On Saturday we were at the mall with the kids and I happened to notice a couple of about our age walking in front of us arm in arm. The woman quickly reached down and pinched his ass and then brought her arm up quickly. My wife both saw it and I chuckled.
Later that night she made a comment about it suggesting how odd it was. I told her that I didn't think it was odd at all. In fact I thought that's the way married people should be. Then again, I said, maybe she wasn't his wife at all but his mistress - which maybe would explain her actions.
She rolled her eyes and said "Maybe you should get a girlfriend, then".
To which I replied, "Oh that. Yeah - I already have one."
For a minute she thought I was just being funny, then her jaw dropped. Needless to say, things are a little more surrealistic around the home right now.
So, what happens next?
Are you relieved that you told her?
Did you tell for reaction/put an end to either affair or with your marriage?
Just wondering why you told.
OK, end of question period.
How do you feel right now? (Okay I lied, I squeaked in one more..)
1) Yeah. I'm relieved. It's a weight off my shoulders - no doubt about it.
2) Neither. I'm just tired of lying. It's a drag.
3) I feel ok. I sipping a little red wine and getting ready for bed. She's still awake though - and fit to be tied. Go figure.
What do you want to happen? For her to divorce you? To force a choice here? Either her or the OW?
You don't sound like you care much what her reaction is.
It's not that I don't care what her reaction is - I'm no monster. But she's a little hysterical right now and so I reckon I'm going to have to wait a little before we can actually have a reasonable discussion about this.
I don't know that I want a divorce - but then again, it may not be the worst thing in the world either. In any case, once she calms down and thinks about things - I don't think she's going to want a divorce. That's just from the practical perspective of things. And I'll watch out for her.
But I also have no intention right now of dropping the OW. But then again - if that goes South, which it was probably inevitably destined to do anyway - then I'll accept that too.
So why exactly looking forward to it? What do you expect to happen or be accomplished?
Nothing will be accomplished. But at least the veil will have been lifted. They can shake their heads and wonder how I could be such a scoundrel. Especially to such a lovely and devopted wife.
You seem pretty calm about it as your life as you knew it is ready to blow up.
My life was a mess. I needed it to blow up. I can't say that I love my gf, but I sure do like her. I feel incredibly passionate towards her. But I know that we'd never make it as a real couple. Sex is definitely the big player here.
Nothing will be accomplished. But at least the veil will have been lifted. They can shake their heads and wonder how I could be such a scoundrel. Especially to such a lovely and devopted wife.
Ah who cares?
Well, you do. Otherwise you wouldnt be posting about it.
So you are looking forward to appear to a scoundrel in front of your inlaws? How does that make sense?
My life was a mess. I needed it to blow up. I can't say that I love my gf, but I sure do like her. I feel incredibly passionate towards her. But I know that we'd never make it as a real couple. Sex is definitely the big player here.
Then it sounds like you're in a good place actually. But you should have taken the high road and divorced your wife first.
How long have you been married and how many kids?
I think you should go talk to your wife instead of us. She's probably hurting really badly right now. Is she a mean woman, your wife?
What about your finances? Did you get those in order in case she wants a divorce? If she is vengeful, you might be in a world of hurt, financially wise.
And then you have worry about a second mortgage or rent.
And then what if she dates and makes the kids call her new BF 'dad'!?
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