So, how many of you guys, see a non-virgin as "damaged goods" - honestly? How many of you secretly dream of marrying a virgin? I know the Christian marriage ideals are still very present, but i'm wondering to what extent.
I'm a girl, and I'd hate to marry a virgin. So I guess I'm traditional in the sense that I think a man needs to explore and screw around a bit before settling with one woman.
Originally posted by yes
So, how many of you guys, see a non-virgin as "damaged goods" - honestly? How many of you secretly dream of marrying a virgin?
Anyone whom would think that a virgin is 'damaged goods' is a friggin moron.
Although, I find that there is something utterly appealing about virgins. I guess it's the innocence; knowing that the honeypot has never been touched. I also like the fact that you'd have to teach them things in the bedroom.
...But, I don't secretly dream of marrying a virgin. I want a woman with experience!
here's the sense that i have: the men who're bent on marrying virgins are of two kinds -
1) super religious - OK, whatever
2) those who screwed around a lot; men who've been in 'normal' r/s's imagine their new gf was in similar 'normal' r/s's and don't mind her having had sex in such circumstances; whereas those who've had many one-night-stands and what not imagine their new gf had sex in these vulgar circumstances, hence are bothered by it.
Personally I would prefer a virgin over someone who just throws sex around at people. If I learn the girl has had sex before it kinda ruins things for me. I dont know what it is, but they just seem like damaged goods to me then. Plus I noticed that, atleast around where I live, that when a girl looses her virginity she kinda becomes a pompous bitch, I've seen it happen a thousand times.
Originally posted by Alexandré
If I learn the girl has had sex before it kinda ruins things for me. I dont know what it is, but they just seem like damaged goods to me then. .
You must be a virgin to think this way. If not, what if it were to ruin things for a woman, because you've already had sex? What then?
Plus I noticed that, atleast around where I live, that when a girl looses her virginity she kinda becomes a pompous bitch, I've seen it happen a thousand times.
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I am inteed a virgin but only because I'm not interested in casual sex, I have to be in a relationship with the person to even consider it. But yeah if I were not a virgin it could very well ruin it for some girl, I've seen it happen. But its just I hate it when people just go around a **** random people, I'm not into that at all.
Um. Lots of people who have had several partners have not been 'xing random people'. They get into relationships they think will be serious and then the relationships break up. You can't hold that against someone.
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My ex had this thing with virginity. He always mentioned that he'd choose a virgin above someone who's not. When he met me, I wasn't a virgin anymore and it used to bother him so much. He became paranoid with my first boyfriend, who by the way, he had never met and who was waaayyyy before him.
The point is, he used to tell me that he would prefer a virgin because a virgin wouldn't have anything to compare you with. .... lol... so now you see where the problem is.
When we dated, he wasn't a virgin either, by the way.
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