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Old 26th October 2017, 10:48 AM   #46
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My guy and i are like this. He loves to drink, party, play loud music, go clubbing. I like reading, walks, and ballet. I dont think hes compensating. I think thats his personality. My ex was older and also a big people person though not a partier.
I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
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Old 26th October 2017, 11:28 AM   #47
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I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
New guy and i arent committed or dating seriously. I see him once every couple of weeks.

It would be a lot easier if we could skip that getting to knlw you stage. I dont know how, aside from arranged marriages lol
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Old 26th October 2017, 10:36 PM   #48
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I didn't know you were dating I thought you stopped hotpotato

I guess I want to try something new. I think deep down I want a LTR....I think. A casual LTR. I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?

Hotpotato is so inconsistent and contradicts everything she says.
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Old 26th October 2017, 11:09 PM   #49
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I want love but I wish you could skip the "getting to know" each other part... ugh does that really matter?
This is something you and I can agree on. That's why I approach dating the way I do. I hardly ever date strangers or people I meet online. I almost exclusively date people I already know somehow. People I grew up with, ladies I have known some high school days, women I went to college with, people I have met at work and kept in touch with, you name it. I absolutely hate those first couple months of dating when it's like starting a new job and neither of you has a clue about the other.
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Old 27th October 2017, 1:50 PM   #50
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Hotpotato is so inconsistent and contradicts everything she says.
Lol im not dating him, nor am i looking to date anyone. Thats not a contradiction.
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Old 13th November 2017, 6:24 PM   #51
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No guys in their 60s? I mean not that I'm trying to date a guy that much older, just curious?
I'm late to this 'party' but have my own answer to this question. I'm a 60-something looking for a 'life' LTR on OLD. I don't even think in terms of messaging a 20-something (or 30, 40, etc - my search criteria starts at 55). I have little to offer sexually compared to younger men. And my best years of 'providing' are past so I don't see myself as offering anything to a young woman who is interested in raising a family. I do see myself as extremely healthy and active for my age so I'm looking for and at women who seem to be similarly healthy and active. The idea is to 'share' whatever 'golden years' there may be. I can't see that working with a woman young enough to be .... let's just say .... my daughter. If I was a 'player'. Yeah, I'd be hitting on 'almost jailbait'. I suspect you'd get your share of 60s at a site like seekingarrangement.
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i'm an older man.all i get are messages from much younger women who want children.
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