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Old 4th January 2018, 6:33 PM   #16
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Not that description.

How many carats total weight?

What is the cut of the stone?

What is the shape of the stone?

What is the clarity of the stone? S12 through FL (probably a bunch of letters you don't understand)

What is the color of the stone (a letter from J though D)?
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Old 4th January 2018, 6:35 PM   #17
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I am not 100 percent sure, but it appears to be this one (I hope posting this link is allowed):

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/d...e%26slotId%3D7
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Old 4th January 2018, 6:36 PM   #18
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Not that description.

How many carats total weight?

What is the cut of the stone?

What is the shape of the stone?

What is the clarity of the stone? S12 through FL (probably a bunch of letters you don't understand)

What is the color of the stone (a letter from J though D)?
Sorry, but I don't have the faintest clue about what any of that even means.
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Old 4th January 2018, 6:37 PM   #19
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Sorry, but I don't have the faintest clue about what any of that even means.
It's like the official paper that comes with your purchase
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Old 4th January 2018, 6:38 PM   #20
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Sorry, but I don't have the faintest clue about what any of that even means.
And that is where you went wrong. Those are the most important factors in buying a diamond. The answers to those Qs should be on the certificate of authenticity you got with the ring.
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I am not 100 percent sure, but it appears to be this one (I hope posting this link is allowed):

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/d...e%26slotId%3D7
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Old 4th January 2018, 6:42 PM   #22
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When I clicked on the link some of the answers were there:
Diamond Color Rating Code: I
Diamond Clarity Rating Code: I2-I3
Diamond Shape: Round
There is no info about the cut because none of them are single stones. They are all very small stones set together to give the illusion that they form 3 larger stones. That is fine. It's part of today's trend to make rings more affordable.

It's a lovely ring in a nice setting. I'm sure your GF will be thrilled.

Do you have a plan for the proposal?
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Old 4th January 2018, 7:02 PM   #23
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Eh... I can't speak for anyone else, but I genuinely didn't mind much what ring I got. I did love the ring the SO got me, but it was the symbolism that mattered most to me - that the man I loved and who loved me, was asking me to spend my life with him. The proposal didn't even go as planned because am unforeseeable circumstance popped up in the middle of it, lol. But again, that's not what really matters.

I think the ring you posted looks fine and I'm sure that if she loves you, she'll say yes
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Old 4th January 2018, 7:45 PM   #24
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I suggest having it appraised and added to your insurance policy (you can probably roll it into your homeowner's insurance) ASAP. You will both benefit from the peace of mind knowing it's covered.

Wedding bands are typically pretty simple. She will want to get one that fits with her engagement ring so she can wear them comfortably at the same time. It's actually not too hard and often less expensive to have rings custom made to match, either.

Congratulations! When and how are you proposing?
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Old 5th January 2018, 8:16 AM   #25
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This is tough and very personal too, depending on you and your soon-to-be fiance. But its not all about the price. Obviously you don't want to get ripped off but did you only choose this ring because it had the biggest mark down on it? Or did you like it, think your gf would like it and, added bonus, it was in your price range and apparently more expensive than you got it for? If I were getting engaged, some thought would mean more to me than price.
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Old 7th January 2018, 2:02 PM   #26
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Before you get filled with doubts... .

My husband and I have money (and I only say that for what follows). My engagement ring - purchased only a few years ago - was similarly priced to yours, it doesn't have a big stone and I absolutely love it. He designed it himself and found someone to build it using recycled precious metals. That was so him. He believes very strongly in not over-mining and neither of us were diamond people. For me, being older, I thought the amount of money people were expected to spend on something you wear on your left hand was absolutely ridiculous. I'd rather have an awesome vacation or a remodel.

I said all of that because this is really about you, your intended and your moment. The ring is a symbol of love and a physical reminder of the moment your spouse asks you to marry you. It holds such incredible value because of how and why it is offered. It's not monetary value - although many have that. Looking at the ring reminds the wearer of that day and it's remarkably special.

If you are now having doubts about the ring and it's going to ruin the moment for you, there's a couple of things you can do. First, take the ring out and look at it. Do you love it? Is this the gift you want to give to her to signify your engagement? If so, swallow the doubts and plan the ask. If you don't love it or if there has been enough doubt planted that it's going to impede the moment, go ahead and take the ring back. You can ask her without the ring and shop together. If you're ready to get married, you're also ready to talk about finances and how much you can afford to spend. Finally, if you really want to surprise her, you can take the ring back and spend a little time figuring out what kind of jewelry she likes. A single stone? Multiple stones? What does she wear now? Then, as another poster said, go to a local jeweler, discuss your budget and what your fiance likes. Shop around if there first jeweler doesn't have what you want/need.

Regardless, enjoy this fantastic and wonderful time in your lives. There's something magical about being engaged. Enjoy it. And congrats to you and the lucky lady!

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Before you get filled with doubts... .

My husband and I have money (and I only say that for what follows). My engagement ring - purchased only a few years ago - was similarly priced to yours, it doesn't have a big stone and I absolutely love it. He designed it himself and found someone to build it using recycled precious metals. That was so him. He believes very strongly in not over-mining and neither of us were diamond people. For me, being older, I thought the amount of money people were expected to spend on something you wear on your left hand was absolutely ridiculous. I'd rather have an awesome vacation or a remodel.

I said all of that because this is really about you, your intended and your moment. The ring is a symbol of love and a physical reminder of the moment your spouse asks you to marry you. It holds such incredible value because of how and why it is offered. It's not monetary value - although many have that. Looking at the ring reminds the wearer of that day and it's remarkably special.

If you are now having doubts about the ring and it's going to ruin the moment for you, there's a couple of things you can do. First, take the ring out and look at it. Do you love it? Is this the gift you want to give to her to signify your engagement? If so, swallow the doubts and plan the ask. If you don't love it or if there has been enough doubt planted that it's going to impede the moment, go ahead and take the ring back. You can ask her without the ring and shop together. If you're ready to get married, you're also ready to talk about finances and how much you can afford to spend. Finally, if you really want to surprise her, you can take the ring back and spend a little time figuring out what kind of jewelry she likes. A single stone? Multiple stones? What does she wear now? Then, as another poster said, go to a local jeweler, discuss your budget and what your fiance likes. Shop around if there first jeweler doesn't have what you want/need.

Regardless, enjoy this fantastic and wonderful time in your lives. There's something magical about being engaged. Enjoy it. And congrats to you and the lucky lady!

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Now that I reflected more on it, I agree 100%. The cost didn't matter to me, but a big part of the warm fuzzy feelings I get from looking at the ring was because of how much it reflects us. I would hope that the OP did pick that ring up because it looked good/suitable to him though, with the affordable price sealing the deal. Not just chose it because of the discount!
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Old 8th January 2018, 11:03 AM   #28
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OP, is this a shotgun wedding (i.e. rush)? I ask due to your thread about pregnancy.

You can certainly be forgiven for not knowing the four Cs at this point.

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Old 13th February 2018, 4:30 PM   #29
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But after all the most important thing is not the wedding ring but the marriage itself. Good luck!
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