Well if anyone has read my prior posts I'm sure you will see a pattern of me apparently picking bad apples. My parents seem to think I don't have the ability to properly weed through the bad apples. That my giving them my trust right off the bat is a chracter flaw basically which leads to my getting burned. It was their advice that I sign up for some dating service where its all face to face, and they rank you, match you, advise you, etc. Do these things really work? It's called Great Expectations, something my parents friends advised them of. I figured I'd be one of the youngest people there (I'm 25) but believe it or not there are 19 year olds+. These people pay money around $1000.00 to be entered into their system. I would imagine they are either very serious about finding someone with long term potential or very desperate. I just need to know what to expect, I've already committed to my folks I would sign up.
My folks seem to be pretty down at the most recent dating experience and feel I will never find the right person on my own. Most of them women I date have came off the Internet and it's their view that is what I am doing wrong (they are old fashioned). Who knows..maybe its just me.
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I think $1,000 is a very steep, unless you are someone with serious money. I have heard of very wealthy people with very strict critera paying A LOT of money, in the tens of thousands, for match makers; these people really care about someone's backrground, resume, and are usually looking to get hitched asap. Are you really in that much of a rush to settle down?
I would stick with the internet thing as your "dating service" but would also try to meet women in other areas too. Your parents say that you don't have the best "filtering" skills, but I'm still weary of people that say "for the right amount of money we can fix your life and make you happy". I don't think that any external entity could really know me and figure out what I'm attracted to and need. For $50 I might try it, but definitely not $1,000.
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Yeah, good advice. I signed the dotted line, and it appears I am screwed. It was definatley a poor judgement on my part and I accept the responsibility. As an adult, I should have politely told my parents that it all comes with experience. But after listening to them and my friends say the same stuff time and time again I figured I had nothing to lose. Now, I am regretting entering into their contract. There is no way to back out either. So it looks like I am stuck financing $1500.00 at 10% APR for 2 years. Live and learn I suppose. I hope the women they have don't think I am Mr. Money Bags because I'm definately not.
Last edited by mark1210; 9th October 2005 at 7:47 PM..
I also have spent money I didn't have on bad decisions and like you said, the best thing you can do is learn from it. Maybe you WILL find someone special. If you don't, you will probably learn things about yourself and your own filtering process and what you are looking for and need so that you can do a better job on your own.
I think you have a good attitude about it all; thats the most valuable thing you can have. Good luck!!
Save your money. I was in "face to face" dating services before the age of the internet....that`s all there was. The ratio of men to women is about ten to one. I don`t see where you can gain any advantage over the internet except these people are supposed to be personally screened. I don`t believe it. The are not going to pass on anyone who is willing to pay unless the are in the ten most wanted list.
But, you ought to just get out there and meet women on your own. 25 is still young. Keep working on it!
Unless I was lied to...which is entirely possible, they said in my age range 20-27 there were 47 women that matched my criteria. As for the males there were 78 or something like that. I doubt there is a way out of the contract. I assume it would be cheaper in the long run to just pay it out and at least make them work for the money.
I never got a respone though regarding what it would be like from a woman's perspective. Why would a woman go this route? I was told by them that women use the service as they are too busy and too tired of the bar/club scene and it's safer for them. Is that true or just BS? And would a woman think that a man was "loaded" because he paid more than a woman to get his information added? I'm a bit concerned now that these women may think I am loaded and they are in for a big surprise. Wonder if there is a buyer's remorse law.
Great Expectations is a rip off.. I did them many years ago and they matched me with someone of the Hindu faith that had only been in this country 6 months.. She could barley speak english.. She also had a dot on her forehead..
Not my idea of a match
You do have 72 hrs after signing a contract to get out of it..
It's called the buyers remorse clause..
If I were you I would try and negotiate the contract and get some of your money back..
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I never got a respone though regarding what it would be like from a woman's perspective. Why would a woman go this route? I was told by them that women use the service as they are too busy and too tired of the bar/club scene and it's safer for them. Is that true or just BS? And would a woman think that a man was "loaded" because he paid more than a woman to get his information added? I'm a bit concerned now that these women may think I am loaded and they are in for a big surprise. Wonder if there is a buyer's remorse law.
I've heard of Great Expectations. I am registerd with a match making service. It is called Together Dating. Similar to your sevice. I joined last month.
My fee is very low compared to there normal fee.They adjusted their fee for me because I am highly compatable according to there intake tests and interview and also I don't have much of a income being a single parent getting little help from deadbeat father. The lady I met with said there are more men then women to match up. She said she would't be surprised if by the 4th match I would be dating someone heading towards a serious relationship. I have had 3 matches all in a 2 week time. I met 2 of the 3. They are giving me 10 matchs for the price I am paying. I think its fair.
The service is matching me with these guys based on my morals, values, interests and hobbies. After each date I am to give them feed back so they can adjust the criteria for matching me.
I joined this service because I AM sick of the club/bar scene. I AM sick of the online dating garbage too. I'm tired of being lied too and used. The guys in Together Dating ARE LOOKING for a serious relationship. It is not for casual dating. There is a extensive background check and also if they get bad reports on you or think you are not being sincere they will release you from their services (you still have to pay your fee) or stop matching you until you recieve counceling. They even have councelors with their service if you need them.
I am a woman and that is my point of view, knowledge and reason for joining the service. I have heard that Great Expectations is not as good of a service as Together Dating.
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I think you need to stop viewing your picking bad apples as something that happens only to you and automatically implies that you're unable to find the right girl. It's very hard for all of us to hook up with someone great. I am very content with my BF, but in 30 years he is basically the only good guy I met.
Your parents shouldn't interfere so much in your personal life. You sound like the typical good boy and as such you're prone to falling for bad girls. People are usually attracted to their opposites for a reason; the unknown (the challenge) allures us to explore it. I am sure you're not even aware of what's going on until you find yourself in a bad relationship. You keep picking up the ones with emotional baggage as if your mind has a sensor to detect them, right? I think you need to be more mature (older) in order to be able to recognize potential psychotic behavior.
For no money will anyone make you fall for the right girl; they may introduce you to a few of them, but not do the job for you. Besides, I would say for that price they can't have too many members and thus your choice is fairly limited.
The environment of your search may also influence the girls you meet. If you meet them at bars where they drink tons of beer and end up passed out on the backseat of your car, don't be surprised that these relationships don't work out. Try approaching girls at sports events, galleries, museums, concerts, theaters or even engage in some new activity where you might meet a "good apple".
I've heard of Great Expectations. I am registerd with a match making service. It is called Together Dating. Similar to your sevice. I joined last month.
My fee is very low compared to there normal fee.They adjusted their fee for me because I am highly compatable according to there intake tests and interview and also I don't have much of a income being a single parent getting little help from deadbeat father. The lady I met with said there are more men then women to match up. She said she would't be surprised if by the 4th match I would be dating someone heading towards a serious relationship. I have had 3 matches all in a 2 week time. I met 2 of the 3. They are giving me 10 matchs for the price I am paying. I think its fair.
The service is matching me with these guys based on my morals, values, interests and hobbies. After each date I am to give them feed back so they can adjust the criteria for matching me.
I joined this service because I AM sick of the club/bar scene. I AM sick of the online dating garbage too. I'm tired of being lied too and used. The guys in Together Dating ARE LOOKING for a serious relationship. It is not for casual dating. There is a extensive background check and also if they get bad reports on you or think you are not being sincere they will release you from their services (you still have to pay your fee) or stop matching you until you recieve counceling. They even have councelors with their service if you need them.
I am a woman and that is my point of view, knowledge and reason for joining the service. I have heard that Great Expectations is not as good of a service as Together Dating.
Boy.. You bought the whole package..
I have some swamp land in NO that I'm selling.. And for you because you are so highly compatable I'll sell it to you at a lower rate
LOL..are we sure buyer's remorse works in this situation? Also, I bought it on Friday, Saturday and Sunday are non-business days and Monday they are closed for the Holiday. So now what?
Plus, I don't think Texas has a buyer's remorse law.
Also, naah gonna have to pass on the swap, I think my credit is stretched already to the max =)
Well if anyone has read my prior posts I'm sure you will see a pattern of me apparently picking bad apples. My parents seem to think I don't have the ability to properly weed through the bad apples. That my giving them my trust right off the bat is a chracter flaw basically which leads to my getting burned. It was their advice that I sign up for some dating service where its all face to face, and they rank you, match you, advise you, etc. Do these things really work? It's called Great Expectations, something my parents friends advised them of. I figured I'd be one of the youngest people there (I'm 25) but believe it or not there are 19 year olds+. These people pay money around $1000.00 to be entered into their system. I would imagine they are either very serious about finding someone with long term potential or very desperate. I just need to know what to expect, I've already committed to my folks I would sign up.
My folks seem to be pretty down at the most recent dating experience and feel I will never find the right person on my own. Most of them women I date have came off the Internet and it's their view that is what I am doing wrong (they are old fashioned). Who knows..maybe its just me.
Thanks!
Listen man you gonna believe in what people tell you and not have will as a man that you can do it?
Believe me when i say its all in your head, women some are hard to get but some are very easy going.
never pay for PU**Y.
it comes free.
This is what i want you to do. goto a local Library, pickup a book called "Magic of thinking big".
you are 25y old man, not a 12y old kid. that you need people tell you that you are not good enough on your own, have some FU***** Balls, go out and do it, then tell them that you can do it.
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