suits me so l dunno what would happen if l left it open to all ages ,hate to think.
My male experience is that I get SUSPICIOUS contacts from much younger women from hundreds or thousands of miles away. Not 'hate to think'. Even mildly amusing. The OP did explicitly say she's 'just curious'.
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Old 22nd December 2017, 4:21 PM   #60
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Might unlock mine for awhile , bit of fun , see what comes in.

l've had a lot from all over the world too
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