My ex broke into my email account. Thing is...there was some very personal stuff in there.
I know it's her (don't ask how). There was even a recent email from an ex of long ago with just the usual light-hearted 'how you doing...I've been to such and such with my new bf....' (no plans of reconcilliation...truly, I'm just trying to be light hearted with this ex ex).
Now current ex has seen all my ramblings to myself....just notes I send myself. Some very deep and personal. One...even, gulp...thought on suicide.
i had ythe same thing happen 2 me, me and my husband have been seperated and at the time i was just friends w/ this guy but still i had a bunch of emails to him plus a lot of emails to my "girl" friends about my husband and the situation and there responses and alot of other real personal stuff.. he actually broke into my house read them then fwd them to himself... ughhhh no advice just that ive been there
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You have every right to be very angry as well as violated even if it is email, if in fact she did do this..... not that she would admit to it....... the only thing you can do is change your passwords...... and be very discreet with it. I would not even approach her on it because no doubt she will deny it all and twist it around and possibly even use what she read in your emails against you. Trust me, people who invade your privacy like this, are that low and have no morals whatsoever. I wouldnt even give her the time of day!!! Be thankful you may have caught this in time. Good luck to you.
Last edited by lostforwords; 13th January 2004 at 10:44 PM..
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amen to above! o, this makes me so mad.
if you want to drive the point home, write a journal entry ostensibly to yourself where you talk about how soulless, loserly, and pathetic it is to try and break into other people's privacy; and how much you hope those who do this will someday get another hobby, maybe read a book instead, or just get a friggin' life. maybe link to your post on this. ok. done venting.
or, more rationally, just talk to her frankly without accusing her. just explain randomly how important privacy is to you, is, in fact, to many adults, and that a relationship does not give automatic permission to ignore boundaries. maturity means understanding that you are different people with different lives even if you are a couple.
never use your exes first name as your password, i used to break into fellow employees accounts all the time using this method, it was either their girlfriend or their wifes name!
if it was a girl who owned and loved a dog it was her dog's name...
well sometimes anyway, i wasn't interested in peoples privacy, it was just to test a theory!
Naw, I'm not. I'm just very sensitive to computer crimes, and how people often think that because the chances of them getting caught are less, that somehow they aren't breaking the law, or that it is okay to do.
if it helps, i never read any of their emails, i was a software engineer working with a hacker type guy ( who trusted me ) who showed me transcripts of senior management talking with 13 year olds on MSN , one particular fellow was just about to get married but was arranging a 'meeting' with a minor....
i would never violate a person's privacy who i respected, exes or otherwise, i swear!!!!
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Hmmmm dont mean to rain on your parade dario..... however i have a question from anyone who is willing to answer..... call me naive or better yet ignorant..... but what if that email account was Yahoo or Hotmail.... is it still illegal?
Who cares if it is illegal? It's unethical! It's wrong! sorry to rant. It's just sent me into a spin...she must think me a total fruitcake now after reading all my messages to myself...my personal poetry of the year...my dreams...my inner thoughts. I'm lost. I was all letting go and now this....
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Who cares if it is illegal? It's unethical! It's wrong!
Oh sorry Dario I guess I should have explained why I asked. I had the same thing done to me only it was from an "ex boyfriends new girlfriend" (god i hope i didnt confuse) I question if it were illegal because my email account was indeed Yahoo. Not only did she read my emails as well as erase them but she also sent my cousin an email with referrencing to my address and phone number of where I was living at, at the time. In the letter she also made reference to sending a wedding invitation and a hint of adding anthrax in it. Just curious. I guess all things aside its in the past for me. Good luck to you.
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