Revenge???

will_woman · 3rd May 2005, 4:22 AM

Have anyone taken revenge on their cheating spouse?

I really feel like taking revenge on my cheating husband when I recalled how badly he treated me...how he cheated on me....breaking my heart into pieces.

We have been separated since end 2003. He is refusing to come together for a divorce. I am taking the legal actions soon. Just a few months ago, I realised that he replaced our assets with a new one by lying about my authorisation to a club. The transaction went through and the new asset is under his and gf names.
I really feel like reporting to police and getting him into trouble.....as his profession hold high integrity.

How say you guys????

LucreziaBorgia · 3rd May 2005, 9:07 AM

If it would make you feel better, you can report him. He did, after all do something apparently illegal. I don't know that much will come of it though. You never know, though...

will_woman · 11th May 2005, 6:14 AM

My friends have told me not to waste time on revenge....he will face the consequences later..
Now, my ex-husband-to be is keeping quiet about the divorce.
My lawyer asked if he will petition as we will be servicing it soon. He did not reply.
(Because he is in another country and i have to find ways to serve him the petition)
Gosh.....really a coward...

I just don't understand why he is hiding from divorce while he is still with the woman and changed my assets. Is he taking this as a form of revenge on me?

dgiirl · 11th May 2005, 8:55 AM

Hey willwoman

Sorry to see you're going through this

There was another thread yesterday about revenge
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/show...threadid=62414

It might give you a little more insight. I dont recommend revenge, and you can see my reasoning in the other post. However, in your particular case, i think you're more than entitled to protect yourself. If your husband is buying stuff under your name, you _have_ to protect yourself. You definitely dont want to get stuck with any of his debts.

Good luck

moimeme · 11th May 2005, 11:13 AM

I agree. This isn't a matter of revenge. It's a matter of stopping him from sucking your assets away. You are entitled to that and he's committing a crime. Report him.

ready2moveon26 · 12th May 2005, 12:52 AM

Do it!...I've passed up the chance to report my ex several times and regret it...he continues to try and walk all over me...I say report him!

XNemesisX · 12th May 2005, 1:38 AM

It's not a matter of revenge, it's doing what is right for YOU.

I am still considering taking my ex to small claims court for the thousands of dollars he owes me. (looong story). I guess I have just been too busy to think about it the past few months, but now I am going to look into it. I don't see it as necessarily being revenge on him, but more like finally standing up to The Bytch and not letting him walk over me even more than he did while we were together. Why should I let him get away with being a big mooch and sucking all this money out of me then leaving? I don't think so!

RecordProducer · 12th May 2005, 2:16 AM

Think twice before you do anything. The rage is not a good advisor. You might lose much more if you turn him against you and gain more if you're kind to him. You're separated so your love is over. Move on! No matter how hard it is, we need to accept that we don't possess anyone.
His deed is immoral and illegal so you have a subject to discuss with him. Report him only if he cannot cause any harm to you whatsoever. But if you're a small dog, don't bark or bite!

will_woman · 12th May 2005, 4:55 AM

My lawyer will file the divorce petition based on his unreasonable behviour.
And in the affidavit to support the divorce, i mention that he replaced my name with his new girlfriend's name on the travel membership (that was the asset i was talking about) without my knowledge and consent. I will fight it out in the court as it was part of the matrinonial asset. I guess the court will look into the matrimonial assets and allocate accordingly.

Actually i am pondering between reporting him to the police and leave things as they are. To me, this man has already turned lunatic with no senses....an accounant committing such offence. He knows where i stay and I am not sure if he will cause me any harm if i report him to the police.

My friends are saying that i cannot let go and keep thinking of revenge. No good for me!!!

ready2moveon26 · 12th May 2005, 10:30 AM

I'd at least file a report so you have that in court with your lawyer to deal with his lawyer or the judge. It needs to be reported. You can say at that time you don't want to file charges, but want it reported. This can really mess up your credit if him and his girlfriend are anything like my ex and his girlfriend. My ex got a credit card in his brothers name and charged it up. His brother has filed a report so he isn't responsible for the charges. If nothing comes of it, then you should demand that you get half of the perks that go along with membership since you were used to obtain it. I don't think this is revenge, I think it is a matter of identity theft. The matter of being scared that he'll harm you, I know how you feel there too. I was staying at my ex's dad's house one night because of the weather and I was REALLY scared that he'd see my car there and do something to harm us. We heard a noise late that night while watching movies and I was freaked out that it was him. It turned out that it was just a cat, but I never really realized how afraid of him I was. He is a person that will do whatever necessary to make himself feel good without thinking of the outcomes. I'd do whatever necessary to protect myself and if this means reporting him and making a comment that you are scared, then do it!

moimeme · 12th May 2005, 11:19 AM

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I don't think this is revenge, I think it is a matter of identity theft.

Exactly. If your financial future is in danger because of this, then you must do something about it. It's not about 'being kind', it's about looking out for your own best interests. This would certainly be a case that 'being kind' is actually allowing yourself to lie down and get walked all over.

scarlyjones · 12th May 2005, 1:06 PM

Yeah,...........revenge may feel pretty damn good now,...but it will haunt your future.

moimeme · 13th May 2005, 3:24 AM

It isn't revenge if he's committing some sort of economic crime using her info.

HotCaliGirl · 13th May 2005, 4:16 AM

I would call the travel agency and report that he removed your name and illegally replaced it with another woman's - that the membership was purchased for and belongs to you but someone else is illegally using it.

They might cancel hers and reissue a new card with your name for you. That is theft - stealing plain and simple. Why should society let anyone get away with a crime, especially if it is committed against YOU and there are steps you can take for it?

I would for sure 100% call the police and file a report on both of them. She is just as wrong, if not more at fault since she is the one using your membership under her name, even if it was your husband's idea and he had it changed for her.

He's in another country right now anyways as far as your concerns for safety are concerned, but in court it will come handy, as evidence. If you bring it up in court and the judge asks for a report and you say you never filed it, then it will look like it never meant anything to you and all of a sudden you are thinking and digging up stuff to "get" him.

Also, he would be dumb to harm you because fingers could easily be pointed to him for having a motive. Don't be scared. Do the right thing and protect yourself. This is not revenge but as others have said, looking after yourself. If you don't look after yourself, nobody else is going to pop into your life and do it for you.