After being married for nearly 9 years, I got divorced and got into the internet dating scene. Quite frankly it has worked for me. I met a beautiful woman who lived across the country from me, and we talked hours every day for two months before finally meeting. On the first night we met we had sex. Please realize that I am a guy who was a virgin until I was 29, when I had sex with my wife/ex-wife to be. We began a nearly two year relationship which ended because I felt that I was not in love with her even though I really care for her deeply. We are still good friends and talk frequently. Quite frankly I do not think it was necessarily a mistake to have had sex so soon, because eventually we would have, and probably had the same end result.
Two months after ending my relationship, I began communicating with another beautiful woman. We talked for about 2 months again, before deciding to meet one another. Before the trip I decided that I did not want to have sex, even in the unlikely event that she did on our first meeting. Well I was simply in awe of her beauty when we met in person. I really mean that I felt she had an aura about her, not just in a sexual way, but her whole presence. Well, first night we started to kiss, and I had no will power to resist and once again we had sex on the first date. We spent a week together, and I really feel that she is the woman for me, and she has expressed similar feelings toward me.
In a way, it just seems wrong to get involved so so fast, but perhaps in a sense I do feel like I know these women from the extensive communication we have had before meeting. To date, I do not believe such fast intimacy has been detrimental, but it is difficult to know for sure. Have others had such fast intimacy with people that they have met online, and have others felt that this has been detrimental to their relationships.
This is the adrenaline rush of lust....It has nothing to do with her being the right person. It has everything to do with wanting to have sex because you are intoxicated with passion.
We spent a week together, and I really feel that she is the woman for me, and she has expressed similar feelings toward me.
It is too soon to decide that. No matter how well you think you know someone from online, you don't know them well enough to make lifetime decisions. Enjoy the relationship for the next few months and see if you feel the same way after a lot of close contact.
go for it!
not everyone you meet is going to give you the feelings that you have right now. not everyone has the aura around them that you just are so drawn to.
what do you have to loose?
In answer to your original question , I too have had sex on a first date and yes you can enjoy the moment(s) and intense passion Theres nothing wrong with 2 adults deciding they are going to be intimate quickly but in most cases sex after 2 hours of meeting is more lust than it is something that will last into months. Some may have had lasting relationships on first date sex but mostly its mutual booty call.
Enjoy it but dont expect it to be long term in most cases...
I think this depends on the situation. How much, how long have you talked with the long distance 'friend?' Has this person shared their thoughts, desires, life goals with you? In a situation like that, I think that sex or no sex on first meeting has little to no impact. The reality is, again, sex or no sex, connections are not always immediate. Like anything, sometimes love needs to grow. Now, lust, passion, hormonal things like that, that's all part of being human, lol. Maybe love can grow from lust or passion? Isn't love better with passion? Just my thoughts...
In answer to your original question , I too have had sex on a first date and yes you can enjoy the moment(s) and intense passion Theres nothing wrong with 2 adults deciding they are going to be intimate quickly but in most cases sex after 2 hours of meeting is more lust than it is something that will last into months. Some may have had lasting relationships on first date sex but mostly its mutual booty call.
Enjoy it but dont expect it to be long term in most cases...
Hello Mary3, I can totally agree with you on your previous statement 100%. I'd thought it was a long term relationship at first but at the end it turned out the opposite ways. So in other words. I'll never do that again and never have eversince my first and my last try. That was somewhat when I was still a teenager at age 17. I'm 23 years old now and been with my girlfriend now for 2 years. We've been through so much together through an on and off relationship and to be totally honest. I just can't count how many times it has happen with breaking up and going back together.
I've learn so much as I started to get into deeper relationship. There were times when I did things when I think back, I'd regretted so much. Anyways, just complementing you on your wonderful post
Thanks PrettyBoi and I am happy that you found someone wonderful. I think good relationships ARE hard work and to keep it going ....so kudos to you for being the best bf a girl could have...
I have been in both scenarios and honestly anything can happen.I was talking for 2 months with a guy over the internet and when we meet in person we sleep together.It was the best relationship Ive had. If it werent because of the military relocation overseas we would be married.
Communication and honesty are very important. We only live once. If you are spending time with this person and they make you happy who cares how it started. Life is about taking chances. You dont want to wonder all your life what if. If you have sex and something awesome happens after even better. There are no set of rules on how to start a relationship because we are all different. We live in a society that has told us what to do and not what to do. Noone knows what is best for you but yourself!! Good Luck
In answer to your original question , I too have had sex on a first date and yes you can enjoy the moment(s) and intense passion Theres nothing wrong with 2 adults deciding they are going to be intimate quickly but in most cases sex after 2 hours of meeting is more lust than it is something that will last into months. Some may have had lasting relationships on first date sex but mostly its mutual booty call.
Enjoy it but dont expect it to be long term in most cases...
i was going to say this same thing. good advice mary3.
Thanks Sally I do tend to live in the moment so have had those encounters . I know they say wait a long time before having sex but I wonder what is the * normal * time frame in a world where everything moves at warp speed ! lol
You guys know what I happen to know now and days? People are very confusing between love & lust. As stated before by Mary3 about "the adrenaline rush of lust....It has nothing to do with her being the right person. It has everything to do with wanting to have sex because you are intoxicated with passion." Thank you Mary3 for posting it out clearly!
I can make a good example of what lust can be for a guy. I've done heard this statement made by my guys friends thousands of time about how they love this girl and want to be with this girl. Blah....this and that but in reality they're really lusting for that particular female. More like a strong desire to have sex with her. Then later on when they see another girl who is even more prettier then they'll end up saying the same thing over and over.
Love is when you're committed to that one particular person and that you've made up your mind to spend the rest of your life with him/her for good until death do-us-part. Love is a pretty strong word to me and I do take it very seriously. I'm not saying everything think that way like how I do but you'll know when you're in love. Love can make you so stupid crazy things which at times you don't even realize it. It's the most unexplainable word that can't be define by human being.
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