Greg1972 Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 My situation I am a married man that has been in an affair for the last few years. The other woman and I have a really good relationship. I have no intentions of leaving my wife and I have always been honest with the OW about this. A few weeks ago, the OW gave me a catalog with circles around things she would want for valentines day. It was not anything unusual besides that all of the items that she wants was much more expensive than she usually asks for. A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. It doesn't bother me that she wants something nice as she has good taste. I am kind of worried this might be a sign she wants more than I can give her. Should I be concerned? Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Dude you should be worried that this isn't blackmail. .. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Dear Captain of HMS Titanic, Since the collision of this fine vessel with the ice berg approx an hour ago, I have noticed that the sink in my stateroom has been slow to drain causing a most distasteful ring of discoloration around the rim of said sink. Could this be sign that there is a problem with the ship's plumbing system? Should I be concerned? 20 Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Heh heh. Just wait until next Christmas, when she gives you a catalog from a pleasure cruise line with all the cruises she wants to take circled... No problem, right? Just tell your wife that we cant go on the family vacation this year because, er, because, I need the money to pay off my mistress who is blackmailing me so you don't find out you are married to a guy who has been cheating on you for many years now... you understand, right, hunny bunny? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Dude you should be worried that this isn't blackmail. .. Have a Feeling, it is already blackmail. If you don't fork up, she might expose. She has you by the ball$. Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Come on man... You know you have to pay the side girl something don't you. I mean you did not think that your prowess if bed was going to keep her happy forever, did you? You are becoming a sugar daddy!!! You have got to be kidding. You better keep her happy or she will be telling your wife. That will really cost you some money....... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
MidnightBlue1980 Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 My situation I am a married man that has been in an affair for the last few years. The other woman and I have a really good relationship. I have no intentions of leaving my wife and I have always been honest with the OW about this. A few weeks ago, the OW gave me a catalog with circles around things she would want for valentines day. It was not anything unusual besides that all of the items that she wants was much more expensive than she usually asks for. A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. It doesn't bother me that she wants something nice as she has good taste. I am kind of worried this might be a sign she wants more than I can give her. Should I be concerned? Most OW cannot remain in an A as we basically get attached and want to be with the other person, and blow it up. You may have met the rare bird but she will want gifts, champagne, the Four Seasons. I would think a canary diamond for her right hand. All I got was a few pints of beer. Definitely get her the diamond or maybe a really expensive purse. Or a spa weekend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HeCantBreakMe Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Doesn't sound like she wants more from the relationship .. sounds like this girl has it all figured out lol. Better start working overtime you got champagne taste on your hands now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 When you play, you pay... one way or another. Link to post Share on other sites
deadsoul Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 My situation I am a married man that has been in an affair for the last few years. The other woman and I have a really good relationship. I have no intentions of leaving my wife and I have always been honest with the OW about this. A few weeks ago, the OW gave me a catalog with circles around things she would want for valentines day. It was not anything unusual besides that all of the items that she wants was much more expensive than she usually asks for. A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. It doesn't bother me that she wants something nice as she has good taste. I am kind of worried this might be a sign she wants more than I can give her. Should I be concerned? Yes. You should be very concerned. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 I'm sure her gift is cheaper than a divorce. But her anything she wants - you owe her. Buy your wife anything she wants too, you owe her more. Why any man would want to try and keep two women happy is beyond me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 First name Sugar, last name Daddy. Is the sex worth it? Make sure you pay cash so your wife doesn't catch you! Link to post Share on other sites
DAO Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 My situation I am a married man that has been in an affair for the last few years. The other woman and I have a really good relationship. I have no intentions of leaving my wife and I have always been honest with the OW about this. A few weeks ago, the OW gave me a catalog with circles around things she would want for valentines day. It was not anything unusual besides that all of the items that she wants was much more expensive than she usually asks for. A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. It doesn't bother me that she wants something nice as she has good taste. I am kind of worried this might be a sign she wants more than I can give her. Should I be concerned? Unbelievable :rolleyes: I think you should ask your wife for the advice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. Pretty sure the Mafia works the same way. First one is free, price goes up quickly from there... Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 You could go through your wifes jewelry and pick out some stuff she doesn't wear anymore and give that to her. Very economical. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 You need a woman's advice. Ask your wife. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 You could go through your wifes jewelry and pick out some stuff she doesn't wear anymore and give that to her. Very economical. "Oh how I luv my thrifty husband!" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spideywoman Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 As a fOW who never asked for anything material, yes, you should be very concerned. Her expectations are not commensurate with yours in any way, regardless how clear you have been with your intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Sometimes I really love this forum. You asked and have a plethora of answers. Some of them have me laughing my butt off. But if you look at them. .. How many of them say don't worry about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Wow! This is why I've been a monogamous one woman man. As they say ' No man can please two masters' and if the masters are mistresses in actual fact the level of difficulty increases many fold. By the way is she giving you a return gift? Should be the same in value as to what she expects from you. Is she married or single? If married maybe her husband is not giving her anything that being the reason she wants something costly from you. You just have to figure this one out on your own. Happy Days! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PickledHead Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 I'm going to go slightly against the grain here as I'm not so sure it's a sinister as buy me this or I blab!! What kind of cost are the presents? Reason I ask is if you usuall pay 10 and she has seen something she really likes at 50 then it's not quite the same a a 200 to 1k jump. Also if the gifts you usually get are of a high cost maybe you have set a precedent.. maybe it's just something she really likes and if she knows you can afford it then why not ask. What's your reason for not wanting to get it... tell her the reason and see what her response is i think it ultimately comes down to how your relationship is. After a few years I would presume that you know this woman well.. do you object to her dating other people? People who are in a position for her to celebrate Valentine's Day with properly? If, as I imagine it would be,its more the case that you want her exclusively to you whilst you are not exclusive to her then she maybe she feels she should be treated and this is her way! On the flip side... yes you should be concerned! Not because she has actually asked for the gift but because you have had to ask the question! If you don't know her well enough to know if you should be concerned... then I suspect you should be Link to post Share on other sites
Furious Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 My situation I am a married man that has been in an affair for the last few years. The other woman and I have a really good relationship. I have no intentions of leaving my wife and I have always been honest with the OW about this. A few weeks ago, the OW gave me a catalog with circles around things she would want for valentines day. It was not anything unusual besides that all of the items that she wants was much more expensive than she usually asks for. A lot more expensive, more than 5 times more expensive than usual presents. It doesn't bother me that she wants something nice as she has good taste. I am kind of worried this might be a sign she wants more than I can give her. Should I be concerned? Shocking that the gift price has gone up. You have a good reason to be concerned that your awesomeness isn't enough for her and she is asking for gifts five times more expensive than usual presents. It must hurt your ego and wallet that cheating inflation has gone up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Greg1972 Posted February 20, 2017 Author Share Posted February 20, 2017 Dear Captain of HMS Titanic, Since the collision of this fine vessel with the ice berg approx an hour ago, I have noticed that the sink in my stateroom has been slow to drain causing a most distasteful ring of discoloration around the rim of said sink. Could this be sign that there is a problem with the ship's plumbing system? Should I be concerned? People survived the titanic. Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Why not ask her? Link to post Share on other sites
Betrayed&Stayed Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 People survived the titanic. Yes, but only the very wealthy ones survived so I think the analogy is spot on. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
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