Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
Most men (and some women) say that there is nothing wrong with strip clubs and porn. That it is just how men are wired and we should just accept it. Men are visual and these things are what turns them on.
When women like me ask how you would feel if your wife or gf was doing the same things, most men say they wouldn't care. The thing is, it is not normal for women to frequent strip clubs (how many are there for women compared to the ones for men?) and I mostly only read on here about women that look at porn alone. If this is what turned most women on, there would be more strip clubs for women and more porn geared toward women.
I've also noticed that men say it wouldn't bother them, but their actions can tell a different story. I don't think they would feel the same if they were often faced with their SO hiding mags with close to perfect, nude men, getting up in the night to look at other men on the computer, and wanting girls night out to include male reviews.
This is only my opinion, but women have different turn-ons than men. Men are turned on visually, women like to turn men on visually. Even if it's okay if your SO does the same things you do, what if that isn't her turn-on? What if she wants to be the stripper or the woman that all the men want to look at?
Women and men are taught that men are always going to want to look at other women whether it be porn, strip clubs, or the hotty walking down the street. But if we want to turn other men on 'just for fun', we are called many choice words and have to control our behavior.
It's not that I want to be a stripper or a porn star, but if I can control myself and my urges, why do I have to accept that most men shouldn't have to?
Do any other women feel this way, or is it just me?
If your boyfriend has the right to watch tons of porn, you have the right of being unconfortable with it, AND the right to put porn pics of yourself on the internet (making sure no one who sees your pics can contact you, and that no one that knows you can see them).
If your boyfriend has the right to go to strip clubs, you have the right of being unconfortable with it, AND the right to get naked and dance in front of strangers.
If your boyfriend has the right to get a lap dance, you have the right of being unconfortable with it, AND the right to give a stranger a lap dance.
If your boyfriend has the right to go to a topless beach and gawk at the ladies, you have the right of being unconfortable with it, AND the right to go along with him(ot at another beach on your own) wearing only a thong topless swimsuit.
[quote]Originally posted by deesgirl
If this is what turned most women on, there would be more strip clubs for women and more porn geared toward women.
Speaking from experience The reason the are not many clubs geared twards women is because we won't stupidly drop our paychecks to look at sexy men.
the club I worked at made over 20K a night, because men think if you spend enough money your going to get some.......but they are often left empty with buldging pants.
I don't like male reviews the guys are hot yes but the act more feminine! and get really sweatty (yuck) don't want sweat dripping on me. ( i love watching the seinor citicens go nuts though)
I hate to admit it but turning guys on gets me going nothing like sexual power!
Stone, I agree. The guys all seem gay. Nothing wrong with gay, unless you're a straight woman I don't want a sweaty stranger near me either. The place I went to, you had to give them a buck to make them go away...lol
And what's with those rings they wear (you know on what)? That alone takes the excitement out.
This is off topic, but I had another post in the marriage section and it's gone. It was 'Men and first loves'. Does anyone know why it might have been deleted?
Don't ask me why I know this, but the rings a lot of the male 'performers' wear around their penis is to help maintain a partial erection and manage the blood flow so that the penis seems more engorged for their audience. Men can't keep it up all the time and they have a lot of performances to do. Its a job to them and they don't always get a sexual thrill out of it.
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I don't want a sweaty stranger near me either. The place I went to, you had to give them a buck to make them go away...lol
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