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Old 6th October 2004, 10:53 AM   #1
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Love showing off wife

I love knowing that other men are looking at and desiring my wife. She knows this and basically puts up with it and maybe even enjoys it a little bit (dressing sexy in public, etc.).

However, my problem is that I've taken it to a new level, showing digital pics of my wife in swimsuits and lingerie to others in chat rooms using a web cam. Obviously, she would probably be really angry to find this out.

What's my problem? Let me have it.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:04 AM   #2
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Your problem is that you are secretly doing something that you know your wife wouldn't approve of.

Bad hubby.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:11 AM   #3
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I love knowing that other men are looking at and desiring my wife. She knows this and basically puts up with it and maybe even enjoys it a little bit (dressing sexy in public, etc.).

However, my problem is that I've taken it to a new level, showing digital pics of my wife in swimsuits and lingerie to others in chat rooms using a web cam. Obviously, she would probably be really angry to find this out.

What's my problem? Let me have it.
Whats up pimp mac daddy?!

Seriously.. while it's all good that you think your wife is attractive, and you like it that other men desire her..

It ISN'T okay to be showing her photos or images without her knowledge or permission to ANYONE.

It's dishonest, sneaky.. and well really pretty crappy of you to do this. My boyfriend has photos of me, that I would not want other people to be viewing.. and omg If I found out he was.. I would be pissed!
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:14 AM   #4
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However, my problem is that I've taken it to a new level, showing digital pics of my wife in swimsuits and lingerie to others in chat rooms using a web cam
So at least you just showed them the pics via webcam...but they don't have the actual pics? At least you showed some sense.

I think you should either stop doing this or talk to your wife about it (and the sooner, the better).

If there are not pics of her circulating on the internet, and if the guys you showed them don't know anything about you(your name, where you live in) she might not get *that* angry if you tell her.

The more you wait, the more pissed she'll be. If she finds out on her own.....well, you can figure it out how upset she'll be.

There are quite a lot of people who like to show off their partner. It is an innocuous fetish if the partner is okay with it.

I don't think that the fact that you like other men to drool over your wife is a problem, unless of course it is the only thing that turns you on and you have otherwise lost interest in her and in making love with her.

But you *do* have a problem, and it is a big one: you showed pics of her in lingerie to strangers without asking her permission. I suggest you come clean as soon as possible.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:16 AM   #5
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Dude, you are treating her like a trophy. One thing to be proud of how she takes care of herself and looks, but it's another to show her what is private between you two, to others.

You are going way too far. My wife gets hit on & gets alot of looks when we go out. I'm extremely proud to have her on my arm, but I would never even think of doing such things as you are. What is this going to accomplish? This is dangerous. You can get some sicko who finds her very hot, and might get ideas in his head. All this is to you is an ego boost. She is not there for that!

Show her respect and love. I hope you don't treat like that all the time. If you were smart, you'd stay off those chat rooms, delete those pics and hope she never finds out.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:21 AM   #6
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i think it depends on whether or not she took these pictures exclusively for you or not. aaand it also depends on how big her ego is.

i have a friend who is very attractive and loves it when people take notice of her. if her husband was showing off her pictures to people, She would love it and think it was sweet. However, she loves attention of any kind. she doesnt care how she gets it. If your wife is one of those people, then she might think it is nice that you want to show her off.

If it were me.. i would be mad. because i only like to be sexy for my boyfriend. and i get really embarssed when others see me that way.


but regardless.. i wouldnt do it again until i know how she feels about it.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:23 AM   #7
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Unfortunately, I have e-mailed a some of the actual images out to others and even a few of her topless in "trades" for pics of other guys' wives. Also, I have been told that people can save images from their web cams, although they're not very high quality. I'm trying to stop doing this, but I think the damage may be done. Her pics are probably already being passed around in the "Wife pics" rooms on yahoo.

I think it is an ego boost to have others tell me my wife is sexy, but I also get very aroused when they talk about her body, what they'd like to do to her, etc.

This hasn't halted any of my normal desires for her, however.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:26 AM   #8
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Yes, these were pics she and I took in our bedroom a couple of years ago.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:34 AM   #9
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No, my wife is very modest. She is a devout Catholic and works at a church. I do think she likes being noticed in real life (don't most women?), but letting others see her pics would probably horrify her. That's why it's not very easy to come clean.
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Old 6th October 2004, 11:49 AM   #10
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However, my problem is that I've taken it to a new level, showing digital pics of my wife in swimsuits and lingerie to others in chat rooms using a web cam. Obviously, she would probably be really angry to find this out.

What's my problem? Let me have it.


Yeah I'd be P*SSED if my husband did that to me. I wouldn't want to be YOU when she finds out. I'd tell her what you've been up to before she finds out from someone...Cuz somehow, one day, someone will forward her the link via email and when she sees it, man....You're gonna be deadmeat buddy!!

There's a HUGE difference with flirting in public and loving some attention but what you are doing is a whole 'nother ballgame...YOU know too, otherwise ya wouldn't be here!

Good luck and get the blankets/pillows ready for that couch!
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Old 6th October 2004, 1:44 PM   #11
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What's my problem? Let me have it.
You have no respect for your wife....at least that's how I'd feel if it were my husband, let's hope she feels differently and please stop till you tell her and get her permission.....(hide the scissors in case she feels like I do! Snip, snip! )

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Old 6th October 2004, 2:24 PM   #12
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Does it bother you that she is modest?

Do you feel like you have some power over her - letting her pics out secretly? You know it would hurt her- yet you do it anyway- That's not only disrespectful- but a form of abuse in my book. It seems more about secret intimidation than secret admiration.

You need to come clean- and you may need therapy. Are you controlling in any other areas of your relationship? Or do you feel she is overly dominating?
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Old 6th October 2004, 4:03 PM   #13
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Truth is, I have absolutely nothing against her at think very highly of her in every way. I think we have a great relationship in every other aspect, with the exception of my little secret bahavior. I am anything but controlling.

One person suggested to me that I'm still angry about her cheating on me 10 years ago before we were married. However, I don't think that is an issue any longer.

There is just a group of us who enjoy seeing pictures of sexy wives and enjoy them much more than the professional porn you find everywhere. I wouldn't even consider stopping if I wasn't worried that I'd get caught.

Is stopping good enough? Does their need to be a confession?
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Old 6th October 2004, 4:09 PM   #14
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Dude.. you realize that those pics you got in return are probably some porn pics these guys got from websites? I highly doubt they are their own wives.

Don't do anything that would disrespect her, or something that would make her uncomfortable. You have to decide what is more important to you. Your ego or your wife.

As for webcam capturing, very easy to do. While you are viewing the cam just hit "Alt + Print Screen", then go into a photo program and click "Copy - Paste". Just because it's not a picture doesn't mean it can't be captured.
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Old 6th October 2004, 4:16 PM   #15
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Yeah just been reading what others have replied here...The more I read the more p*ssed off I'm getting!!

JUST STOP and tell her. You have to, be a real man and own up to this horrible mistake cuz otherwise IT WILL come and bite ya in the *ass bigtime!!!
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