[fooled once]

I will admit to being naive before coming to LS.

I thought there was only 1 kind of OW; the kind who starts dating a MM because he has told her he is unfulfilled in his marriage.

Most OW make a choice to either stay and continue the affair or they decide they want a life for themselves and aren't going to wait around for years while he dangles "the future" in front of her.

But after reading on here, I have come to understand that there are other types of OW.

One being a woman who purposefully decides to ONLY date MM and seeks out those 'relationships' vs dating single men.

Then there are those OW who decide, as much as they love this man, they are NOT going to date him while married and make this known UP FRONT. And they end the affair. Some 'get the guy' in the end because he realizes how much he loves her and ends his marriage to be with her and chooses to not disrespect her by continuing the relationship when he isn't 'free' to be with her.

Is that it? Are those the basic 3 types of OW? I will admit that until coming here, I really had no idea that there were women who only dated MM. Is that more common than the 'normal' OW?

What type of OW are/were you?

I was the 'normal' one. I started dating a man who was married, he told me he was in a miserable, unhappy marriage. Within 2 months of meeting, he moved out and lived in an apartment for a year. He didn't leave for me. I believe he left to prove a point to his wife. After a year, he moved back in with her, all the while telling me it was just for show, he loved me, he wanted a life with me, etc. After a year of this, I decided I wanted more and needed more and started dating. He stayed and moved away a few months later with his wife. I guess they are still together, I have no idea.