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Old 2nd January 2018, 11:57 AM   #46
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Again OP, why can't you have a female friend instead of relying on another man?
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Old 5th January 2018, 12:31 AM   #47
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Hi Folks, to me it appears there are two possibilities here. One is, as Sandy has pointed out, that the husband is giving subtle hints to the OP to 'get' with this guy friend of hers. In other words he wants her to become a 'Hotwife'. The other possibility is that he has more or less checked out of the marriage and is probably having or is on the verge of having an affair himself. His wife getting involved with another guy would be the perfect foil for him. As it is the OP has said that her marriage is NOT strong. That by it self is a big Red Flag in the context of all the other things that are going on in her life.

Dovebrandy, can you please expand on your statement saying both your marriages are not very strong? Why would you say that about your own marriage? Has there been infidelity in your marriage in the past? Currently, you seem to have a happy go lucky relationship with your husband, hardly the reason for you to say that your marriage is not strong. What about the emotional bond between you and your husband? Is it strong, so so or tenuous? Is it a 'I love you but I'm not in love with you' situation? I think you need to answer these questions for yourself if not for the folks on here trying to give you perspectives on your situation. The fact is, whichever way you look at it, you have a situation which is ready to snowball into a very inappropriate one very soon. If you are the kind of person who would be happy or at least unaffected by this situation then by all means keep on going on. If at all, your sense of ethics would be severely compromised by such a situation, then it is time for you to get off the rollercoaster you are on because that is what it is. As you continue, you will be drawn in deeper into the morass of an emotional and most likely a physical affair, sooner rather than later. Warm wishes.
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