The best for a man to get his wife to care again is to never beg and never cry. He needs to always show her that he can be happy without her and that he will get on with his life. Once a woman sees that a man can live a happy life without her her respect for him will increase and respect is the most important thing in a relationship. If she doesn't respect you it is over and women do not respect a crying puppy. Trust me it worked for me. If I wanted my ex wife back she was putty in my hands but it was over.
Well, I guess I see your point but whether I agree that the BEST way to save a marriage is for the husband to never beg and cry is another story...no, the BEST way for a husband to save a marriage is to LISTEN to his wife. To really listen to what her needs are...just as SHE should listen to her husband. But don't just listen...take heed and ACT. Make changes. Meet each other in the middle. Each person should give to the other. Do it when you don't want to and then it will really mean something.
I guess my point here is that I can think of a zillion other things more important in saving a marriage than "don't beg or cry." If it gets to THAT point, it's probably too late anyway. See what I mean?
After my divorce I was very successful in my career and made a ton of money with stocks. I was living my life to it's fullest and all of sudden the woman who cheated because she felt trapped was now begging me to take her back. She wanted the life I was living and was attracted to what I had become.
Where is the giant yawning smiley when I need him??
All I will say is this- and .
The way to save a marriage is to never let it get in trouble in the first place. Communication and meeting each others needs. On both sides of the fence.
I agree - these posts and threads are getting mightily old.
I dunno... I *thought* Woggle was doing better now that he found a *good* woman but it seems quite obvious that the anger and resentment are still there. Sorta like he shined himself up a bit but now he's becoming tarnished again.
Guess the *honeymoon phase* is over...
You've got to keep up SmoochieFace, she's not a good woman, he just hates her a lot less than all other women.
You've got to keep up SmoochieFace, she's not a good woman, he just hates her a lot less than all other women.
Ah, I see...
Maybe, just MAYBE... Woggle reeeaaallly just hates himself. Someone with all that anger and resentment wouldn't come across as an individual who truly likes himself, right?
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I dunno about the rest of you but I think if everyone in the world had an orgasm at the same time we would achieve world peace.
After my divorce I was very successful in my career and made a ton of money with stocks. I was living my life to it's fullest and all of sudden the woman who cheated because she felt trapped was now begging me to take her back. She wanted the life I was living and was attracted to what I had become.
What this tells me is that you were the opposite before your divorce. So she may have been living with a shell of a man who only took up space. She found you attractive after you started doing something.
Now let's see. Who should we believe when it comes to advice on marriages and 'how to save them'? People like Willard Harley and John Gottman with professional degrees, who have worked in marriage counselling, and who have a long track record of helping couples have successful marriages or several bitter, jaded divorces on a love advice board who remain unmarried? Hmm. That's a tough one.
because when i discussed the problems i had with our relationship, he copped that 'confident' attitude you extol.
I figured that if I was so replaceable, then he really didn't care about me, so i broke up with him. When he called me two days later wanting me back, it was too late. THe damage was done.
What you don't want is to shed your gender role and become a whining sniveling little maggot who crawls on his belly. A pet who licks boots for attention. A wailing Nancy who needs to be dressed in skirts. Though you are well deserving of the pity you'll recieve while acting like this, it's not the kind of attention you want from your mate or potential mate.
False, ridiculous dichotomy. Being caring, showing affection, and being open is not the same thing as being a 'whining sniveling little maggot'. I run VERY FAST from men who equate the two. People who only see the world in blacks and whites and cannot comprehend nuance and balance scare the bejabbers out of me.
The best for a man to get his wife to care again is to never beg and never cry. He needs to always show her that he can be happy without her and that he will get on with his life. Once a woman sees that a man can live a happy life without her her respect for him will increase and respect is the most important thing in a relationship. If she doesn't respect you it is over and women do not respect a crying puppy. Trust me it worked for me. If I wanted my ex wife back she was putty in my hands but it was over.
Y'all probably think this is BS bravado, but it's not. Confidence is one of the main traits women find attractive. Acting like this radiates it like a furnace! There is no argument that will convince me otherwise on this opinion. I've lived both sides and know what works. Nobody is saying that this is the only thing to do. It's just one of the things men can do to make themselves more attractive.
Men are being goaded into believing that women want a sensitive man that is in touch with his emotions. To most men, they think this means opening up and confiding in fears and hurts, crying, etc. The simple fact of the matter is that although women may feel sympathy and empathy for this kind of behavior, they will not find it sexually appealling at all. Their interest in men like this will invariably wane over time.
Guys, you don't want to stimulate women's maternal instincts for you. You want to stimulate........."other"............instincts. If you know what I mean.
Y'all probably think this is BS bravado, but it's not. Confidence is one of the main traits women find attractive. Acting like this radiates it like a furnace! There is no argument that will convince me otherwise on this opinion. I've lived both sides and know what works. Nobody is saying that this is the only thing to do. It's just one of the things men can do to make themselves more attractive.
Men are being goaded into believing that women want a sensitive man that is in touch with his emotions. To most men, they think this means opening up and confiding in fears and hurts, crying, etc. The simple fact of the matter is that although women may feel sympathy and empathy for this kind of behavior, they will not find it sexually appealling at all. Their interest in men like this will invariably wane over time.
Guys, you don't want to stimulate women's maternal instincts for you. You want to stimulate........."other"............instincts. If you know what I mean.
It's not BS. I mean it and I live it. It has worked wonders for me.
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