I broke up with him almost a month ago, we have been no contact since then, and I wonder if he misses me. Why do I care?! I wish I didn't. I think maybe I think it will somehow make it easier on me. Anyone else feel this way?
All the time. I wonder if the break up somehow has an impact on him and that I'm not one of those good riddances.
I've learned that there is nothing else you can do to make a person change his mind. As written in LS frequently - he may miss you but it doesn't mean he wants to reconcile with you.
Everyday!!! It matters that you meant something to them. At least for me it does. When I stop wondering does she think of and miss me is when I truly will be over this nightmare.
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I once believed in you, I believed in us. You rushed to be with me and you rushed to leave me. Leaving me only with memories in between your rushes!
Yep, pretty much every day... and it drives me up the wall... I wish I could ask him, but I know it wouldn't be "good" for me to do that....
I guess deep down I know he still cares, not enough to be with me obviously, but I wish I could find out if he misses me and when.... I guess its a way of knowing that I'm not the only one hurting....
I broke up with him almost a month ago, we have been no contact since then, and I wonder if he misses me. Why do I care?! I wish I didn't. I think maybe I think it will somehow make it easier on me....
No, it won't. How could it?
If you find out he misses you, you'll wonder why you therefore broke up in the first place, feel there might be hope, and start pining.
If you find out he doesn't miss you, you'll feel even more hurt and resentful, wonder how he could be like that, and be even more depressed.
Stop caring.
by all means miss him. But pick up your life, pin your shoulders back, stand tall, and start skipping.
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"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts; with our thoughts, we make the world."
You miss him so you've tied him into this projection. It's based on ego. You want him to miss you so maybe, just maybe he'll contact you. It's a slippery slope you're looking at so try, if at all possible to avoid it.
Put some energy into negating the thought by saying to yourself, "No, he doesn't miss me" and believing it. While this may hurt, it's a potential hard truth that is worth the cost of the pain. Apply if you really want to move on.
I broke up with him almost a month ago, we have been no contact since then, and I wonder if he misses me. Why do I care?! I wish I didn't. I think maybe I think it will somehow make it easier on me. Anyone else feel this way?
I never wonder if they miss me.. I know they do.
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I'm starting to care less and less if they miss me. The truth is, I'll never know, and really it doesn't matter. Long distance broke up my relationship, and for a long time I couldn't accept the idea that circumstances have a big impact on relationships.
I always thought that the expression "timing is everything" applied only to human actions. But I realize it also means WHEN you meet people, and what they are like at that time. Perhaps if you met later or earlier, under different circumstances, things could have been different. But, the "what if" game is only a form of self-torture.
I'm starting to care less and less if they miss me. The truth is, I'll never know, and really it doesn't matter. Long distance broke up my relationship, and for a long time I couldn't accept the idea that circumstances have a big impact on relationships.
I always thought that the expression "timing is everything" applied only to human actions. But I realize it also means WHEN you meet people, and what they are like at that time. Perhaps if you met later or earlier, under different circumstances, things could have been different. But, the "what if" game is only a form of self-torture.
However, to some the "timing" will never be right.
I wonder all the time if he misses me... I have to admit even for all the s*** he put me thru I still miss him.
They say that if you have left things unsaid when you break up you will continue to miss that person until you have said them, be it in person, by letter or even just writing a letter and never sending it.
It clears the air for you to move on.
I have done that but even now I wonder...especially since his new g/f looks like me down to the red hair, blue eyes and large chest...apparently now that is the only type he will date.
My ex used to email and call me and say how much she missed me, even though she was banging another guy, lol. An ex's words mean very little, it is their actions that will tell us all we need to know. Does my ex still miss me ? I don't know and don't care, she is in my past and that is where she put herself through her actions. Asking ourselves these questions only prolongs our pain. Whether they still miss us or not, means nothing. They have chose to not stay with us, that says all that needs to be said, IMO. Forget the what if's and move on. Life is too short for this type of thinking.
I broke up with him almost a month ago, we have been no contact since then, and I wonder if he misses me. Why do I care?! I wish I didn't. I think maybe I think it will somehow make it easier on me. Anyone else feel this way?
I know how you feel Ruby. It's been a long time since I left my ex, but only 2.5 months of NC and I do wonder if she misses me. it's getting to be more rare nowadays.
Whenever I feel myself dwelling on her, or if she misses me, or whatever, I try to gently sweep those feelings aside and think about my current life, my current interests, and more important positive feelings.
Since I've gone NC, I've been learning so much about myself and rediscovering the real me. I think prior to that, I was always distracted. And I'll admit I am distracted at time, but it's ok, and I can positively distract myself to bigger and better things. It's a process and takes time. We all get there eventually.
My ex used to email and call me and say how much she missed me, even though she was banging another guy, lol. An ex's words mean very little, it is their actions that will tell us all we need to know. Does my ex still miss me ? I don't know and don't care, she is in my past and that is where she put herself through her actions. Asking ourselves these questions only prolongs our pain. Whether they still miss us or not, means nothing. They have chose to not stay with us, that says all that needs to be said, IMO. Forget the what if's and move on. Life is too short for this type of thinking.
Agree 100%
I know this is very hard for everyone. It still puzzles me.. when I catch myself thinking about it.. I make myself run an extra lap at the gym
I am having the same problem you are having. My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago, and have been on NC since September 30. These past 10 days I have thought about her several times and I wonder if she misses me.
Its very futile because I know for a fact she doesn't miss me. My ex was a very emotionally driven girl and would never use her brain, only her heart. If she missed me we would unquestionably be together right now.
I know it hurts but breaking up is for the best. We need to rebuild ourselves and our characters. Screw our ex's, they may be laughing and having a good time now, but in the long run, you and I will be the ones gloating. Think of it that way.
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i know they miss me. many still keep in contact and are dear friends... does that mean we are meant to date again? no
there are many things to like about me - but that doesn't mean i have a need to date them, sometimes - to have them as a friend is more worthwhile than the thoughts of going backwards and dating them.
to move forward and to have my interactions with them be healthy and happy is much better.
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