I've known this guy I met for almost 2 months now and we've only seen each other once. We get along great, have lots of similar interests, and etc. BUT, I feel as if he is too nice.
The first couple of weeks he was already telling me that he loved me. I told him "No, you don't love me. You just like me alot." All he'd say was that I didn't know what he felt. I told him to slow down and take it easy, we just met a couple of weeks ago. He shows me so much attention though. I'm not gonna lie, I like the attention. He tells me I'm beautiful, that he wants to be with me, he texts and calls before, during, and after work.
But sometimes, when I don't answer my phone, he'll start calling me a whole mess of times and then he'll text me and say, "I see how it is. I'm not even gonna say anything." So basically he starts jumping into conclusions saying if I don't want to be with him then let him know because he wants somebody thats going to give him importance. I was in the club once and of course I'm dancing and I look at my phone to see that he called and then I had a couple of messages from him saying that he doesn't want to be the cause that I'm not having fun and that if I don't want to be with him then to let him know, yaddi yaddi ya. I told him, ok if thats how you really want it then fine. Just think about what you want.
I do like him. I just need him to slow down. I've never gone out with a guy that I knew for such a short period of time. They've all been friends. But I am kind of interested in someone else that wanted to be with me before I ever met this guy. He even told my best friend that he envied her because she got to talk to me all day whenever she wants. He wants to be talking to me 24/7. I asked him if he had a girlfriend would he feel like he needs his space and get tired? He said no he wouldn't get tired. I told him I would because sooner or later we all need some space to miss and to be missed. He said he was lonely and he just wanted somebody to love.
Well the point is, should I keep talking to this guy or not? I like him but he kind of freaks me out when hes super nice (which is good to a point I feel). I don't want him being super nice because I feel like I will get tired of it but if he starts acting like an ass then I might miss him being nice. So it goes both ways. I know he has good intentions but I just feel like he is kind of pushing up on me a bit. I just want to get to know him talking and if I'm still interested later on, who knows.. we can get into a relationship.
The way that you write this thread, I wouldn't classify him as super nice. I'd classify him as super obsessed. He loves you? After less than two months.
Constant e-mails and phone messages. Wanting to talk to you 24/7. Borderline losing it when you don't pick up. Those are control issues. He wants to dominate your life.
Now all together LSers, can we say STALKER?
Your instinct that he's creepy is right. My advice: RUN!!!!
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No he's not a stalker, he just doesn't know how to handle the emotions of falling for someone. He seems to be just letting his heart take over and jumping in with both feet, eyes closed...Which is bad! He's not thinking at all, and probably thinks of her 24/7. Hmm, when see it written down like that, it does seem stalkerish!! LOL But I doubt he is. Just inexperience, insecure and needs to learn to trust.
I say if you like him, be as honest and patient with him as you can. Don't make him feel bad, but gently let him know it's good to miss him once in a while.
He may really love you - In the sense he loves how you make him feel. Look at it that way, maybe it won't bug you as much.
I've known this guy I met for almost 2 months now and we've only seen each other once. We get along great, have lots of similar interests, and etc. BUT, I feel as if he is too nice.
The first couple of weeks he was already telling me that he loved me. I told him "No, you don't love me. You just like me alot." All he'd say was that I didn't know what he felt. I told him to slow down and take it easy, we just met a couple of weeks ago. He shows me so much attention though. I'm not gonna lie, I like the attention. He tells me I'm beautiful, that he wants to be with me, he texts and calls before, during, and after work.
But sometimes, when I don't answer my phone, he'll start calling me a whole mess of times and then he'll text me and say, "I see how it is. I'm not even gonna say anything." So basically he starts jumping into conclusions saying if I don't want to be with him then let him know because he wants somebody thats going to give him importance. I was in the club once and of course I'm dancing and I look at my phone to see that he called and then I had a couple of messages from him saying that he doesn't want to be the cause that I'm not having fun and that if I don't want to be with him then to let him know, yaddi yaddi ya. I told him, ok if thats how you really want it then fine. Just think about what you want.
I do like him. I just need him to slow down. I've never gone out with a guy that I knew for such a short period of time. They've all been friends. But I am kind of interested in someone else that wanted to be with me before I ever met this guy. He even told my best friend that he envied her because she got to talk to me all day whenever she wants. He wants to be talking to me 24/7. I asked him if he had a girlfriend would he feel like he needs his space and get tired? He said no he wouldn't get tired. I told him I would because sooner or later we all need some space to miss and to be missed. He said he was lonely and he just wanted somebody to love.
Well the point is, should I keep talking to this guy or not? I like him but he kind of freaks me out when hes super nice (which is good to a point I feel). I don't want him being super nice because I feel like I will get tired of it but if he starts acting like an ass then I might miss him being nice. So it goes both ways. I know he has good intentions but I just feel like he is kind of pushing up on me a bit. I just want to get to know him talking and if I'm still interested later on, who knows.. we can get into a relationship.
What do ya think about this??? Let me know. Help.
He is in love. We guys fall in love pretty fast. He is probably pretty young or inexperienced. Experienced guys just bit their tongue and lock the phone in time-lock safe Meet him and get to know him...if he is OK - job, education, family, friends, integrity, life-values. He is in love with you or he is weirdo. You have to talk to him to decide. If he is in love...he will cool down a little bit, when he is in relationship. If he is weirdo you dont have to worry....he will dump you from the bridge
Really? In everything I've ever read, they said that men take a longer time to fall in love than women because they think more logically. Please explain what you mean. I'm really curious now.
Really? In everything I've ever read, they said that men take a longer time to fall in love than women because they think more logically. Please explain what you mean. I'm really curious now.
nope....women generally are the last to fall in love and the first to fall out of love in most relationships. Which explains why women leave the man 75% of the time.
Really? In everything I've ever read, they said that men take a longer time to fall in love than women because they think more logically. Please explain what you mean. I'm really curious now.
We fall in love immediately. If she is not major biatch or super wussy....she is OK. Of course there are levels of love but we dont need months to fall in love....hours more likely. Why? Because we dont mind so much about your personality.....we are the "stronger" ones so we can handle you, we are not afraid you will beat us, or rape us and we dont seek the qualities you seek unconsciously. We want pretty(healthy) mother to our children thats all. You need provider. You cant change human brain in thousand years. It is instincts.
Our interest level is based on your looks like 70%....you can add 30% by personality....mathematicaly said. You have it opposite I think.
Bizarre. Please elaborate more. What goes through a guy's head when he "falls in love" very quickly?
'Love for the first sight' is pretty common phenomea for us. I mean our interest level is based on your looks and aura(sexappeal or charisma or who knows). Interest level can sligtly improve with time and commitment or it can go down if you dont connect with us on emotional level.
To be honest guys fall in love pretty quickly or they dont fall in love at all unless of course they have initial interest like 55% (she is not a road kill) and she is extraordinary on the emotional level click. But it is very rare. More common is, that guy goes for her for lack of better options. She gives him comfort, sex etc. and he thinks 'Oh what a hell, she is not that bad and she loves me.'
Sounds like he could turn into a real weirdo. Not saying he is or will, but the possibility is there. If you don't like the way he is acting now, end it now!
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Meet him and get to know him...if he is OK - job, education, family, friends, integrity, life-values. He is in love with you or he is weirdo. You have to talk to him to decide. If he is in love...he will cool down a little bit, when he is in relationship. If he is weirdo you dont have to worry....he will dump you from the bridge
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