I am trying to make my marriage work but I am beginning to think the only way I can make it work is if I have an affair too. I have bonded so to speak with my wife's OP spouse. She is a knock out and we are attracted to each other. We have acknowledged the attraction but have yet to act on it. I think if we are ever alone again it will happen.
I know it's wrong but I want to have an affair with her. I want her husband and my wife to find out after the fact so they know the pain they inflicted on us. I want to be able to tell the OP to his face that I slept with his wife multiple times and that I have no intention of stopping. It's only a fantasy right now but if I really pursued her I could make it happen.
I have a 9 year old son from a previous relationship who lives with us 50% of the time. We have no children together thank the lord. My wifes xMP and his spouse are childless. MP shoots blanks.
Maybe we should sleep together and just not say anything. That way we can have our revenge and our spouses none the wiser. No matter how hard I try I cannot stop my need to stick it to this guy. What better way than sleeping with his wife, even if he does not know about it, I will know.
Yes, but YOU will be betraying your wife at the sametime.
You're not thinking at all here, you're reacting on anger and pain. THINK for afew minutes.
This kid is your step-son, like it or not.
You also say thank the lord you have no kids with your wife - Well with that attitude, get divorced. HOW is screwing the xMM's wife going to fix your marriage?
So, how does the OM's wife feel about him being with your wife, since you all have bonded and everything? How does a typical conversation go?
She hates my wife as much as I hate her husband. Believe me I would not have to try hard to get her in the sack. At first we would stroke each others egos and bash our spouses. Then after a while we started talking about everything. That is when the attraction between us really started to develop. We've become very good friends.
Yes, but YOU will be betraying your wife at the sametime.
You're not thinking at all here, you're reacting on anger and pain. THINK for afew minutes.
This kid is your step-son, like it or not.
You also say thank the lord you have no kids with your wife - Well with that attitude, get divorced. HOW is screwing the xMM's wife going to fix your marriage?
It will make us even. Until that happens I don't think I can even fathom taking her back for good. I am 97% sure we will get divorced either way. We have a long history and MY son does love her (she is the step parent) but he already has a mother.
It is obvious you have no desire to fix your marriage.
Sorry I can't help you.
Just remember then, you DO have a child to think about - So whatever you decide to do, there will be a fallout and drama to follow. You sure you want to expose your child to this stuff? He isn't blind, nor deaf. I'm sure he picks up on the energy in the house.
I say go for it.. from what I understand, your W and your 'friend''s H are having an affair.. and now you'd love to sleep with his W... why not?
What's good for them, should be good for you too... if everything works out... maybe you can swap partners.. and just move from one house to another.. less trouble that way, don't you think.
sometimes, I think I would loooove to scr*ew one of the biotch's husband (this big cow from work)... she is a boss of my boss.. and she hates me with a passion (she is a big jealous biotch)... and is now trying to make my life miserable at work.. gosh I wish I knew her H.. I would, for sure, try to seduce him.. to get her..
You just gave me 'food for thought'... as soon as tomorrow... I will try to know where he works and how I can get in touch with him.. mouaahahhahaah..
__________________ "Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet" - Mae West
No good can come of a situation where you and this guy's wife use each other as clubs at gain revenge on your respective cheating spouses.
What you need to remember here is that if your wife loved you and her husband loved her that they wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.They don't want you,nor do they care about your feelings, if anything you 2 getting together will only serve to eliminate any guilt they might be feeling.
She hates my wife as much as I hate her husband. Believe me I would not have to try hard to get her in the sack. At first we would stroke each others egos and bash our spouses. Then after a while we started talking about everything. That is when the attraction between us really started to develop. We've become very good friends.
I'm curious...are you (and/or she) emotionally detached from your respective spouses? If you aren't, I'd be careful. It might sound like the perfect solution/treatment, but all is not as it seems...
Is this infidelity episode an anomaly or is either of your spouses a serial cheater?
My instinct is, unless she's a serial cheater, you'll likely find resistance when it comes right down to it (the sex part).... on that front, how physical have you all been?
No good can come of a situation where you and this guy's wife use each other as clubs at gain revenge on your respective cheating spouses.
What you need to remember here is that if your wife loved you and her husband loved her that they wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.They don't want you,nor do they care about your feelings, if anything you 2 getting together will only serve to eliminate any guilt they might be feeling.
My wife and I stopped being "in love" long ago. We have a long history and that is what is keeping us together. She was quite heartbroken when her MM kicked her to the curb.
I believe her xMP does love his wife because when his wife found out he disgarded mine like she was nothing.
I don't know if he is in love with her but I know he sure as hell does not want to loose his wife.
This is where crimes of passion can get really dangerous too. People are capable of doing stupid and crazy things when pushed past their limit.. I mean, what if your wife or her husband freaks out and goes postal?
I'm curious...are you (and/or she) emotionally detached from your respective spouses? If you aren't, I'd be careful. It might sound like the perfect solution/treatment, but all is not as it seems...
Is this infidelity episode an anomaly or is either of your spouses a serial cheater?
My instinct is, unless she's a serial cheater, you'll likely find resistance when it comes right down to it (the sex part).... on that front, how physical have you all been?
We have been detached emotionally for a long time. As far as I know this is her first affair. I have not cheated on her yet. xMM wife said as far as she knows this is his first affair and she has never cheated on him.
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